It is not like I am against pornography, I just feel like every time I glance over at his computer screen, he is scoping out (hetero) porn. We have been married 5 months and have no children. I try to open myself up once and awhile to sharing with him and the porn, but it just seems constant. Not to completely over-share, but I am always feeling (and expressing to him) that I want sex. He says that he is too tired or doesn't have time rather frequently. Any thoughts I will consider helpful.
2007-11-27 13:45:08 · 11 answers · asked by Misa K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is an addiction if it's taking over his time for normal everyday activities. And there's a huge red flag if he prefers it to having sex with you. My bf just broke up with me because he has a femdom/leather/wanting domination all the time addiction, and he has to get help without me. He was wanting it ALL the time and realized that it interfered with his life.
2007-11-27 14:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should call up all your girlfriends the next time there are some male strippers in town and go out and enjoy yourself.30 years old and more interested in the porn than a nice young and interested wife sounds pretty bad to me. Maybe you should bail out before it gets to 6 monthes. At least do some serious thinking and get your ducks in a row, if he won't turn off his porn and talk to you tell him to enjoy his porn and head for the hills! Whaddya got to lose?
2007-11-27 21:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there. I just got out of a nasty 7 year relationship with a guy who was a sex/porn/strip club addict. I know how you feel. TRUST ME.
I don't know you (obviously) but from my own experience, if he doesn't WANT to change the behavior, he WON'T change. I tried couple's therapy, pleading with his parents and siblings for help, I kicked him out and HE CONTINUED THE SAME BEHAVIOR. I broke up with him last month and never looked back. I feel relief now. I am so sorry that this is happening. The fact that he is constantly looking at porn HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. You have to remember that. i know it's hard to understand. But in therapy, I was told over and over and over again that he is "doing this to himself and this has nothing to do with you."
I hope things work out.
2007-11-27 23:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a problem-- maybe he isn't turned on or excited by you. I'm not trying to insult you here but if you want sex and he'd rather look at porn then do the real deed then there's something going on.
Maybe you need to spicen things up a bit; try role playing, involve sexual toys, and involve sweets in the sex (like strawberries, syrups, and creams).
2007-11-27 21:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cut the internet off for awhile because he watching dirty stuff on the computer!Also do you know he could meet people online to have sex with them!He is addicted to porn and needs to get help!He might be cheating on you!You deserved better and maybe you tell your husband to stop his porn or you will leave him!
2007-11-28 10:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by wifeyandmom4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the porn goes or you do, get rid of the internet and the porn will be gone, just check for magazines around the house.
2007-11-27 22:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, he might be eyeing the men in the hetero porn in an attempt to throw you off track.
2007-11-27 21:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has time for porn but is not interested in sex with you ---- yep that is one of the big signs of porn addiction
2007-11-27 21:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its an addiction. It will get worse. After a while, looking wont be enough.
2007-11-27 22:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by CrossTwnTraffic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a firm grip, lead him to the room, and dominate...
2007-11-27 21:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋