why the husbands decrease making love after married?

Question

the sexual intercourse getting less than the first time of marrage...so that makes the wife confused..(why he didnt love sex as much as before)...etc

Answer 1

This answer may sound flippant, but look at the deeper meaning......Do you like doing the same thing over and over and over? It gets a little boring after awhile.

Seriously though, men do tend to slow down after they have accomplished their goal and start looking around for a new one. This can even be true in marriages. to keep him interested in you it is necessary to change things around to make it more interesting for him. Sex like anything else needs variety a change. Make him wonder what is going to happen next. for instance meet him one day dressed in nothing but Saran Wrap and a big red bow. the next like a teen school girl. the next a nurse and then maybe a hooker. By doing these things you keep him wondering what you are going to do next. and don't make sex the same either. Do different things different positions, explore new avenues you haven't done or done much.

You may also explore the possibilities of an open marriage, or a swingers club. there are many possibilities you just need to do them and find what trips his trigger and makes him want to have more sex with you.

Answer 2

My question is this. Why do married woman change after they get married. ( I am a woman by the way) The sex usually decreases because of a few things. 1.) both partners feel that they have already achieved the ultimate goal (marriage) so why bother working at it any longer
2.) When you are dating you always try to put your best foot forward. Show your good side, get dressed up etc. When you get married all of that goes to the side and you become the person that you really are. Sometimes people fall in love with the idea of falling in love and they don't take the time to get to know the real person with all of their flaws
3.) Getting married is stressful. If you haven't lived with your new husband or wife you are learning things about eachother now that you may not have known before and things that you may not like. You are learning to work as a couple instead of a single person.
All of these things and so many more can decrease love making.

Answer 3

Man is not like a machine as long as there is gas it will run no matter how long but depends on the consumption of gas where it lasts.

Man is human and needs many things to condition his mind, his physical and emotional being to continue his performances. Because he is only human, the first time to do a job as he had full of excitements and thrills, like lovemaking to a new partner, his work is probably very good. As times used for a repitations for many years, his emotional lusts for his long time partner will declines. Now, he is similar to a new machine that after years it tears, his performances depreciated year after year until he will not more functioning.

Sex is similar to food to them. If they were used to eat the same recipe for years, their taste to the food sound no good but a new variety of recipe is better and they can eat more of it.

Many factors that affected his performances such as physically; As his age is advancing year after years, his physical condition is deteriorating so his performances declines. The supreme age of man that he can perform at its ultimate peak is when he has the aged between 18 up to 28 years old, where sex he can be able to perform even up to 8 rounds a day for 7 days a week for 1- 2 years of his married life if sex is for his long time partner. If you try to let him have sex for a new partner on this age, he can perform at least once depending on his physical and mental capability because you would not be aroused with out the help of your mind. Mind is the greatest aphrodisiac.

As his age goes advances year after year then his performances declines at lower and lower until such time when he is old enough he is used not able to function physically and rather he sleep the night without sex through the rest of his life.

When a husband is over the age of 28 and he's performance is below par during his prime age but he is like an old man, then maybe he has facing some emotional & physical problem due to over work. Problems affecting his prowess including financial matter also affecting him that stresses causes his performances.

Therefore, Man needs to have physically fitness by having regular daily excercises to maintain his body; maintaining a good and balanced diet and avoid obessity or diabetic, he should maintain no emotional problem to affecting him mentally. He should have enough rest after work and he should have stable financialy to avoid any kind of problems emotionally. He should be understood by his wife not to make him worried that leading him more mental stresses.

Answer 4

He went most of his life without. When he got married he was hungry like he never tasted food before. Now he is not starving.

It may feel like he doesn't want you, or doesn't think you are beautiful, or has achieved his conquest, but thats not always the case. Sometimes he settles into a reasonable level that he can sustain for the rest of his life.

Answer 5

I can't answer that, but I know my wife has spent 11 years being less and less interested. It started once she got the ring. I am lucky to get it once or twice a month.

Answer 6

Lack of interest with you?
I can't relate since our sex drives are still high as ever. Even with me being 6 months pregnant, we get our daily dose of loving.

Answer 7

So do women , that's when the not tonight honey I have a headache stuff starts. You just have to try new things to keep it spicy.

Answer 8

It could be a number of things that could be weighing on his mind, talk with him about this, and maybe try something sexy. Maybe have a weekend to yourselves if you have kids. I hope this helps!

Answer 9

Try new things and get the spark back and try asking him what he is in too now. Hopefully that will help you out.

Answer 10

Could be any number of things...high on the list is stress.