Marriage & Divorce - 27 November 2007

So my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. We haven't really been that happy for the last year but mostly because we've moved to a new area and have no friends so we were stuck with each other. I've realized through this break up how awful we were to each other for the last year, but I also realize I that I still love him. I tried to break up with him a few times but he always begged me to stay. This is the first time he has broken up with me. I was and still am a mess. I begged him to come back and he refused saying he really needed to find out who he was and he needed to be happy with himself before he can be happy with me. We've talked pretty much everyday since the break up. I dont know what to do because when I see him, it hurts all over again knowing I cant be with him, but I dont want to lose him. Should I stop talking to him for a few weeks? Should I try to be his friend even though its going to be really hard for me? I'm so confused and hurt.

2007-11-27 09:18:51 · 19 answers · asked by Firefly 2

Does that mean anything? Is that him getting it out there so I can get the hint he is thinking of askig to marry me?

My boyfriend will bring it up sometime out of the blue when we are together and kids.

He is in the Military, and he knows that I was looking for a serious relationship when we first met so he's aware of what I want.

I had mentioned recentley that I was in love with him and he didn't want to talk about through IM he said he wanted to talk about it when we are together.

So what do you think people?

2007-11-27 09:15:34 · 10 answers · asked by Sweetest One 1

I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we are very happy. We are moving in together in May and always talk about our future and how we would like to get married. But lately I have felt more strongly about it. All my friends are getting married and I feel like I'm the last one out. Yet I can't seem to find a reason why he won't purpose. I feel in my heart that its the right time and I want to get married. And he says he does too. So why am I still just a girlfriend??? Please help!

2007-11-27 09:15:04 · 20 answers · asked by wanted_sparkels 1

the problem is that my ex bf father of my kids his family still likes me the kids 4 of them call me auntie my ex's sister likes me to vist her the mom talks to me the brother and dad as well i went to their house with my kids on thanksgiving and had dinner with them the problem is that my bf says that its not right to be going over their house and spending time with them he said it's ok to let my kids see them but for me not to visit them.. should i listen to my bf or should i not???

2007-11-27 09:14:56 · 14 answers · asked by valrietorres 2

I am in the middle of a nasty divorce and I have asked my parents and my four brothers on more than one occastion to stop inviting my soon to be ex-husband and his mother to family functions. They still are doing this. Actually this past weekend 2 of my brothers actually called him to hang out with him and have all the kids get together and my parents actually took my ex mother in law out to dinner. This is a man that cheated on me as well as laid his hands on me. I guess I feel like my family doesn't care about how I feel about this at all.

I feel like telling them I will not be at the annual Christmas dinner with the family this year. I feel this way because I don't feel like my family cares about me at all. What do you think?

2007-11-27 09:13:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-27 09:10:33 · 7 answers · asked by Man About to Marry 1

Picture this at a party:

Husband and wife with 2 kids, 14 and 11... the husband is flirting and kissing his best friend's wife in front of his wife... he is also holding her hand, arms around her, and touches her boobs, including in front of his kids at times. His wife is not particularly reacting to this, and neither is his best friend... what do you conclude from this?

However, if you ask the wife what she thinks of her husband kissing and spending a ridiculous amount of time with this other woman she dismisses it, and says it's nothing...

What do you think? I can't get my head around it... would you think this is an affair?

2007-11-27 09:07:00 · 22 answers · asked by lil_els2000 4

I've been married 9yrs. We have two beautiful young children. I just found out that my husband cheated on me when he was serving our country in Iraq. He didn't tell me, I found out through a missed placed email. She is still in Iraq and they had been emailing each other for the past few months. Now I question what I should do. Leave him and start over. That famous saying " Once a cheater....." goes through my head. Or try and work things out. He says he loves me and wants to work on our marriage. That she meant nothing to him. (but isn't what they all say) I also have my kids to think about. Please any advice would be welcome. I so very confused right now.

2007-11-27 09:05:16 · 17 answers · asked by MaeLynn 1

He used to be able to, but now when I try to snuggle up he just pushes me away or says something like " I'm reading."

It's been five years and I have cobwebs!

Serious advice only please.

He is 60 and I am 55 and still consider myself vital. Oh, and we've tried counseling but he never would do any of the assignments. He doesn't want to talk about it either.

2007-11-27 09:02:16 · 16 answers · asked by Cid Young 4

2007-11-27 09:00:10 · 2 answers · asked by Echo 52 1

I apologize for it seems I am asking the same questions but i dont know where else to get advice. Well my wife seperated and took the kids. She says she doesnt want a divorce but leased an apartment 6 months. she calls me few times a day and we see eachother daily in the last few days for a short while. even though its only been a week i taking hard. It doesnt seem to hurt her as much maybe because she has the kids but she says the reason is that she knows in her heart this is going to make us have a stronger marriage. She talks to me over the phone like if we were still together. I catch myself waiting by the phone. Should I still talk to her the same? She still asking me to help her find another job. should I? Should I give her separation papers or will this push her away. It seems like were seperating but she still wants the benifits of having a supportive spouse. I want to believe her when she says we will be a family again but statistics say this is the begining of the end.

2007-11-27 09:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-27 09:00:02 · 23 answers · asked by killerqueen 4

I really made a stupid mistake. I totally forgot my first anniversary. It was not intentional by no means. But, she sees it as me not wanting to be with her any longer & doom for our marriage. I love her very much and have absolutely no intention of splitting up. So, as some background to the situation, here is what I am dealing with. My wife is pregnant with our first child. I have been working overtime at my day job and picked up a second job as a waiter to make some extra cash to pay off some bills that I have before the baby comes. I have been very worried about money as she will not be able to work very much after the baby arrives and it now looks like my day job company is on the rocks and may not last 3 months. I am totally stressing being a first time dad and wanting to be the bread winner. I have not told her about the job so as not to worry her more. But, I am totally in the doghouse and don't know how to right my wrong. I lost sight of the forest for the trees.

2007-11-27 08:59:52 · 49 answers · asked by Tim 2

If a couple who is getting married in a church, stands there before a minister and takes an oath of lifetime marriage in their "House of God", if you will, wouldn't it seem that if that couple gets divorced or separated, that they are breaking the oath to their god and religion? Isn't that an insult to your own faith?

Perhaps most people should be married in a court room rather than in a church if they don't really take their marriage vows and oath to each other and their god seriously or maybe think twice about getting married in the first place.

2007-11-27 08:58:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He was been pulling back lately. there is another woman involved(his wife). I'm trying to get him away from her. I'm going to let her mess up other than pressuring him. I need to some advice on being the perfect mistress for now. I mess up before by demanding too much time. I got it but the kids started school. I just need to know what makes the perfect mistress?

2007-11-27 08:56:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

how often do you shave in the winter?? and how long have you been married?

2007-11-27 08:53:37 · 19 answers · asked by yaya 2

i have been married and faithful for 23 yrs to an alcoholic who is very abusive verbally our child is grown and married and I met a man who is also married and in a bad relationship but has two young children. We were perfect for each other but his wife found out and now she is using the children against him to keep us apart. He is torn and I want out. We want more than anything to be together but i will not come between him and his children. I never thought that I would ever meet anyone like him and he feels the same. I told him to talk to an attorney to see what his rights are but he is scared to death of losing his children and I am scared to death of losing him. Should we just let it go and see what happens?

2007-11-27 08:53:31 · 11 answers · asked by cme4ins 1

My boyfriend has 2 kids from a previous marriage. I have no kids. He is 34, I am 26. He is a great guy, he loves his kids...however, he can not afford them. With their last visit, he asked my PARENTS to purchase diapers because he was so broke. I would like to get married one day and possibly have kids of my own. I am somewhat successful as a teacher, and can clearly take care of myself. But, I would also like to feel financially secure with my partner, and know that I would never have to financially support his children. I love his kids, but I also feel like he pawns them off on me to take care of them when it gets a little too intense for him. Lord knows, I am NO MOTHER, but I try very hard. I feel like I have a lot to offer. Should I stay in it for the long haul? Or should I leave? Or, because I am so close with the kids, am I now stuck? I just need a little advice.

2007-11-27 08:52:55 · 14 answers · asked by MICHELLE B 1

i m 23yrs old married i have a 15 months ol daughter.my problem is i never got any happiness from this mar'ge. my husband i very loving but when it comes to sex the he is not intersted in oral sex. he has never been romantic with me. (HE IS NOT A GAY). i have talked about this thousand time but he does not understand and tells me as what to do, when i say do so & so he says he does not like it. well my family and freinds are indifferent country. when i call up them they have their own saying. here i really have no body i tried to make friends here but no one seems like intersted. whole day me and my daughter are alone and i do take her to parks but there also no luck of any one who could be freinds becoz of language problem. i m very left alone and sad.

2007-11-27 08:52:44 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the spirit of trying to be positive, I would like to ask people to tell me about how they managed to salvage a marriage that appeared doomed. What happened? Why did it happen? What did you change or do to fix it? Was it worth it? Did it work out in the long run?

Looking for "feel good" stories here, people. Thanks! :)

2007-11-27 08:49:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was with my b/f for 3 years...he was stuck acting like immature boy and i gave him many chances..i broke up with him 2 times for about 2 months and he never changed...so i finally left for real...its almost been 3 months and he says hes changed hes grown up and bla bla bla...i changed my number and the only way he can talk to me is through emails..i gave him 2 big chances to change...and in your opinion can someone really change and be what you wanted..or will they always be what they were.

2007-11-27 08:41:12 · 26 answers · asked by *Lovely 2* 2

just wondering, thought it would be an interesting question to ask. :]

2007-11-27 08:38:18 · 32 answers · asked by Jenna! 3

I was married once to a very very abusive man. I left him, years later I got into another relationship that seemed like it was made in heaven. The moment I got pregnant this guy changed that when I delievered the baby I called him for a ride from the hospital, he called the police that I was harrasing him. I have never done anything wrong to this man, I did everything I could to help him and his kids. I have been torn apart by the way he treated me, I have so much hatred for this man now. I don't ever wish him anything good.

Please need somebody to pray for me and my kids!!! We have been through so much pain. I really can't trust anybody now...LIFE!

2007-11-27 08:38:05 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

look across the street and see that i am not up, or they will come in and get me up with my wife in the house, i want to change the locks but i am scared to, because they might get mad at me and make fun of me or wont talk to me, i am married to and my wife hates it. i need hlp please

2007-11-27 08:34:08 · 13 answers · asked by jusmic80 2

i have a friend who want to date but after he date a women a few times they always seem to want him to take the ring off.
his wife (we all grew up together) was a good friend for years befor they married. and he keep her ring on his right finger because he lost a friend and it's a keepsake (i also have one of her rings on my right hand)
why should he take it off he's not morning it's just a keep sake
and why is it a problem for women he dates

2007-11-27 08:31:31 · 13 answers · asked by sunrisedrifter 2

2007-11-27 08:31:27 · 18 answers · asked by s f 2

what are the words the preacher reads..and what are the questions he asks the man and woman?

2007-11-27 08:29:13 · 8 answers · asked by bono 1

2007-11-27 08:29:00 · 24 answers · asked by freebird_breese 2

My husband loves me but says he's not "in love" with me anymore, but still wants to be a part of my life and us deal together on a day to day basis. How do I separate myself from the part of me that's still "in love" with him and be able to be happy

2007-11-27 08:27:09 · 8 answers · asked by gullible 1

What steps should one take to keep it intact and always keep in mind that priority is the love that brought us together.
anyone been thru similar situations?

2007-11-27 08:27:03 · 12 answers · asked by s f 2