He was been pulling back lately. there is another woman involved(his wife). I'm trying to get him away from her. I'm going to let her mess up other than pressuring him. I need to some advice on being the perfect mistress for now. I mess up before by demanding too much time. I got it but the kids started school. I just need to know what makes the perfect mistress?
2007-11-27 08:56:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are wrecking havoc with most of the women here. Im not so sure that's not what you were trying to do.
Take if from me there is not a perfect other women. I have been the mistress, other women, girlfriend or whatever you want to call it for a long time. If you play the game you need to be willing to suffer the consequences. You will always share him with someone. You will always be put 2nd but I can give you advice to keep him happy and keep him wanting you
Be his friend first and foremost
Be yourself and open and especially honest, you have no reason to lie to this man.
Be sexual, you are the other woman so you must perform better at everything at all times, that is one of the reasons he keeps coming back to you.
Don't ***** about anything. You are there when he needs you and usually he can't be there when you need him. He has LIMITED TIME
and he will not want to spend it with you bitching at him. When you see him, you see him. When you don't, you just dont.
He wants someone to talk to without someone being judgemental.
He wants good conversation cause chances are his home life is pretty much the same day in day out and he is not getting communication or sex at home so those are two things he is looking for.
If you try to get him away from his wife he will simply push you away, he is married to his wife and if you are going to fool around with a married man then you know that he will probably not leave his wife for you.
I am in no way judging you so please don't think that I am just telling you the facts. I am the other woman because I CHOOSE to be. I have no desire for a relationship and he provides me with what I need. Here is a link to a website that may be helpful to you
http://gloryb.com/
I wish you the best of luck whatever you do.
2007-11-27 15:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by rene1695 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
O.k. I can't believe how stupid your question sounds....and this is coming from someone who was a "homewrecker" (as everyone likes to say) for 5 yrs. First of all the way you refer to him as "your guy" makes you messed up right there. He is not your guy. But, I am not going to be like the others and tell you he will never leave her, because mine did leave and is with me and we couldn't be happier. It turned out to be the best for all of us involved. People really shouldn't judge or assume that they know what is going on in the man's marriage and life. I understand the majority are just cheaters and pigs, but some truly fall out of love and are afraid to leave out of their "comfort zone". But anyways, you don't sound too nice- if he is pulling back - then get a clue and you shouldn't be waiting for her to "mess up" that is just rude- she didn't do anything to you. This is why I believe you will never be anything. Sorry.
2007-11-27 18:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by italy9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you are one pathetic weirdo. The other woman? you are the other woman my dear and he is not going to leave her for you. you mess up everything? yeah it sure seems you do. have you no self-respect? are you nuts? why are you messing with a married man anyways? can you answer those questions? He is just going to leave you high and dry. a good mistress? there is NO good mistress. your just an easy piece of the cake. get a life and quit messing up other people's.
2007-11-27 17:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by nothing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SERIOUSLY!!!! For your own personal safety... LAY OFF the married men. You could end up dead and as a wives motto "the best mistress is a dead mistress". You need to learn how to be a perfect girlfriend to a single man. Trust me, there is enough fish in the sea and if he's already made a lifetime committment to someone, then he ain't the one for you.
2007-11-27 17:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by $$celebrity chick$$ 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you read your own question? Do you realize that the other woman in his life is not his wife - it's you! She is his primary relationship - and she always will be. Even if you get him to leave her, which statistics show will probably never happen, he will always have stronger ties to her than to you. He is not "your guy" - he is her husband. Leave this man alone - he belongs with his wife and his children! How could your happiness come from destroying the world of another woman and innocent children?
2007-11-27 17:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find you a man that is not married. Why would anyone want to be a home-wrecker. There is no such thing as a good mistress. You better hope his wife don't get a hold of you and if she does... you deserve it.
2007-11-27 17:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by jmc24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no perfect mistress. you are hoping for something you will never have with this man. if he wanted to be with you so bad he would leave his wife. but he enjoys the freedom with you. no responsibility (no housework,no bills,no kids)
you are his stress reliever but in the end he married his wife. shes the one with his kids,his house. shes the one he promised forever to not you. your just a toy something he can play with for awhile but when he gets bored puts up on a shelf. he doesn't love you and hes not just staying for the kids. find a man that is yours!
2007-11-27 17:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by nicole21cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Douche bags like YOU make the perfect mistress.
2007-11-27 17:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are screwed up if you think that messing up his marriage will make him happy. Obviously he loves his wife or he wouldn't have married her. If you really care about him you would want him to be happy with the woman he married. I'd say it's about time you moved on and left the poor man alone.
2007-11-27 17:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by alilley07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you refer to the last time you asked this question and look at the vitriol everyone spat at you.
The perfect mistress is one that does not exist.
2007-11-27 17:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋