look across the street and see that i am not up, or they will come in and get me up with my wife in the house, i want to change the locks but i am scared to, because they might get mad at me and make fun of me or wont talk to me, i am married to and my wife hates it. i need hlp please
2007-11-27 08:34:08 · 13 answers · asked by jusmic80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont want them to hate me or hurt them
2007-11-27 08:36:28 · update #1
living across the street from them might not have been the smartest move , sounds like they are overbearing and very controlling ..its time for you to get some back bone after all you are an adult and a married man ... sit down with them and tell them how you feel , explain you dont want to hurt their feelings but this has to stop ...and if you just cant bring yourself to do that ...move.... they are treating you like you are 14 ...
2007-11-27 08:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude grow a pair.
Apparently you live nearby and the parents walk over. It is not unreasonable to request that they phone before making the hike.
It is also not unreasonable to request that they quit calling at 4:30 am. It would go something like " I"m fully capable of getting out of bed and going to work , please do not wake my wife up with the phone.
It is also not unreasonable to ask that they knock before entering. Explain that you may be sleeping or having sex and do not want to deal with it.
It would be best if you changed the locks and "forgot " to give them a key. When they ask for a key, which is a good idea for them to have, explain the reason. Tell them it will save marital discord.
Now, the wife has some right to expect a level of privacy in her own home without being walked in on. They are not her parents.
It is time for you to stiffen your backbone and learn to deal with your parents as an adult and not their child. It would not hurt if you learned to use that same backbone with your wife as well.
Get the idea? Take charge of your life and quit worrying about what everyone else will think. It is a lesson of adulthood you seem to have missed.
2007-11-27 16:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents get POed with their kids they usually never Hate them.
Change the locks. If you are married and grown you need your own space and maybe an alarm clock. Why aren't you at work at 4:30 PM??
Make fun of you or won't talk to you?? How old are you?
They should not be able to walk into your house. I have adult kids and would NEVER do that unless something were frighteningly wrong. My parents gave their kids their own space and we give ours their own space.
2007-11-27 16:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I joined the Army when I was 17, largely in order to get AWAY from my parents. It was a decision I never regretted. It's time for a geographical cure -- get a job a couple hundred miles away, and move. The sooner the better. It won't make them mad when you tell them, "What a great opportunity this is for me and my wife!" even if that's an exaggeration.
2007-11-27 16:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is to move away from where you live now, to a place where your parents cannot look across the street to see your house.
2007-11-27 16:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you out of your mind moving across the street from mommy and daddy!!!! If my parents were like that I would have moved outta state!!!! Now you just have to tell them nicely to back off and give you some privacy. And whats with the "making fun" of you thing? Thats just odd.
2007-11-27 16:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by kimber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move away to a different location. Do not be so close to your Mom and Dad. They should of never ever got a key from you unless you were gone on vacation and then you get the key back. Tell them you want your privacy.
2007-11-27 16:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you a man or a mouse? you're going to lose your wife if you don't show some back bone. you need to politely but firmly let your parents know they are encroaching on your personal space and they need to slow their roll. They are not only disrespecting you but your wife and house too. oh and change your locks..
2007-11-27 16:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by slickric 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hummmmmmmm and you are still married??? Sorry that wasn't nice. Change the locks....or better yet move...tell them you need time to be an adult now. Thank you.
2007-11-27 16:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family counseling with you and your parents, and couples counseling for you and your wife. Or, if that doesn't work, MOVE!!!!
2007-11-27 16:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by nikki1162000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋