Picture this at a party:
Husband and wife with 2 kids, 14 and 11... the husband is flirting and kissing his best friend's wife in front of his wife... he is also holding her hand, arms around her, and touches her boobs, including in front of his kids at times. His wife is not particularly reacting to this, and neither is his best friend... what do you conclude from this?
However, if you ask the wife what she thinks of her husband kissing and spending a ridiculous amount of time with this other woman she dismisses it, and says it's nothing...
What do you think? I can't get my head around it... would you think this is an affair?
2007-11-27 09:07:00 · 22 answers · asked by lil_els2000 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am an onlooker for the record!! Also, i did confront the best friend (who's wife is flirting with the husband) and he told me nothing is going on, and even when i pointed out to him that it wasn't normal the way his wife and best friend were together a lot, he just laughed it off, and accused me of lying... saying i was trying to ruin his marriage... so it's not like they are swingers, because he's in complete denial.. can anyone add to this?
2007-11-27 09:23:27 · update #1
By the way, i didn't get involved to interfere.. i did so because the husband tried it on with me, so i told the woman he was flirting with/having the affair with, and she again accused me of lying.. any additional comments welcome.
2007-11-27 09:55:41 · update #2
It is an affair. Which means one of 2 things:
1.) They're swingers, and she isn't ready to come out about their unique lifestyle and marital arrangements.
or
2.) She's ignoring what's going on, even though she knows about it, because she doesn't want to believe it's true. Kind of like spilling juice on the carpet, and rearranging the furniture. People in situations such as this one will often rearrange their entire lives- making excuses for everything that goes on- just so they don't have to deal with the truth.
2007-11-27 09:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple that is just like this. The woman is a total flirt(big time when she is drinking) and her husband in my eyes doesn't worry at all. If you think it is going over board then say something to her. I also had a problem with a friend of my fiances that "needed" to hug her for like 5 minutes and I told her I didn't like it and she respects me and my feelings so now she does let him hug her. If something like this is bothering you this bad then it is time for you to stand up for yourself and be a man about it. Never go through life being unhappy. Life is way to short for that. Good luck and keep your head up.
2007-11-27 17:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Gregory H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm. Could be. Could also be that the wife is just comfortable in her living situation and doesn't really care what her hubby is doing? In front of the kids is tacky. It seems a bit more than flirty... could be that it turns everyone on? Open marriage?
2007-11-27 17:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it, if they seem ok with it the wife and the husband of the wife doing the kissing then who are you to say something. You are already being accused of trying to sabotage their relationship, so best thing is to stay out of it.
2007-11-27 17:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man does not deserve kids. He does not deserve a wife either. If the wife is OK with this than no problem but NEVER in front of the kids.
I am having a difficult time believing this is true.
2007-11-27 17:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by EddieH 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think they have an arrangement where this sort of behavior is allowed. My husband and I have full-on sex with other people in front of each other. But we are far more private about it.
EDIT in front of the kids is totally uncool to me, for the record - touching his own wife's boobs in front of the kids is uncool too.
2007-11-27 17:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're comfortable with each other and cool like that. But I think it's a bit inappropriate to do in front of the children.
2007-11-27 17:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some major issues going on either she is really stupid or in denial. i myself if it were my hubby i would defiantly confront him about it and if it didn't stop i would leave and he needs a serious wake up call to do this in front of his kids so its not normal i think it is disgusting
2007-11-27 17:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by wendy a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the children shouldn't be viewing that behavior, no. As for their allowance of such things, perhaps thats how they choose to live their married life, it's not my business what other folks do.
2007-11-27 17:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off this shouldnt be happening in fornt of children. they might get confused. also if they (wife, best friend) accepts it and they r fine with it let them feel free. an open marriage is ok
2007-11-27 17:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by bsbrulez92704 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋