I apologize for it seems I am asking the same questions but i dont know where else to get advice. Well my wife seperated and took the kids. She says she doesnt want a divorce but leased an apartment 6 months. she calls me few times a day and we see eachother daily in the last few days for a short while. even though its only been a week i taking hard. It doesnt seem to hurt her as much maybe because she has the kids but she says the reason is that she knows in her heart this is going to make us have a stronger marriage. She talks to me over the phone like if we were still together. I catch myself waiting by the phone. Should I still talk to her the same? She still asking me to help her find another job. should I? Should I give her separation papers or will this push her away. It seems like were seperating but she still wants the benifits of having a supportive spouse. I want to believe her when she says we will be a family again but statistics say this is the begining of the end.
2007-11-27 09:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ouch, sorry to hear about your separation.
I think you need to state clearly how you feel about this to her.
Tell her what you want.
If she wants something different, then you and her need to try to reach a compromise somehow.
Does she want separation papers?
Why did she feel the need to move out with the kids for 6 months?
2007-11-27 09:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by K L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sound like one of the better seperations Ive seen in a long time. It just sounds like she wants a little time to herself to clear her mind and put things back into perspective here which is not a bad thing, as shes not requesting a divorce here. Work with her as if you dont you could make things orse and she just might think you dont really care and she may want out, so go along with her as you have more to lose here than gain. Forget the statistics as each couple is different and the results are never the same so forget the stastistics unless that what you want. She still your wife so dont blow it and end up as a statistic, and dont quit,give her her space for now. This is actually better than it appears. Happy Holidays
2007-11-27 09:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur still such a patient kindhearted man even if ur wife has so much drama and issues... whats the point of trial separation if ur still talking to each other? i think ur wife is seeing someone else or has found someone else or she will not move out and leave me.. how can separation and being away from each other will make the marriage stronger is beyond me.. help her find a job just for the sake of the kids, so u dont have to pay enormous child support in case she file for divorce--if thats where the two of u heading...
2007-11-27 09:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know in your heart the answer to all of your questions. When she talks listen carefully for what she does not say. Pray for wisdom, knowledge and patience
2007-11-27 09:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by wrknprgsat47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get really good advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com---this site is great for advice on all kinds of situations. Good luck sweetie.
2007-11-27 14:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is cheating on you
2007-11-27 09:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by gwilliams0422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋