i have a friend who want to date but after he date a women a few times they always seem to want him to take the ring off.
his wife (we all grew up together) was a good friend for years befor they married. and he keep her ring on his right finger because he lost a friend and it's a keepsake (i also have one of her rings on my right hand)
why should he take it off he's not morning it's just a keep sake
and why is it a problem for women he dates
2007-11-27 08:31:31 · 13 answers · asked by sunrisedrifter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would understand leaving his wife's ring on. I would move my husband's ring to my right hand if he died and if someone asked me to remove it, they're out! If my husband were to die, I would always, always love him. If another man asked me to choose between my first husband and him, I would go ape, basically.
2007-11-27 08:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Eleni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gals often are jealous creatures. If a man has an item that reminds them of someone else, especially a woman, it tends to offend the senses.
If the ring and his friend is important to him, he shouldn't have to take off the ring. The "right" gal would not care if he is wearing it or not.
2007-11-27 16:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If everyone is wearing her rings then, everyone is still in mourning.
He should take the ring off and let go and get some closure JMO and only JMO, I think everyone should take her rings off, and get some closure!!!
The women want him to take the ring off after a while, because they are patient at first for a while, but then after a while, it gets kinda old, and they want the ring off because they want to be the one he remembers.
Your friend has to grow a new heart for all the women he is dating, and keep his old love in the back of his heart, he will always have the memories, and that is the best, but you have to let go, everyone has to let go.
2007-11-27 16:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with keeping the ring but the problem is with wearing it. I am assuming that it is a wedding band...? It symbolizes their marriage. I wouldn't want to date a man who couldn't give himself to me entirely- by wearing the ring he is giving off the message that he can't give his whole heart.
Tell him that he can keep the ring- maybe in a box on his dresser or on a shelf or fireplace mantel. If he is ready to date though- he needs to take it off of his finger.
It might just be a keepsake to him but to others it seems like a symbol and a way to hold on to their marriage.
2007-11-27 16:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the ring. If it's a wedding ring, and he's dating to eventually remarry, he needs to take it off. He wouldn't appreciate dating some lady who wears her wedding ring. Doesn't matter what finger. He needs to let the past be in the past. He can keep the ring in a jewelry box or something, but not wear it on dates.
2007-11-27 16:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you saying that the ring belonged to his wife who is also a dear friend? And did she pass away? If so I would consider it a precious possession would not be bothered by him wearing it.
2007-11-27 16:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by kimber 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he pays too much attention to the ring or brags about it to his dates?
Maybe it looks expensive and the women he dates might think he wants them to buy him a ring, too.
2007-11-27 16:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by Connie Napoleon 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with u. After all its part of his history and who he is. I think if he meets the right woman she wont worry about something like that
2007-11-27 16:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should he even have to explain it. if he is wearing it on his right hand, that is a sign of being a widower/widow. it is the women's problem not his or not theirs!
2007-11-27 16:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe really isn't a big deal,
maybe they just want to see if he will let things go, i mean after all, you have to pick one that is more important, friend or girlfriend.
2007-11-27 16:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kristine 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋