What steps should one take to keep it intact and always keep in mind that priority is the love that brought us together.
anyone been thru similar situations?
2007-11-27 08:27:03 · 12 answers · asked by s f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Infertility can definately wreck a marriage but if you're both willing to work on it, keep open communication and work on trust and forgiving it can be overcome. Just depends on how forgiving a person you are.
2007-11-27 08:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything can wreck a marriage if given enough space in the marriage. With so many kids out there needing and wanting a good home, the advances in science, medicine, and fertility treatments, foster kids and adoption, etc., there is no reason as I see it to let that be an issue. If infertility wrecks a marriage, there are much deeper issues to be addressed starting with love and commitment. My wife and I were told we could not have kids, we never once even entertained the thought of separation over it, we started looking for adoption options and then guess what, she became pregnant.
2007-11-27 08:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think infertility can ruin a marriage only if the other spouse is heartless and self centered, a marriage is about two people being one and living forever together, this sometimes includes children sometimes doesnt, with so many treatments for infertility and so many ways to adopt a child , i dont see how someone could break up over this . even if you cant afford to adopt , you both could be foster parents and nuture children that really need love.
2007-11-27 08:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt and her husband have been dealing with infertility for many years. They have had many struggles including blaming themselves, then echother. It has been about 5 years and they have found a peace about not having children.
Adoption is always an option as well as pets.
Remember why you fell in love with eachother. It wasn't originally just because you wanted to reproduce.
Enjoy your marriage...
2007-11-27 08:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by berns63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the infertility is known before the marriage, and it is ok with both...but it ususally is found out after marriage. and one or the other partner (usually the woman) starts to get obsessed with the whole thing, and instead of trying and accepting that they may not be able to have a child, it takes over and sex becomes a chore...
2007-11-27 08:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can. It is sad. The couple must come to agreements on how they handle it. It is stressful. I knew someone who went through this years ago but they kept their marriage together by focusing on each other, not their child-making ambitions.
The couple needs to be frank about what they expect - can they handle being childless? Will they try and adopt? If they CANNOT agree they must divorce - resentment destroys marriages.
2007-11-27 08:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately yes it can - but if it was known prior to the marriage that one or both could not have children then one or both went into the marriage knowing this - therefore the focus should be on the relationship/marriage - you also have other options - adoption, surrogacy, but you would really need to discuss with spouse
2007-11-27 08:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it can. But If the couple really truly loves eachother then they can look past it and find a different solution to the problem, like adoption.
2007-11-27 08:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by It's Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes dear.. infertility can wreck a marriage... if one of the partner is refusing to feel da pain...
if the wife is infertile..i pity her.... coz its not her fault...but she is made to feel she is at fault.
just have faith... things will work out...God bless..
2007-11-27 08:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by chaos_infinity1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider adoption.
2007-11-27 08:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋