Will he marry me???

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we are very happy. We are moving in together in May and always talk about our future and how we would like to get married. But lately I have felt more strongly about it. All my friends are getting married and I feel like I'm the last one out. Yet I can't seem to find a reason why he won't purpose. I feel in my heart that its the right time and I want to get married. And he says he does too. So why am I still just a girlfriend??? Please help!

Answer 1

I second Nice Lady. I have watched my little sister wait and wait for an engagement ring she was promised when they moved in together around 3 years ago. He doesn't see a need to get married anymore. Its ridiculous because he has all the benefits of a "wife" with no responsibility. She is without insurance while his job would provide her with wonderful insurance CHEAP if they where married. Just one of many examples.

Answer 2

The worst reason to get married is: "All my friends are getting married and I feel like I'm the last one out." What will you do when all of your friends starting getting divorced or having affairs??? It's okay to be the "last one out", especially if you take the time to grow and mature, do things for the right reasons! Which, by the way, will have nothing to do with what you're friends are doing, but what your head and heart tells you!

Answer 3

Just come out and ask him, don't beat around the bushes. He won't know what you are trying to say. Just ask, "how do you feel about getting married now?" He might say, "sure! let's do it" or he might say "I will like to make more money before we get married". Don't hang yourself on the romantic proposal idea. It does not always happen that way. What's important is that the two of you talk and know where you are. If he does not want to get married now, respect that. Trust that he has good reasons to. Work out a plan together of your goals and when the two of you plan on getting married.

Answer 4

I was once engaged whilst I was once 24 and married whilst I was once 26 Our marriage ceremony colours had been a faded peach and chocolate brown We each and every had our brothers as witnesses (two whole), it was once an excessively small marriage ceremony (14 persons had been there adding us and our reverend) Our reception was once held a month after our marriage ceremony, and we didn't have assigned seating, so much persons did not sit down, it was once a cocktail celebration We had a small chocolate cake after which a style of truffles for persons to pick, I suppose there have been five exceptional offerings We went to Maui for 2 weeks We received married in Gleneden Beach, OR, a tiny the city at the coast, simply external of Lincoln City

Answer 5

Slow down. this is just between you and him. not ur friends or his. marriage is supposed to be forever so take some time and learn what it feels like. there's a lot to work out. some of this will be an experiment and the results may cause you to change some of your agreements. get it worked out first. when you've been through some time together (maybe a year) then you can start talking about getting engaged and setting dates and buying fancy dresses. best part is you'll KNOW it's for real and it works.

Answer 6

Talk to him, ask him what are his reasons for not getting married. It could also be that he is not ready, i know men move slower than women in the commitment department, so him asking you to moving and seeing if you two can live well together maybe the next step of the commitment ladder for him, so ask him about that, ask him if he does have an intention to get married sometime in the future.

Answer 7

Question how old are you considering you do not even know how to spell propose you spelled purpose. If you are under the age of say 22 I would not even be thinking of marriage.

Really though for alot of people 2yrs is plenty of time to get to know someone and for some it is not enough ask if he believes in marriage and where he sees himself in 5-10yrs and if you are part of his life?.

One last thing tell him you are unable to move in with him until you have atleast a proposal and date of your future wedding
do not I mean do not move in with him unless you are engaged.

Really this is basically telling him that your fine living with him and that a commitment is not needed if you do move in with him. Tell him it has been over 2yrs and it is time to either commit to something or it is over.

Answer 8

Was he raised religiously or with married parents? Everyone's view on marriage is drastically different, some people don't believe in it at all. Have you communicated your desire to wed with him? Open communication is the best way. I remember I had dated my husband almost a year and I asked him how he felt about being married to me. He responded in shock, he couldn't believe I was thinking about a permanent commitment so soon. He proposed though 3 months later and now we are married. So sometimes you just have to plant that seed in their heads. Good luck :)

Answer 9

Because he is not ready yet. Give it time or if you are truly ready and he is not then you might want to move on and find someone who is in the same spot you are, ready to get married. I don't recommend getting married until you are at least 30 years old!

Answer 10

You really need to talk to him i think you should really think about moving in with him because you will be already with him and there is not reason for you to get married that is what he thinks I think you should wait before you move in with him and tell him I am not going to move in with you until I have a ring on my finger it is good for you to know that you not are always going to be his girlfriend.