He used to be able to, but now when I try to snuggle up he just pushes me away or says something like " I'm reading."
It's been five years and I have cobwebs!
Serious advice only please.
He is 60 and I am 55 and still consider myself vital. Oh, and we've tried counseling but he never would do any of the assignments. He doesn't want to talk about it either.
2007-11-27 09:02:16 · 16 answers · asked by Cid Young 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And..I've been to Good Vibrations to pick up my battery operated latex novelty when this all started. Believe me my "husband repalcement" is not as good as the real thing.
2007-11-27 09:54:04 · update #1
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2007-11-27 22:21:54 · update #2
Tell him (not at the time - like on Saturday morning at breakfast) that you insist on bringing back sex into your marriage. If he refuses to do so, ask him what he expects you to do about it.
Be calm, rational, and firm. Ask him what he needs from you.
2007-11-27 09:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
With the age I woukld say he is developing possible ED meaning erectile dysfunction. He cannot get it up so therefore he pushes you away. If he doesn't have heart problems get him to talk with his Dr. about Viagra or the many other pills that help with ED.
This could be a simple reason of limp penis it has nothing that needs counselling it needs medicinal intervention. He feels less of a man tell him that he is all the man you need and if he needs to take a pill to satisfy you then so be it. Also tell him just because you are 55 doesn't mean your tired of sex.
Try the Viagra who knows maybe he will be back to his old self. God Bless and Best Wishes.
2007-11-27 17:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only he can tell you why he doesn't want sex.
If the desire isn't there, maybe his testosterone levels are off or even something as simple as his zinc level. Is he experiencing erectile disfunction? A good thorough checkup with a blood test might be the best place to start.
Could it be that's he's just too tired? Is he stressed out about something?
Has you sex life become too predictable? To introduce new sexual experiences could be the ticket, but he has to be somewhat of a willing partner unless you plan on taking him prisoner....LOL....actually that's not a bad plan if you have any interest in alternative sexual experiences such as bondage, leather, candle wax, massages. Do something as simple or as intricate as your interest takes you.
He has to be willing to talk about something!!!!!!!! or you're dead in the water.
Make sure he understands how important your sex life together is to you. Masturbate in front of him and see what he says.
Otherwise you need to seriously decide what's more important, your sex life or your married life together. Are you communicating on other levels?
If he's not willing to do something to make your marriage work for both of you, is not having a sex life something you're ready to give up?
2007-11-27 17:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by christyo58 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't normally advise this of a married woman but i think you should get a toyboy. Your choice is this: either divorce him- it is a very necessary part of any good relationship is sex- blimey five years- cobwebs- i should think you got mould and spiders- or get a BOB (battery operated boyfriend) from anne summers. You are still very young to be without a sex life and it wouldn't do for me. Let him watch you play with them as well- it might turn him on- if it don't let me tell you you can have so much fun with a rampant rabbit!! No man required- just batteries.
2007-11-27 17:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW, too bad.
I think it is on you to figure out if you are willing to put up with this for the foreseeable future.
If this is a choice and not ED I would be more concerned.
Normally I would not suggest sex on the side, but I guess you might have to consider that as an option.
At our age it often is easier to stay in the marriage and get our physical needs elsewhere.
Does he think that this is the way life is supposed to be?
If so you have my sympathy.
2007-11-27 17:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Silky Lingerie!
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2007-11-27 17:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do about it. only he can do something about it. I have a wife just like your husband. Maybe we can swap and they can live in chastity heaven, and you and I can live in wet and nastyville. Believe me, I've stepped out with a woman who's 56 and she was AWESOME. It was my first experience with female ejaculation. I know you still have it, because you still want it. Wanting it is the key.
2007-11-27 17:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you happen to watch the series "Tell Me You Love Me on HBO? They dealt with this some. That's frustrating. I have no answers for you. Maybe there are deeper issues or physical ones for him?
2007-11-27 17:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that the only thing that is going to help you
is serious prayer. It may take time or it may not. But get
started in your prayer closet now. Keep it up and see
what God will do.
I Cr 13;8a
2007-11-27 17:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Probably need to see the Urologist, sounds like he's having trouble getting it up, and too embarrassed to talk about it.....
2007-11-27 17:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋