Marriage & Divorce - 27 November 2007

My husband wants me to tell him what I want. I really dont want anything in particular, does anyone have any suggestions?

Nothing dirty, ok? I am looking for suggestions that would be ok for me to unwrap in front of the family.

2007-11-27 02:31:31 · 13 answers · asked by Me 2

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2007-11-27 02:29:00 · 25 answers · asked by positive_ online_ brotha 1

was it planned or unplanned?

2007-11-27 02:27:21 · 16 answers · asked by ? 4

2007-11-27 02:24:34 · 24 answers · asked by lucy a 1

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and he is perfect. I can not see myself without him. He is my backcone. He has taught me so much. I have 2 kids that I had before him and he has 2 before me. I want to marry him and I am not sure if he feels them same way. He has never been married and neither have I. When i asked him why he don't ever toalk about marriage he said I will talk about it whenI am ready. Is he really not ready or does he not want to get married? Is is 28 now and I am 21. please help me

2007-11-27 02:15:44 · 19 answers · asked by Nae 3

i just told my best friend that i have feeling for him even though hhe has a gf? he still thinks im jokin , how can i show him that i dnt!!!!

2007-11-27 02:12:47 · 13 answers · asked by linetta 2

I have a 9 year old daughter with a man that I was never married to. He was 21 and I was 17 when I got pregnant. He moved to the state that I was in 3 days before she was born. When she was 5 months old he moved on and married another woman. For the first 3 years of her life he barely paid child support or visited with her. Since then he has become a good dad, but we have NEVER had a custody or child support agreement. Now I want to move back to my home state. Can I legally move with her? Could he charge me with kidnapping if I take her with me? He has told me he is getting a lawyer. What are the chances that I could lose her in court? I really need to make this move to get my life back on track, but I am scared to death of losing my little girl..... Any help would be great!

2007-11-27 02:10:44 · 16 answers · asked by Chrissy M 1

I was looking on the internet and found that my husband had been writing to other females, well I found one note in particular that said the girl looked hot. I asked him a bout it and he said he knows it was stupid and dont know why he did it. Now priar to that he had been saving pictures that he would find on the internet and lie about it. Now yesterday I look in his account and he has a myspace pag that I knew nothing about. When I asked him about that he said he had gotten the account a few weeks ago because he was listening to the radio and he could only log into something specific if he had a myspace page. ANOTHER LIE. Well back to the note I asked him how old the girl looked. He told me about 35. He is 31 and I am 27. I just so happen to find out that she too has a myspace page from searching and on her page it says she is 22. Another lie.
Now he says he just wants to work it out and make everything perfect. We have been married for 8 years. What should I do?

2007-11-27 02:00:36 · 5 answers · asked by N. Renee' 1

In summary, she is insecure and I have anger management issues (but I am never angry unless she makes me)...

My wife and I have been married for 6 months. In August, I called the cops on her because she kept slitting her wrists with knives. It was bad. She got arrested for domestic violenece. After this I wanted to divorce her, but I decided to man up and work things out. Things have been going well. We've seeked professional counseling and have been attending church regularly. She started taking prozac. Everything was going well and her insecurities were practically eliminated.

Now she is off prozac because we have better sex when not taking it. Everynow and then my wife gets really insecure and it causes me to go ballistic. I start throwing things and yelling at the top of my lungs, but I never hit her. Her insecurities makes me go nuts. How can I handle situations like this better? What can I do to prevent me from going nuts?

2007-11-27 01:54:40 · 21 answers · asked by Dr S 4

me and my wife have split up,she wouldnt let me see the kids,after a applied for a court order i started seeing them,obviously she went berserk and tried every trick in the book to stop contact cafcass was involved and in there opinion they know pressure is being put on from the mum.well after a few months all of a sudden the kids stopped coming,i was devestated at this news,the pressure they were under was to much,anyway i stopped all court action as this was difficult for the kids,so there are no court orders in force at present,what i need to know can i see my kids at school,will the school or can the school give me permission to see them,the last thing i want is to hide behind a fence to see my kids and not be able to talk with them.also the way my x has handled the kids has been cruel and immorale ,why dosnt the law courts take action on parents who use the kids as a tool to get back at the other parent.i probably wont see my kids for a very very long time .help

2007-11-27 01:53:58 · 8 answers · asked by asif aziz 1

2007-11-27 01:48:55 · 20 answers · asked by michelle 2

i put my husband out because i found out he was talking to a girl that we both know on the cell phone and he lied about it when i first asked him then after a day he told the truth but this is not the first time this has happpened it is the third time and i told him if it happened again that i would leave him but i love him so much and i know he loves me to death,he also said that it was just general conversation but i said u should have been honest with me to just let me know babe i be talking to sharon whom we both know and it would not have gone this far but can you save a marriage when you cannot trust your husband?

2007-11-27 01:48:14 · 32 answers · asked by diane w 1

So I'm 31 weeks pregnant, my husband and I have now been happily married for 3 months and life is going really well. But now all of a sudden it seems like my ex's are trying to take over! I have one ex that keeps writing me on myspace and telling me to stop talking about him and his family which is totally ridiculous! I have so much better things to do besides sit around and talk about a guy that I dated over 2 years ago! Then I have another ex that obviously stays drunk and calls and text me all night long wondering what went wrong in our relationship and why I won't take him back! We broke up over 3 years ago! Move on!!! What should I do? Should I just ignore these losers or should I say something to them? They both know i'm married and expecting but obviously neither of them seem to care! I'm 23 year old wife and soon to be mother and feeling waaay too mature for this crap!

2007-11-27 01:47:40 · 7 answers · asked by Just Call Me Jenn 4

2007-11-27 01:47:31 · 6 answers · asked by Underwater 2

My husband is away on business, and is upset with me for a petty reason. Now he will not call, or answer his phone or text messages. This has gone on for 3 days now. Although this is not the first time he has given me the silent treatment as punishment. I would like to know how others handle this.

2007-11-27 01:45:12 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am suppose to get married in less than a year but I am not sure that I should. I think I just need to shack up for the rest of my life with my partner. I don't want to think that I am settling but it seems that way. I often feel limited because I have to consider him. We never think alike and often don't have the same goals.

2007-11-27 01:29:45 · 20 answers · asked by holmto1 1

2007-11-27 01:17:39 · 20 answers · asked by ANDREW A 1

I wouldn't remarry if i was either especially if there were kid involved and I'd probably end up tieing my tubes so I wouldn't give my children half siblings.

I say that because my parent were never married and I have 6 half sibling from dad and one from mom. I also only plan on being married once and all my children having the same father.

2007-11-27 01:09:02 · 19 answers · asked by Ashley 3

My husband and I have been married for 4 years and have a 3 year old together. 5 months ago I got laid off from my job of 9 years and started collecting unemployment my husband also got into a huge fight with his boss, quit his job of 3 years and decided he wanted to start his own business and work for himself. I told my husband I would keep collecting unemployment so that way I can stay home with my son and plus if I get a job they won't pay me the same I was getting from my old job and I would also have to pay for daycare. So he got a loan to open up a restaurant. It's now been 4 months he has not given me any money for bills because the restaurant is still not finished. I'm so stressed out. All he says is for me to wait and that he will start making alot of money. My unemployment is going to end next month and I also want to do something on my own but that will take some time I don't know how we're going to pay our bills in the meantime. We're both sick of working for other people

2007-11-27 01:08:27 · 5 answers · asked by Janice 1

Or is it the user?

2007-11-27 01:03:15 · 23 answers · asked by janjaley 2

and the kid lives at their house? Esp when this new woman is moving in?
Anyone have any advice? My kid doesnt need a second mom.
He just lives there cause its easier for me to see him everyday this way, and I work.

2007-11-27 00:57:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-27 00:56:33 · 8 answers · asked by pedababu 1

I live in germany and my baby live in Las Vegas................and i cant see him untill next year in March.................how can i go through this time without so much pain in my heart??????

2007-11-27 00:42:46 · 11 answers · asked by night_age_germany 4

It is now two years pasted that I found out that my wife was emotionally invloved with another guy. For the sake of our kids I accepted that this mistake will pass away.
However, I can't stop myself blaming her of this mistake.
I can't stay with her because of this mistake and can't leave her because of the kids.
What should I do???

2007-11-27 00:36:07 · 18 answers · asked by buhanak 1

First, he works over the road and isnt in till all most ever other weekend. I dont have any problems with that.

I have trust issues that im working on and he knows that, a few days ago his EX'wife came over to spend thanksgiving with her 2 boys that they had together.

Now i have a question for the women, would you get really pissed off if your husband played a song that had to do with sex while he's talking to his ex'wife and say a comment like this 'This reminds me of the good old days' and then they laugh. because thats what mine did, it made me so pissed off i was really sick. We took her home that thanksgiving night, but the next day he gets a call from one of his friends that i know and after he lookes at me as he turnes back to the road, he calls me by his ex'wifes name. I didnt say anything, normaly i would ***** at him for calling me that. But i didnt.

i would really like some help i have no clue as to what to do anymore.

2007-11-27 00:35:16 · 9 answers · asked by nickie20 1

Ok so here's the story and question....

I was with my girlfriend almost 5 years....we loved each other very much....we did have some fights and arguments.
I wasn't perfect, I did say mean things sometimes or do things but I have OCD and Borderline Personality Disorder.
Not all of it, but most of it was caused by my problems, I have been getting help and working on myself for the last
year and a half and been getting better. I regularly go to my therapist and psychiatrist and take my meds as prescribed.
I have gotten better. She left me 3 months ago because she said she didn't like the way I treated her. She is the type
that wants a "fairytale" relationship. Everyone has told her including her parents that she won't get that with anyone.
She also expects no fights or arguments. Well anyways she told me for the first two months after she left...that she
still wanted to be with me, she loves me, misses me, wants to know I'm serious about us, etc. Then two weeks after
that go by and she doesn't say much to me....well I texted her a lot but it was because when I tried to give her space
before by not texting as much, she would text me and say why are you ignoring me or I don't think you're serious about
this...and then when I did she didn't want me to text or wouldn't text me back most of the time.

2007-11-27 00:30:51 · 6 answers · asked by YouWillRegretIt 1

Hi I am 41. I moved to my husbands country 18 yrs ago and have lived in depression ever since. Before I moved here I was a bit scared whether I liked it there, my husband said we would move back if I didn't like it here well 18 yrs later...I have also been very unhappy in my marriage.
I read self help book, I try to have hobbies. I try to go out when everyone's schedule lets me etc..but I just feel that I am just filling in time not living. I spoke to a therapist who said to divorce. My husband has done a couple of things which has caused my depression to get worse; i found him talking on line about BDSM and then getting me to do some of the acts I can't forget it that was over 3 yrs ago.

People say you can live anywhere and be happy and being with a man won't make you happy. Does that mean you can live with any man why then am I unhappy. What can I do to become happy again I really need help.

2007-11-27 00:10:40 · 4 answers · asked by tp 1