My husband is away on business, and is upset with me for a petty reason. Now he will not call, or answer his phone or text messages. This has gone on for 3 days now. Although this is not the first time he has given me the silent treatment as punishment. I would like to know how others handle this.
2007-11-27 01:45:12 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*I use silent treatment as a mini vacation.... just try and make it so he thinks you dont care.... Dont try calling him or texting him.... I bet he will either end up calling your or at least be wondering why you arent attempting to contact him.... And if he doesnt call or text, when he gets home, just dont speak to him... guarantee he will try and talk to you at some point so that he can get some play*
2007-11-27 01:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by rollins_freak_21361 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make up your mind that this is a vacation for you. Put your phone away. Get some books, movies, puzzles, friends to hang out with, something enjoyable to occupy yourself. Don't call him anymore, and don't talk about him. Spend the entire time he is ignoring you having fun or relaxing. IF he calls answer the phone and don't bring up the silent treatment at all. When he wants to talk, let him know how much you enjoyed yourself, but nicely. Don't say oh thank god you ignored me, I had so much fun. Just wait for him to ask what you have been up to, then say something like, oh I've had the best time, I did this and that, etc. If he mentions the silent treatment, just laugh and say once you decided to relax, you completely forgot about it. Give him a kiss and go on with life.
When someone treats you like that, he is trying to punish you. There is no reason to let it work. It is childish and destructive. The best thing to do is to quietly let him know it doesn't bother you. Enjoy yourself sincerely. Then at a later date a couple of weeks after this, sit him down and talk about arguements. Let him know that you want to handle your problems in an adult manner. Let him make some suggestions. Have some ready yourself.
In the meantime, consider this your own personal spa day.
2007-11-27 02:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by SS109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband gives me the silent treatment I make him feel guilty for it or say something to provoke a response to open up the communication again. Usually that works. If he wasn't answering his phone I would call one last time and say "Hey honey, I've got a problem here with the car. I think it needs to go into the shop or something. It won't start up. I was just hoping you would help me but since your not talking to me right now I guess I will call a tow truck. Love you and I hope I will talk to you soon"
Then don't call him again. The ball is in his court. He will call you at some point and then you need to let him know that he hurt you but don't get too upset. Wait until he gets home and then lay it on him. Good Luck!
Oh, and make sure he understands that the longer he gives you the silent treatment the more mad you are going to get at him and the problem just gets worse.
2007-11-27 01:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine my husband doing such a thing. That is very rude of him. It might be a little different if you were in the same room but with him being out of town makes it worse. I would give him the silent treatment right back and when he finally comes around, I would make it very clear that this kind of behavior is not acceptable and that he needs to learn how to communicate or he can take a hike. I'm not one to just tell someone to give up on their relationship but if your not communicating then there is also a lack of respect. Communication and respect are the two main things you need in a relationship to make it work. It also makes me wonder why he is not answering any of your messages. Sounds like he is immature and just wants to play games.
2007-11-27 01:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing! He is the one that walked away from the situation and decided to end the conversation. He needs to come to you to resolve it on his own time. You can't force someone to talk to you when they are not ready. However when he is ready to talk I would tell him how you feel when he does this. That you feel you are being punished or he is taking control of the conversation that you feel it's his power trip. He might be doing this but more likely he is trying to blow off steam so that he can come back to the issue being rational about it. Sometimes a conversation can get intense you need a break. If he is doing it for this other reasons then I think you need to seek a couselling because that's mean spirited. I highly doubt that is why he is doing it.
2007-11-27 02:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not ignore him for what he does but at the same time try to find ( without his knowledge) why he is like this keep on calling him send messages though he will not answer may be he wants that u should also treat him the way he is treating u may be he has some reason behind this as i have seen such a situation where wife also did the same and finally the husband and wife divorced and the man married his girl friend who was of his daughter's age
2007-11-27 02:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I guess that's the worse "treatment" ever coz there is no communication... I have never been in your shoes so I won't claim that I know it all... but I suggest you give him the "silent treatment" for a couple of days too... see where that takes you...
Whatever you do, don't call/message/etc him constantly because it will make him go on ever more punishing you.
2007-11-27 01:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Avenny [snowberry] 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just do your own thing.. punishment, just too busy or just has a lot on his mind that he isn't willing to share with you right now, whatever, live your life and do what you are doing. Its not that big darn deal if you don't let it be.. women do the silent treatment too.. How to men handle it? Usually by just keeping on with life. He will get over it.. they always do. ;-)
Enjoy your day!!
2007-11-27 01:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably don't want to hear this but if this is reoccurring especially timed with his business trips he may be cheating. Some men will make something petty into something bigger to justify their infidelity in their own minds and it also gives them the freedom of no phone calls and texts at inopportune moments.
2014-01-07 12:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by SnBoston 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would ignore it and go on about my life like nothing is wrong.
The silent treatment is a petty, childish, and pathetic way to handle a grievance.
2007-11-27 02:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋