me and my wife have split up,she wouldnt let me see the kids,after a applied for a court order i started seeing them,obviously she went berserk and tried every trick in the book to stop contact cafcass was involved and in there opinion they know pressure is being put on from the mum.well after a few months all of a sudden the kids stopped coming,i was devestated at this news,the pressure they were under was to much,anyway i stopped all court action as this was difficult for the kids,so there are no court orders in force at present,what i need to know can i see my kids at school,will the school or can the school give me permission to see them,the last thing i want is to hide behind a fence to see my kids and not be able to talk with them.also the way my x has handled the kids has been cruel and immorale ,why dosnt the law courts take action on parents who use the kids as a tool to get back at the other parent.i probably wont see my kids for a very very long time .help
2007-11-27 01:53:58 · 8 answers · asked by asif aziz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm so sorry for you. I doubt very much if the school will get involved in the way you suggest.
2007-11-27 01:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sad to say she can stop you from going to school. Don't be a party to the game that is going on. As you say the ones to pay the price evn though you are in a tough spot, is your children. Nebver say bad things in front of them about their mother, and seek legal avenues. The courts have a long way to go to be fair. Eventually your children will see what has happened and will come around. The cost will be very high money wise, and pain wise. The thing to remember is she is always going to be their mother and you their father. Don't ever make them make a choice, or degrade each other no matter what. You will be a better person and instill values that will be last them a life time. Will keep all in prayer. Have a Very Merry Christmas and I pray the Lord will put his hand upon your situation and resolve this matter so all of you will can share in the Love you have for one another.Keep our troops in prayer and light a candle for those who can't be with us. Good Luck
2007-11-27 02:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by mandm68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your children, you must not give up. If you do, you will surely not see them anymore and this will have serious consequences to the future. The mom will brainwash the children to hate you..it might though and it happens alot. Even if you can actually see them, they won't want to. Now they are young and they might understand the message that their daddy is working hard to see them. Maybe you can ask the court to see your children with an assistant if they don't trust you. Your ex is pretty much selfish. Get an advocate if you have enough financial support. goodluck
2007-11-27 02:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to see them at school you need a court paper stating that. You need to sit with your ex and a lawyer or something on that line and settle things. For your kids' sake. One parent should not use the kids to get back at another parent. It's wrong and makes it harder on the kids. I understand that they will stand by thier mom but you have to step up and be in their lives. How old are your kids? I believe the courts listen to kids at 12. If they are not that old then you need to fight to be with them. If your ex is being cruel to them, you need to prove it and take her to court. It's not a good situation that you are in but let the love for your kids drive you. YOU want to be in thier lives, BE there. Good luck to you and your kids.
2007-11-27 02:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know there are two sides to every story and we don't know her side.
If you feel you have been wronged then look into your parental rights as mentioned from some of the others here. If you want to be a part of your kids life you have to fight for it.
2007-11-27 02:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by purplewaterhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The school probably can't help you but a good lawyer can. This woman is not a good thing for these children, you may be the best parent to raise them.
2007-11-27 02:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep taking your wife to court.
If you are paying child support and want to see your kids, then fight for them.
Make things difficult for her.
If you have to enforce having the cops present when you pick up your kids, do it. And then they are a witness to anything that she says or does.
2007-11-27 02:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is parental alienation syndrome at its finest. Read about it....it is online...the best report on it is my Jayne Major. Go to www.Glennsacks.com he is a fathers rights activist and has great information for men like you there. Good luck...don't back down, read and learn about what is happening to you so you aren't confused....they are your children...
2007-11-27 01:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋