was it planned or unplanned?
2007-11-27 02:27:21 · 16 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
been married for 2 1/2 yrs...we r waiting until we buy a house n i finish graduate school then maybe a yr or 2 after that. i am 25 now probly around 30.
2007-11-27 02:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Immediately. The first one was unplanned, but we planned the second one when our daughter was 14 months old. Benn married 9 years now.
2007-11-27 10:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married nearly 5 years before I had my first child. However, I married at 19! (it was 1976)
I think I did the right thing I was obviously not ready for children at that age and it took me a few years to mature, and get ready for children. I had my kids in 81,84 and 87 and I planned them all. Despite waiting etc.....my marriage failed in 89. Not due to the children or anything specific it all boiled down to getting married too young. there is no set formula for getting married or having kids.
Don't do either until YOU are ready. I married for the wrong reasons, but I had my children for the right reasons and when I was ready.
2007-11-27 10:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had first child one year and two weeks after wedding anniversary. Yes, planned. Husband is 10 years older didn't want to wait. Second kid came 2 years, 2 months, 2 days after the first.
I was 30 at the first time.
2007-11-27 10:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by cashew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No kids yet, getting married in May, and we plan on starting for kids no too long after that. We are a little older than the average bride and groom, and we don't want to be 40 chasing around a toddler.
2007-11-27 10:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Allison L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should wait at for 2 years or more make sure your husband is the right man to raise kids with and also for him to make sure your right for him. But most of all to give you two time too enjoy life as a married couple to do things as a couple before you have kids. kids are a joy but enjoy what you have right now with your husband first i say wait at least 2 or more years before planning that beautiful family you want.....Good Luck...
2007-11-27 10:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Toni A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married almost 3 years, still no kids. Reason being: I'm planning on going to medical school, and I'm the female. Also, we're just not financially ready to have a child. And yes, it does matter if you're financially ready. If you're not, that's not very fair to the child. You shouldn't have to go on food stamps just to be able to take care of your child if you can help it.
2007-11-27 10:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 7 years and we are planning on trying for our first next fall. Live your life while you are young, then have kids.
2007-11-27 10:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We waited four years, and we're glad we did. Don't get me wrong. I love my children and wouldn't trade them for anything. But you really need to get settled into living with one another and getting financially on your feet before complicating your life with children.
After all, when the kids come, it becomes very difficult to find time for one another, your household expenses go up, and you're always in a semi-exhausted state. So waiting a few years to ensure you have a strong foundation in your marriage is a wise move, IMHO.
2007-11-27 10:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have been married a little over a year and we are going to start "trying" in Jan or Feb of '08.
2007-11-27 10:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋