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2007-11-27 02:29:00 · 25 answers · asked by positive_ online_ brotha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your mate chose to be with YOU. If they let you think that they held loyalty to you, then they should be sticking to that.
The other person may have been doing some leading away from you, but unless it is friend or family, they are of no real consequence in the matter.
2007-11-27 02:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by crazy_kizmet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My problem is totally different. My mate claims he did not receive any of the emails I sent him pleading for forgiveness and how much I knew I was wrong, etc. But I did get some pretty tormenting emails from his "supposed" gf, the whore that she is. She threatened my husband if he did not call the cops on me. Well guess what he saw through her evils, childish ways and kick her to the curb like I threatened to do to her. Now it's my turn to torment her, but you know what she is nowhere to be found. Told my husband that she was afraid of me, called me a pyscho and ****. Well guess what if she ever contacts my husband or my step children again, she may just might see the side of me that only comes out when someone as sick as she is messes with someone's head. She may of thought it was funny but I have the last laugh, because she is back home with mommy and daddy, or may even be dead for all I know. But I really don't care either way because I got the man that I have always lived for and love with all my heart!
2007-11-27 12:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by ????? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, the person your spouse is cheating with did not make any vows to you. Your spouse did! Human nature always has us confronting the person we do not know, rather than the one we do know and the one that supposedly vowed to be faithful and entered into marriage with us.
Its a hard thing to rebound from when a loved one cheats. You start to wonder what you did wrong, the reality is most of the time you did nothing wrong, the spouse chose to cheat for their own selfish reasons.
Have I ever known of someone who "people understood" why they looked for love elsewhere? The answer is yes. Sometimes marriages are miserable, with one person driving the other away with their actions etc......
Abuse, alcoholism, are just some reasons people seek love and comfort elsewhere.
2007-11-27 10:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer from both sides of the fence. It's your mate. Just because something is offered doesn't mean that you should take it. My ex husband was a chronic cheat. During my single years, I could get anyone I wanted, married or not. When I was in an unsatisfactory relationship, I would cheat. Now, I am mature (hahahaha) and in a totally wonderful and monogamous relationship.
2007-11-27 10:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always confront your mate, because your mate is the person that is supposed to be loyal to you. The only instance in which I would confront the person that they cheated with would be if it is a friend or family member of yours---they should have loyalty to you as well, and for them to fool around with your significant is the highest form of disrespect for you and your relationship!
2007-11-27 10:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mate is the one who deceieved you. In most cases the other party doesn't even know you exist, it makes no sense to hold them at fault.
On the other hand if the mate is cheating with someone, let's say, your best friend, you confront them both. They're both guilty and you should hold them both accountable.
Cincinnati, OH
2007-11-27 10:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by I've Got My Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your mate...they are the person you made the commitment with/to and the "other" person is collateral damage really. Your focus should be on the person who disrespected the relationship by cheating.
2007-11-27 10:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mate! The person they cheated with, has nothing to do with the 'relationship' the two of you have, so who? they cheated with is irrelevant. More often than not, if your mate has been lieing to you about cheating, then they're probably lieing to the person their cheating with too.The fact of remains is that they cheated. I definately would be upset with my mate. He could never come back!
2007-11-27 10:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by msjah1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, the cheating spouse needs to be confronted. I would have no interest in talking to the lover, that's so Jerry Springer!
2007-11-27 10:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront my husband cause he knows what he is doing. I would also say something to the mistress to let her know I know and it is done! I would get some truth to the whole situation before I just jumped right in and started confronting people.
2007-11-27 11:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by bbygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋