Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and he is perfect. I can not see myself without him. He is my backcone. He has taught me so much. I have 2 kids that I had before him and he has 2 before me. I want to marry him and I am not sure if he feels them same way. He has never been married and neither have I. When i asked him why he don't ever toalk about marriage he said I will talk about it whenI am ready. Is he really not ready or does he not want to get married? Is is 28 now and I am 21. please help me
2007-11-27 02:15:44 · 19 answers · asked by Nae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not bothring him about it I asked hiim one time why he don't ever talk about it and he answered with When I am ready I will talk about it. Someone said I am not a good catch. I am very mature for a 21 year old and I make a wonderful mother and girlfriend. My baby's father cheated and lied so I left him. Please I did not ask this question for everyone to degrade me I was wondering from a grown person view what you think but it looks as though some childish people are on here trying to put people down.
2007-11-27 02:54:52 · update #1
Don't pressure him. Let it come on its own. I'm sure he does want to marry but 2 years really isn't that long. Don't force it, it will come when you least expect it.
2007-11-27 02:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by lwomar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A man with two kids at the age of 28 and has never been married sounds like he isn't the marrying kind of guy. I mean why hasn't he ever been married? He has two kids...he is 28 and has been with you for two years yet still isn't sure about getting married? I would doubt that he ever is going to get married. I think staying with him is cool but if you have dreams of being married I would have to guess your with the wrong guy here.
2007-11-27 02:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys think if they wait long enough, they'll find someone better, but usually they end up alone because other guys will gladly take the girlfriends that aren't "good enough" for these players. If you're already giving him everything he would want from a marriage, he has no motivation to marry you.
2007-11-27 02:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do want to get married but not early in the relationship. You may think two years is enough but some people need 3 years minimum to feel secure. Wait for him. If he really wants to start a family together he will do so. He needs more time for the time being.
2007-11-27 02:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by preety_lady_serenity 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is such an age old question which i dont understand why women still cant tell until now.
yes, he doesnt want to be committed yet. it already came out of his own mouth. the reason for it? who knows. it could be that he just isnt ready or.... something ur not gonna want to hear but have to, it could be that he just doesnt love u enough to WANT to marry u. when a man really loves his woman, he's gonna want to spend the rest of his life with this woman-no questions asked. but most of the time, men are just not ready to be committed to someone.
what u can do is ask him if he EVER even plans to get married to u. because if he doesnt, u are wasting ur time hunny... but if he says he justisnt ready at the moment, ask him when he will be. no one would want to waste their lives WAITING... and waiting... and then realize when its soo late that u were waiting for NOTHING.
2007-11-27 02:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by switbaby9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both have a lot of baggage and even though he has two children, he may not want to marry a woman that also has two. It might be too much responsibility for him.
He also doesn't seem to think much of marriage since he has not bothered to marry the mother(s) of his children. So far he hasn't had to "step up". Honestly, I wouldn't want to marry a man that wasn't just dying to marry me.
2007-11-27 02:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should he marry you? 28 and a combined total of four kids to support may sound a little daunting for him....besides, he may sense that also being your backbone is more responsibility than he wants.
The arrangement you have is working for him....but not you. Grow your own backbone and live a full life. Good Luck.
2007-11-27 02:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by that judi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
After 2 years, you should at least KNOW where he stands on marriage. After spending that amount of time with you, he should know if he has any desire to marry you and to me, it sounds like he doesn't.
2007-11-27 02:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him you will not pressure him into marriage. Have you done anything in the past for him that you no longer do? You have to work hard to get him to want to marry you. men don't want to settle down and get locked up until they know for sure that you are the one that they want. Keep swallowing and he will come around.
2007-11-27 02:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh please! Don't say she isn't a catch because she has had two kids out of wedlock. He has two out of wedlock also!
If everything is fine in the relationship let it be. Your only 21 you have time to wait and make sure this person is right for you and your kids.
2007-11-27 02:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lori 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋