would you remarry after you become widowed and/or divorced?

Question

I wouldn't remarry if i was either especially if there were kid involved and I'd probably end up tieing my tubes so I wouldn't give my children half siblings.

I say that because my parent were never married and I have 6 half sibling from dad and one from mom. I also only plan on being married once and all my children having the same father.

Answer 1

People go into marriage only planning on being married once...or at least that is how they should be thinking. If I ended up widowed or divorced, I would wouldn't be rushing out to get married again, but if after a while I met a person and we fell in love and wanted to get married then I would. Life does go on after a death or divorce.

Answer 2

It would depend on how young I was.
If, God forbid, it was soon, then I probably would eventually, but it would take a very long time. Like you, I think my children would be grown first. I also come from a very blended family. My parents were married. The problem was, they were each married 3 different times. I have two children by the same man. We have been married almost 9 years. I don't want any more children, but not because of the half sibling thing. I do have a step son. So they already have a half brother. Although I don't refer to him that way. I just call him their brother. I am a happy person despite all the half and step siblings, even though I really have no relationship with any of them (7 in all). We just e-mail each other periodically and that is about it.
If I was older. Say 55 or above, then I probably wouldn't marry again. But then again, none of us really knows what the future holds, so I can not say never to anything......

Answer 3

It would be great if you only married once and have all of your children with the same man. Unfortunately it doesn't always happen that way. I think most people go into a marriage believing it is the only person they will be with for the rest of their lives. But the divorce rate is high. I'm happily married, so if my husband died, I probably wouldn't marry again because no one else could measure up to him. But if I was in an unhappy marriage and headed for divorce, I would probably remarry again because I would want to find someone that I could be happy with.

Answer 4

Plans are great but when reality sets in plans seem to never go the way you want them too. I would remarry if I got divorced or if something happened to my wife. It would take me a long time and with kids involved it would never be easy, but I would do it. I understand about half-siblings though, but still, I have two half-sisters and am grateful for them everyday. All I know is that I am done having kids for me. Not for anyone else and that is why I will be getting clipped.

Answer 5

I would consider remarrying after I become divorced, but never if I become widowed, because it would be disloyal to my husband that widowed me.

I wouldn't tie my tubes up, if I had children from my divorce marriage, because even if they're only half-siblings, I would like to give them another little brother or sister, even if it's with a different dad.

Answer 6

Good plan, good luck with it.

I am widowed, the love of my life died 2 years ago last week. I am pretty lonely but I cannot imaging getting married again Ican't see me feeling the same way again and it would not be fair to the new husband. I might like a friend but men want sex. I used to love sex and I might again but right now, they couldn't touch me and I know that is not the way to get or keep a boyfriend ( I am 55 years old, isn't there a better term than boyfriend?)

I think that I might stay alone I am getting to like it and I never was on my own before. AT first that was a frightening thought, now it is inspiring adn adventerous to me. I don't need a man and the one I want is gone so I'll see where the single life leads me, and if it is down the aisle again eventually so be it but I'm planning to enjoy my life as it is. Hey I been to the Grand Canyon and to Macchu Piccu and the Bahamas and.... well you get the idea.

Answer 7

I would, if I found the right man. At this moment, I'm ok being by myself. Less headache and heartache. I'm not lonely. I wouldn't mind to have someone to hang out with but not necessary to be in the relationship.
If I remarry, I prefer someone with grown children or have no kids. I'm done with kids and don't want to be anyone's mother.

Answer 8

It is refreshing to hear that you have learned from your parents mistakes and don't plan to follow in their footsteps. Just remember though that if you were to become a widow at a young age you may find someone who you love and want to bear his child. There is nothing wrong with that especially if you raise all your children in a lot of love... Good for you to plan ahead though...

Answer 9

No I wouldn't. I believe that you get one true love in your life and that's it. That's not to say I'd be celibate. I just wouldn't want some other man trying to play daddy to my kids. Being an army wife I've had to be both mom and dad plenty of times so I'm perfectly capable of raising them on my own if anything ever happens to the hubby.

Answer 10

No, my wife and I have talked about this, if one of us passes away (we're both 30 and have been married for 7 years) at any age, we want the other to be happy. We know that we can never replace the other, but companionship is vital to happiness. If that happens to lead to marraige, so be it.