I had the hardest time trusting again after I deside to divorce my ex. I gave my self time to heal and now after many years of been single ,I aloud my self to date again.I am starting to suspect that this knew person is also capable of been abusive,but what if I am over reacting because of my past. P.S. excuse my spelling ,english is my secong lenguage-thanks in advance for your help
2007-11-27 13:09:34 · 8 answers · asked by Canela 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you like getting your a$$ kicked to me because you keep picking the same kind of guy. You get pity party from me sorry.
2007-11-27 13:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
Im sorry the what u have been through.
I think u maybe holding back from this new person in ur life because of what has happened in ur past... I understand that i are just preparing urself for the worst, but remember that not all guyz are abusive... Maybe u could just give it a shot with this guy and see where things take u... If things turn out bad then atleast u know u have the strength and courage from ur 1st relationship to get u through it.. U will never knw what its like to be in a good relationship unless u can move on from the past and take a risk.. Just remember that ur past relationship will only make u stronger in future relationships...
Good luck xx
2007-11-27 21:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was abused for 6 years. My abuse started in high school at 14. I was forced to have sexual intercourse in public places and in school. I believed for years that this man could change but he was always a disappointment. I used to get beat up on a regular basis, for very small reasons too. I can recall an incident where he beat me up because I dyed my hair without asking him. I became pregnant and he tried to get rid of the baby but was unsuccessful and was arrested. He's now serving a 7 year sentence, our son is 3 and he asks about his dad. Out of all of what I've been through, telling my son that he'll never be able to see his dad is the hardest thing. Trust will always be an issue, I'm married and it's still extremely hard for me. I could never fully recover but it does get a lot better. There is winning after losing.
2007-11-27 22:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never been in a physically abusive relationship before, but I wanted to say this: Don't ever think you're over reacting. If your gut is telling you something, you need to listen to it. And since you are a survivor of domestic violence, you know what key signs to look out for. You got out of it once, and for God's sake, don't get back into it again. You're too strong and good of a person for that nonsense! You know what to look for, so stay away from men like this, please!
2007-11-27 21:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I too was in an abusive relationship. I understand your worries and concerns for your current relationship. If you feel threatened at all get out of it cause it's not worth it, do it before it's too late. What kind of signs does your new guy portray- you to think he too could be capable? Alot of people are capable of alot of things, you need to evaluate your current situation and stop living in the past it could really put a damper on something good. Talk to your new guy and see what his intentions are. Let him know of your past and continue to work on the future.
2007-11-27 21:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by SW 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am. Why do you suspect that the new man will be abusive? There usually are signs. After you have been there they are easier to pick up on. They can be very sly and hide it well. If you are unsure always go with your gut reaction. If you do not feel100% sure that you will be safe with him, get out now. Good luck and keep your head up.
2007-11-27 21:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im a male and i will tell you that i have got out of an abusive relationship, yeah im going to get a lot of thumbs down for this but im not wuss. my ex wife was just crazy, and in no way or how was i able to stop her when she was swingly widly with weapons, hammers, bats, knifes whatever she can get a hold of. its quite traumatic but after a while it does fade, what i can tell you, you maybe or may not be over reacting you really have to post more details into what makes you think this person may be abusive.
2007-11-27 21:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by DJ M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It took me years to trust again. I meet a man and i thought he was wonder full until one night he was drunk and beat me so bad i all most died. I moved to a new state and started a new life. You might not be over reacting at all. Lesson to your gut feelings. If you fill there is a threat get away from it. Your spelling is fine. All i am trying to say is be very care full.
2007-11-27 21:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by patches 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋