how can i prove to my self that i can do everything?
2007-11-27 20:27:15 · 10 answers · asked by Joanne W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just do what it is you need to do.
Take care of yourself physically and mentally.
Make sure you can take care of your own finances.
Everything else will fall into place.
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2007-11-27 20:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shmooks 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Role Play
2007-11-28 04:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe have more leisure time together...that's the big factor...money is a factor...but it plays a very small role. I suggest this as the best way to bond easily.
2007-11-28 04:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by ohyeah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply way is u shud share sometime for him.And go outing with him atleast once in a week.Speak to him openly about each & everythg. And u make him realize that you love him jst by saying him once in a day.
I hope dis will help you to understand the relation
2007-11-28 04:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by UMA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
darling, alarm bells are ringing here.... you CAN NOT do everything!!! it is against human capability!! do not run yourself into the ground trying!!
Money is always an obstacle... i'm sure you've already tried budgets... you know, writing down expenses, and moving the most important ones to the top, blah blah... have you tried consolidation loans to help ease the frusteration? There are also tons of debt help places (free ones ) available to lower monthly/ total expenses... and less debt is less frusteration on both parts.
It's obvious you love your husband very much, and I truly wish you both the best... does he know how much you love him? You can show him by the little things.... like that favourite meal being prepared for him, just because he's such a great husband... things like that.... and LISTEN to him... men in general dont really express their feelings very often, so when he wants to talk, and open up, LISTEN, and be as supportive as you can... that closeness and understanding goes a LOOOONG way in securing, and stabilizing a marriage!! (you have no idea!!!)
as for everyday living.... take it breath by breath.... just do your best with what you have available. that's all you can do... but DO NOT PUSH YOURSELF!!!
i used to almost kill myself when i was in your situation... 16 hours each day, hands and knees scrubbing with near boiling water, getting every speck of dirt, grime and dust out of my home constantly... 8 month pregnant, working like a slave... laundry by hand, ironing, dusting, hoovering, cleaning up after a dog who refused to housebreak, dishes, bathroom, even scrubbing ceilings, baseboards, you name it... making sure lights were off, heating was on only when he was home, otherwise i just wore loads of clothes, and called myself useless, worthless, ect. when my hands would freeze up from it...i even made sure i wouldn't have more than 1 piece of toast a day, to make sure i wasn't eating all the food, and there was plenty for him instead, as he was the one working (well, getting stoned on a building site, and lying to me about how much he was spending on drugs, anyway) everything was always my responsibility, and my fault... the good stuff was always him... as you can see, not being able to handle everything single handedly, and fix our problems fom the inside out left me in a pretty dark place I had to claw not only myself, but my baby out of!! it's a downward spiral... don't get started on it!!!
I'm sure your husband is absolutely nothing like mine, and i am really glad for that... but the implications that you can run yourself into the same hole i did is still there.... you can't control the world.. if money is the problem, get debt help... there are tons of things that can make that part easier...and talk.... but more importantly, listen... im sure he's just as stressed out as you are... so try to be a safe, reassuring haven for him to fall on when he needs to... after all, that is was a marriage truly is... a safe, secure, loving port in the storm.
i wish you the absolute best, and i hope your situation improves soon!!! keep your chin up... the good stuff always follows the bad!! :)
2007-11-28 04:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rhiannon L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody can do everything. I wouldn't even try you'll only drive yourself crazy. But try getting a job if money is always an issue.
2007-11-28 04:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a budget together and both stick to it.
2007-11-28 04:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe learn how to communicate?
2007-11-28 04:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by la-la-lauren 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't fully understand what you are asking.
2007-11-28 04:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-11-28 04:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by bobmoss75 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋