Heres the deal girls...?

Question

You can say that I am consistently bad-mouthing you as a gender. I'm not. Just looking for reasons not to quit and give up.

You make fun of guys who live w/Mom. I dont...but if she is unable to take care of herself, why is it so wrong to move her into a spare bedroom? Ive read your posts about how this is a bad thing.

You want a guy who has a good enough job, can fix everything around the house, read to your kid and still talk out your problems with you. So why complain if we cant do one of those things?

Sensitive: weak. Putting boundries down: mean. Funny: insecure or slimy. Quiet: boring.

So this is what you want: a guy who dances w/you at the clubs when he's not working his steady job and not keeping in shape at the gym. Comes home and reads to the child you had w/someone else, "shares" but only about things that matter to you, doesnt have any interests that dont concern you or anything connected to you and gives you his paycheck.

I know, not all girls are like thi

Answer 1

who ever that one person is, get rid of them. I would love it if a guy was like that but I don't expect it to ever happen. I see nothing wrong with taking/living with mom as long as the guy doesn't always follow her instructions and stands up to her when she tells him that she needs him to change whatever and can only do it on the night that you have plans with a girl. Women do not like to play second fiddle to anyone's mom. Depnding on how "bad" mom is off that she can't take care of herself, are you talking about 24 hour round the clock, or just help in cooking/cleaning etc? Sometimes mom is better off in an assisted living ficaility where they have the help to do the daily things but still maintain their independence, and then if things get to where mom needs full medical care, they have the room to take care of her. You wouldn't be neglecting mom but just not with her every waking moment.

All woman know that guys Mothers usually think that we are not good enough for their sons and that is very hard to compete with. I don't expect to ever find the "perfect" man but it is nice to find someone that truly cares.

Whereever you may go in life, I wish you the best of luck

Answer 2

I don't know how this generation can afford buying a home. I see nothing wrong with living with your parents. I think that's the only way you could save money so you can have a nice down payment on your first home. I grew up in the 60's so i really don't know how the girls feel about you guys. I'm just so thankful that I grew up in a time when you could rent a home for 100.00 a month and the phone bill was 7.00 and G&E was 25.00 and food 25.00 and you got 4 whole bags of groceries. $157.00 amonth payed for everything that's how easy it was to live back then.

Answer 3

haha, notice how all the girls that have answered are all trying to deffend themselve and not REALLY focusing on the top issue?

Here's why you shouldn't quit.

A) nobody's perfect, but its true that we all like to find someone who is, hence humans are shallow.

B) although nobody is perfect, giving up means simply setting aside what could be some of the best moments of your life. (for some people, even the pain of getting hurt would be better then not feeling it at all) an important lesson we all need to learn is how to accept others even if they're not ideal to our likings, we can still be happy.

C) Lastly, at some point if you've given up, the midlife crisis will come whether you like it or not. even if you're successful, rich, and even ruled the world, who would you be with when your in your death bed one day? will you be happy with that person?


all just some food for thought bud, may not be the best reason, but they were the ones that kept me going

Answer 4

Wow, who got you so bitter? lol it appears that way.. I understand what you mean about women wanting a guy who's financially stable and doesn't live at home. It's because we want 'men' someone to fill the shoes of a father. Plain and simple. If we are younger, then we want someone who can relate to us (there goes the club idea) and we want someone who we can grow old with (that's the health factor ei working out) and we want someone who "shares" b/c we need guys to be just like a friend sometimes (yes like a girlfriend) and we talk with our girls. So, that explains all of that crap.
As for the stereotype about Sensitive=weak. Well if you think about it being Sensitive is a RE-action to an action. So something would have to make you feel sensitive meaning you yourself feel weak and insecure. As for the funny guy character, I totally disagree with that stereotype that they are insecure or slimy. In some cases maybe, but I know I don't think that way. I want a guy who can laugh at himself and make light out of life. As for Quiet, well we don't want a guy who we have to 'force to talk with us'. We don't like that at allllll women are verbal and men are physical.
We just like men to act their manly duties out, but to involve us in them. It's a pre-historic thing. Just like you men, how you have to sit facing a door (bet you never noticed that) otherwise you feel uncomfortable, or when you get mad you have to take off (that's b/c prehistoric men use to go to their "caves" until they were calm) or how when you men are pist you would rather watch tv or play games VS talk. It's all pre-historic. Men would rather stay busy then settle themselves down. That's the "womans job" It's all in our genes we've inherited it from our ancestors.

Answer 5

That's not the description I have heard from most of my female freinds. Instead, these poor woman are just trying not to land another jerk boyfreind as usual. Or, they are desperately trying to get out of a relationship they ended up in with the jerk guy they had the misf\ortune of trusting enough to say "I do" to..

It is slim pickings out there for woman these days. Many men just refuse to Man Up these days. They want to stay perpetual teenagers high on a ego trip for life. Unfortunately many guys prescribe to the macho idiot propaganda they see all around them in our society and the media. Then they believe that's the way they should act with the females in their lives...including their mothers. Trying to find "a family man" is like looking for a needle ina haystack. It has totally fallen out of vogue with too many men. Instead, they are condoned and even admired for being the GQ playboy type with multiple woman and little boy toys(cars, jet skis ansd such) at their side.

I know many woman who would give their right arm and leg just to find one jerkless guy to date or be married to. These guys are few and far between.

Unfortunately our society is turning out males from "jerk school" at enormous rates. Woman are doing all they can to keep things going while taking care of work, children, husbands and sickly parents all at the same time. Often with little to no help from their child like grooms of whom they have had the have the misfortune to marry.

So puleeze give these ladies a break. They are not looking for Prince charming. They know full well he doesn't exist. They would in fact settle for a frog these days if he wasn't a jerk.

Answer 6

My husband was living at home when i met him.He was 39 when we met.He was living with his mom and dad.In fact I'm his first long relationship he has had.I'm not kidding.I thought he was full of it too,but talk to his mom and dad and he was telling the truth.I feel blessed to have him in my life being the man he is to me and my two kids[from previous marriage]In fact when we first met my son was three and he used to get off of work around 9pm and come over and tuck my boy in every night before he went home to his mom and dad's house .My daughter was usually already asleep.I fell in love with him.He is a set minded stubborn hardheaded man and i love him for that too.He is 47 now and i'm 36.8 years.And by the way.He has baught 20acres and a double wide mobile home for us to live in.He works his tail off and believes in the woman should stay at home and the man works.He is 6foot 2inches and weighs 220 and drives a big truck.He respects me and is loyal and trustworthy.My ex cheated and physically and mentally abused me for ten yrs before i divorced him.

Answer 7

Mmm?? Does sound like a rather hard criteria to live up to?
Then again, Men expect...
Perfect figure, big breasts, tidy house, high sex drive, cook delicious meals on demand, allow you to spend as much time with your mates as you want, flirty but not tarty, etc etc.

I guess there are high expectations on both sides... but the real truth is that once you fall inlove you accept them for all their flaws as well as their good qualities.
You learn that you yourself aren't perfect and so it's unfair for you to expect your partner to be.

What our minds want, and what our heart wants are sometimes different.
Don't try to fit into a list of requirements...just be yourself and someone will love you for being you.

Answer 8

Actually, I love a man who lives with his mother. He is trying to get back on his feet financially after his ex screwed him over! He is a very proud man and I am so proud of him! It actually make me want him even more! Look everyone goes through tough times. Everyone needs someone and at this time they need each other. He helps her with a lot of stuff (actually more than he should be) and she gives him a place to stay. So women don't knock em!

Answer 9

i want a man, a real man. i can fix things inside the house, i read to my kids when my ex-husband was at work and i dont care one bit about him being in shape. my present husband is on the healthy side, i love it, he has debt, we will get through that, never been to a club with him because he dont like to dance, not an issue, we are ok.

Answer 10

Nail on the head. This is what every girl has come to expect thanks to Kate Hudson and Reese Witherspoon movies. Get real ladies. People wonder why the divorce rate is so high. Women need to re-learn how to live with mediocrity.

EDIT: No disrespect to the good ones, I'm speakin to the majority.