he's 29-no kids never married. i am 28 with 3 little girls (ages 8,6,and 5) that i have part-time. we've had a few issues in the past-i was diagnosed with PMDD but now on meds and seeing a counselor-things are good.
we don't live together but i spend almost all of my time at his house (we both work nites Sun-Tues 7p-7a) and the kids just started spending the nite with me at his house on weekends. my cat is now staying at his house too.
we've discussed living together by Feb when my apt lease is up and marriage in future. his sisters and parents treat me like family (his oldest sister's kids call me aunt) and we're all very close.
he goes to all of my kids' events (cheer class,school events,etc) and helps me pick the kids up from school.
he's dropped proposal hints in the past but hasn't in about 6 months. should i expect something in the near future or wait it out another year since things seem to be moving along ok?
2007-11-27 22:11:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
drop him as fast as you can. he obviously is lacking commitment and doesn't want the marriage life with the instant family. its cute and nice to play house but its clear that he doesn't want you. meeting and having his family like you doesn't mean a hill of beans if he doesn't commit. let him go and see if he pops the question.
2007-11-27 22:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by doughnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why he should marry you. He seems to have everything that makes him happy, and from his perspective, what does marriage bring him? What you have shown your daughters is that its ok to settle for whatever you can get if you can't get what you really want. I'm not telling you to dump him, at this point you have a tangled mess to sort out. But you want one thing, and there isn't any real reason for him to want it too.
I guess you aren't losing anything by simply waiting, but if it were me, I'd have a conversation with him about what you are really expecting from him. If he steps up to the plate that's great, but don't be surprised if he doesn't.
2007-11-27 22:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait
2007-11-28 02:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by kaada b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey been there I waited 5yrs got married for 3 yrs but not for much longer But i think you found a good one just relax he'll pop the question. after you have lived together for a while ???? cant tell ya how long but gut feeling tells me soon good luck
2007-11-27 22:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth does a friggin ring have to do with it?
You have 3 girls and a man that loves you!
I seriously do not believe you people!
2007-11-27 22:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get married when things seem to be going fine now. maybe he doesn't want to take on the responsibility of taking care of all of you. You come with alot of baggage. When things get rough, and he doesn't want to be with you anymore then you go, and he owes you nothing.
2007-11-27 22:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you two move in together he will pop the question i wouldn't worry if i were you.It sounds like he loves you and your girls. If his family likes you then you have nothing to worry about.
2007-11-27 22:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont hold your breath. I know this guy and he does crap like this all the time. What you should expect is him trying to talk you into taking it in the backside, cause he likes that too.
2007-11-27 22:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
wow that is his choice to do that deed and your's to wait it out,,,what you going to do,,,rush him...
2007-11-27 22:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by barp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋