Family & Relationships - 20 November 2007

HE SITS ON THE DAMN THING FOR AT LEAST EIGHT HOURS A DAY!!!!!!!!! I leave for work at 2, I come home at 10, SAME SPOT, same laundry, same dishes, same mess in the room, same everything!! We have a baby girl who's 11 months and I KNOW he just ignores her and sits on the computer. He is leaving for basic training in a couple of months so you think he would spend more time with her! It's gotten to the point that I want to quit my job so I can be at home with her to ensure she is getting the attention and love she deserves!
No, he does not work! No, he will NOT do any housework! And if he does one thing, he brings it up for the rest of the week, even if it's just putting the damn clothes I WASHED in the dryer, not even folding them..
Should I take the risk of him f-cking DIVORCING me and throw all his game discs out the window and set a timer thing for Warcraft so he can only play for an hour a day? He will be so pissed, but I don't know what else to do!

2007-11-20 17:47:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What makes you so sure it should be this person? What made you pick them and not someone else? How did you know you didn't *need* anyone else?

2007-11-20 17:43:35 · 9 answers · asked by avacado pie 4 in Marriage & Divorce

my formal is soon, and i have a yellow dress ( like the movie how to lose a guy in 10 days) , its ok because im not fair skinned but i have no idea what shoes to wear? i was thinking black stilettos but i dont want to end up bumble bee like, so i was thinking brown shade colours? like woodish colour brown?
please help, much appreciated

2007-11-20 17:43:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

...a person is worth to keep in touch with???
Are first impressions corect???

2007-11-20 17:42:58 · 6 answers · asked by ele 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

He's 29 in April of 2008. He never knew what he was paying monthly for his car or car insurance/life insurance because his momma took care of that. We lived together for 2 years, and his mom constantly scolded us for eating out too much. She said this because she goes through his letters and does all his banking. When we broke up, she told me he would have saved 10k, but it was all my fault because we kept eating out? LOL. He has to see her once a week, or else she will think something is wrong. Everytime we fight, he runs and tells his mom, and his mom tells him to leave me (rather than communicating and coming to a compromise). He doesn't have any friends (no joke), so does that mean it's ok for him to run to his mom about his relationship problems? His mom is always trash talking other people- making fun of the mentally ill, people on medication, people who aren't all that attractive, people who are different, etc. Yet she is fraudulently milking disability benefits for a bad back

2007-11-20 17:39:56 · 11 answers · asked by chocolate_cat 3 in Marriage & Divorce

If so, how did you move on..?

2007-11-20 17:37:31 · 9 answers · asked by William N 1 in Singles & Dating

Well i've been friends with my boyfriend since the beggining of high school and we liked eachother for a long time. We were always caught up with other people and could not be together until about 9 months ago. when i was 15 i wanted to go out with him and i reall y liked him but apparantly his brother liked me at the same time. he told me to go out with his bro becaue he really liked me. my bf was not ready 4 a relationship. I went out with his bro bc i was upset about him rejecting me and i did what he wanted. went out with his bro for a year and 3 month until grade 12. it was a shitty relationship and he hit me and abused me and treated me like ****. By the end of the relationship i was an emotional wreck because of his torment and he broke up with me. Then sometime later his bro asked me out and treated me really well and i found out he is the perfect guy for me. Problem i we have to keep it a secret and have been for 9 months. i want to tell my ex,but my bf wont let. what do i do?

2007-11-20 17:37:29 · 4 answers · asked by Lisa 2 in Singles & Dating

I feel so powerless and afraid for my girls...please read and offer ANY advice. I have physical custody of my 3 daughters, and my ex filed a restraining order against me (it WAS GRANTED!!!). He's claimed(obviously untrue) I hit them/put them in dangerous situations/don't bathe them/among numerous other insane accusations. He began a custody battle 2 mos after the div was finalized 1 yr ago. I can't afford to hire a decent atty. He was abusive in the marriage, hasn't had much interest in them until the last year. He simply doesn't want to pay child support. I'm a stay at home soccer type mom who LIVES for her children. He won't even help with homework. His lies are better than my truths. No ones even interviewed the girls, and I haven't been ALLOWED to present ANY evidence to the judge!Tomorrow I won't know the next time I'll be allowed to speak to or see them. I'm dying inside!Advice, prayers, moral support!? PLEASE! I can't believe this is happening to us!

2007-11-20 17:35:34 · 5 answers · asked by MegJessEm 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend and i are always talking on the phone and most of the time we dont know what to talk about.... and now he is like i have to go so think of something happy to talk about when i get back... but i dont know what to talk about...! what should i talk about??? please help! thank you.

2007-11-20 17:31:51 · 8 answers · asked by hailey 1 in Singles & Dating

she had made excuses for same date with you

2007-11-20 17:31:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

still cannot make a conection with any girl and when I do it I cannot end up in the friend category in the first ten minutes of interaction?

It's hard for me not to be a nice guy and as you know nice guys are losers.

2007-11-20 17:31:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-20 17:27:15 · 13 answers · asked by kurd_wolf 1 in Singles & Dating

Its been two years since this girl and I ended it. We dated for several months(short time) and we were both very attracted to each other. She broke it off with me after a huge fight. She thought I had other girls at my house. I didnt. Hence, she accused me of being a player and I accused her of being a player as well. The fact is I still miss her. My body and mind still craves this woman while logic forces myself to stay away. When I see her out I just feel so uncomfortable. I've seen her kissing another man in the past and it hurt like major hell. I played it cool and got myself a girl too. She saw me with a woman or two as well--so im sure it hurt her too. I feel hate/love towards her. I've emailed her a few times asking her out. She just is ambiguous about it.
Anyway, last week I saw her at sports club and she was on a double date. I was with a potential date as well but nothing materialized. I'm dating another woman right now but its so hard to get over my ex. Any suggestion

2007-11-20 17:26:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have tried but she keeps shooting me down she says stuff like her back hurts or she does not feel good i have tried to make a move on her every night and nothing happens i don't know what else to do i have talked to her about it

it make me feel like she don't love me no more it has all most been 4 months but i still say 3 months untill that 4 month date

and no i have not did any thing to make her made or even had a fight the last fight we had was around 8 yrs ago

we are both together 24/7 so i know she is not cheating on me

the kids go to sleep any where from 10 to 12 dep. on what day it is

2007-11-20 17:26:16 · 14 answers · asked by kingkong9274 3 in Marriage & Divorce

hit me with the best pick up lines funny corny anything is koo

thanks

2007-11-20 17:23:17 · 14 answers · asked by Mr.Nice Guy 2 in Singles & Dating

When I was 15, I was pressured to have sex with my older boyfriend. This resulted in my gorgeous daughter who is now 5 and I couldn't be happier. My daughter has never seen her Dad, he doesn't pay any Child Support, and isn't named on the birth certificate. I have always had the approach of "well, if she asks about him, I'll tell and if not, I won't". I am in a loving stable relationship with my new partner of 2 years and my daughter calls him Dad through her choice.
I was out around town with friend on Friday night and I saw my daughter's dad....dressed as a woman, and not as in a joking way either. He had his hair done, and was wearing horrible woman's clothes, and looked nervous as hell. He looked right at me, and knows I saw him.
Can someone please give me some advice, of what I might possibly say when or if my daughter should ever ask about her real Dad?

2007-11-20 17:22:44 · 7 answers · asked by Little Bear 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

When you feel like it's really frustrating for you to keep your feelings with someone who already has someone in life, what will you do for you to get over it?

2007-11-20 17:20:34 · 12 answers · asked by yummyplum 1 in Singles & Dating

Marriage Myth 8: Married people have less satisfying sex lives, and less sex, than single people.

2007-11-20 17:20:29 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Kimchi♥ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

If you had a girlfriend you really really love and she loves you alot too but she flirts alot with guys but dosen't mean to it just happens and the guy she flirts with sometimes flirts back how would you feel? Would you be jealous? Would you do the same thing back to her?

2007-11-20 17:18:26 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay, so is it normal to get turned on by chemistry equipment? My one classmate was moaning while smelling potassium chromate or something like that. What's wrong with him???

2007-11-20 17:16:46 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ gohangirl708 ♥ 5 in Singles & Dating

My bf told me when he dropped by in my ofc during lunch break that he had a dream that we were doing it on top of my side table here in my ofc. I thought that was a naughty thing but now everytime I see the side table (which we measured to be just right for his height) I just imagine himj rocking my world. I sent him an sms abt what im imagning so he asked me when we will do it. He asked what abt later at 7pm.. Im excited but at the same time quite afraid. We can do it in the corner but oh my gosh i cant concentrate. This is a first time in the ofc for me... Do it? or not? Help!!!! (no security cameras here)

2007-11-20 17:16:08 · 10 answers · asked by Stefani 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been out of high school for 8 years and I dream of this guy laying in his coffin dead. He was my closest guy friend and I had a crush on him. A few months after high school he told me he also had a crush on me. We kissed, but that was it. But, now I always dream him dead. I saw him maybe 6 months ago and he is happily married with 2 children. What can this dream mean? Well, if dreams have meanings at all....

2007-11-20 17:15:57 · 17 answers · asked by C 2 in Singles & Dating

the common sexual relationship is a natural sexual relationship of a male with a female or a female with a male, homosex is a sex between two same sex. It is neither a mental problem nor a habit. It is also a desire of a person as the case may be. But the natural rule doesnot permit it due to the procuration problem.

2007-11-20 17:15:53 · 3 answers · asked by abanti 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have an 11 month old daughter. When I got pregnant he dragged me to live with his mother eight hours away from the only place I've ever lived. He allows his mother to treat me like complete crap. I became very depressed after the birth of my daughter but started a full time job in April and that has really helped. He has not worked or been enrolled in college for over two months now; he is waiting to leave for basic in Jan. I work a forty hour week, do all the house chores (asking him to do anything is such a big deal I may as well do it myself) and breastfeed my baby. I know he neglects her when I am at work (as in not spending any time with her) so he can play video games for over eight hours a day. Even when he worked/went to school he only worked 20 hours a week or was failing classes. He treats me like a maid or just some woman he lives with. I don't even get a 'thank you' for being f-cking wonder woman. He gets defensive when I try to talk to him.. help?

2007-11-20 17:13:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Sounds like a simple question really eh? Well we have been together for a year. We are both college students so we dont have loads of money. We both agreed to spend around $50 on each other. I asked her what she wanted and she said she couldnt think of a single thing. I want to avoid the cliche perfume gift. Does anyone have any good suggestions in the ballpark of $50 that we both agreed on? Any help is appreciated. :-)

2007-11-20 17:09:29 · 3 answers · asked by cncertluvr 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been dating this guy now for almost a year... when we first started dating last semester we spent alot of time together and it was great. Now here we are about 6 months later... into the current semester... he seems indifferent when i am around, when i say i love you or show affection he does not reciporocate. I asked him why that has been the case and i have really been noticing the distance with him latley. He says he thinks that we've been spending way too much time together and thats what the problem is and we have been driving each other nuts... he is not sure that time has been the issue... i just sense more trouble looming on the horizon. we don;t live together, he used to be very loving toward me and i am hurting now i love him and don't want to loose him... i am not sure as to what to do.... and i am hurting alot please help...

2007-11-20 17:07:01 · 8 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Singles & Dating

i know i have already asked this twice but i havnt got any answers and need help!
today on the bus i let a couple of people look at my phone but i told them not to look through my photos and messages. ofcourse they did though.
my only problem is that they sent a picture to a few year nines on the bus via bluetooth (it was a really really bad pic!)
i know NOW not to let them "look" through my phone, but s should i ignore them or give them a bit of a slap even though you shouldn't use violence?

2007-11-20 17:05:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My best friend is friends with somebody who I DO NOT like at all cause that person who my best friend is friends with is not a very nice person and he has a really bad anger problem and he's been in trouble with the law for assaulting somebody and domestic violence on his ex-wife and he's gotten into many fights.

What should I do to tell my best friend how I feel about the person who he is friends with, I do not want to be friends with him and associate with him, my brother does not like him at all either but my best friend thinks very highly of him.

2007-11-20 16:54:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I live with my husband and 2 year old. The agreement was, they would get a storage unit for all their belongings. Then they said they couldn't afford one and took over our garage! They were supposed to buy their own toilet paper and laundry detergent type items. When my toilet paper ran out they used my daughters baby wipes(these are expensive for those that dont have kids) They go out at least 3 times a week. They had a $300 bar tab in just 2 WEEKS! They invite crappy people over at all hours of the night. We dont smoke so we asked that they be curtious. They smoke on my enclosed porch and throw cigarette butts all over my yard! I buy more expensive food because I'm picky, they buy store brand and eat all mine, AND THEIRS! When I was taking care of my sister who had surgery her husband asked my sister for her pain meds. 3 TIMES! They started talking crap to my sis because I asked for rent when he got paid 11 days before rent as opposed to letting them pay me 4 days after rent is due!

2007-11-20 16:54:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

we have been together for 10 years and we seperated for a year we got back together this last Dec. and he had never slept with anyone before me now, he has slept with 3 other people and our sex life sucks! why is that? Am I not good enough or is he just too comfortable with me and donesnt feel like he has to prove himself?

2007-11-20 16:53:10 · 7 answers · asked by Stephanie B 1 in Marriage & Divorce