Family & Relationships - 20 November 2007

Like thats gonna make me love or like my husband? Besides to me marriage is just an ancient ritual thats mostly just a piece of paper that enslaves women to be a mans property.

2007-11-20 01:07:03 · 20 answers · asked by Death Girl Am 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I have been married 7 1/2 yrs. She has done things and said things to me and is trying to come between us and he allows it. He won't listen to me or believe anything negative I say about her. In his eyes she can do no wrong. He doesn't treat me with respect or even caring. He says he loves me, but disses me all the time where she's concerned. We are christians and I've showed him some bible verses about how husbands should love their wives and put them first. He even argues with God's word. I bellieve he is a sociopath because he cannot see that he is doing wrong by me and has no conscience and is unable to care about the pain he is causing me. I believe in the wedding vows but I don't know how long I can live with the pain he is causing me. I would never try to come between him and his daughter but he is letting her come between us. He has another daughter that he has disowned for a stupid reason. He turns love on and off like a light switch. Advice please.

2007-11-20 00:59:52 · 17 answers · asked by kbear 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i like him i'm shy and he is too also i want to know what will a shy guy say and what will he do? is that a good idea?

2007-11-20 00:53:30 · 17 answers · asked by MiamiLM 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-20 00:48:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with this man for 7 years. We have two kids together. He is very immature and I don't trust him.
Friday his sister got out of rehab and she told me he was over there telling her how bad he wanted to get high. It is just pot but still. So I went off on him telling him I didn't want to be with someone who does drugs. He persisted that he didn't.
Yesterday, he had some friends over and was outside in our barn. I called his cell and he didn't answer so I went out to the barn and it smelled like pot. So I went off on him and told him he was a lier. Just Friday he said his sister was lying and blah blah blah. So I told him to pack his stuff and he could be a pot head somewhere else. So he did but he didn't leave. He changed the subject and started being nice and kissing my butt. That didn't work with me. So then he tried to flip it around on me telling me he was sick of being accused stuff and I was being a jerk.
I am going to school working and running a daycare.

2007-11-20 00:46:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My husband has a 36 year old stepdaughter from a previous marriage. She comes by our house on the weekends. When he's there, she looks and talks directly to him treating me as if I'm invisible. When I'm there alone, she walks in, goes through our cabinets helping herself to snacks without asking. She drops her children over for me to babysit without asking. The last time she did this, her son stole 5 of my son's video games. I sent her an email asking her to check with her son to see if he knew anything about the missing games. He admitted to taking one. When I told my husband I wanted his grandson banded from the house until he return the others games, my husband had a fit! We got into a hugh argument which he carried to his stepdaughter over the phone. She then wrote me an email cursing me out. I showed him the email and asked what he plans to do about the way she speaks to me, he said, "She's a grown woman, she can say whatever she wants."

2007-11-20 00:45:45 · 39 answers · asked by LS 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i like this boy named Chris Siera.I don't know who likes me. how do i find out if he likes me?

2007-11-20 00:44:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so my ex-b/f and i were on good grounds. we talked and everything, untill sat. On sat. him and one of his friends called me. My ex, told me the reason he broke up with me was to so he could do drugs again, and he said he hated me, and the only thing i had going for me was im hott. I was pissed.the next day my bff called him and bitched him out. i felt bad called and appologized. He told me he was drunk and that it wasnt true, the reason he broke up with me was cuz we only knew each other for 4 weeks. so we were cool untill i found out he is now going out with some girl that he has only known for 3 weeks. AND he told his friend that the reason he broke up with me was cuz i wouldnt give him any. HE NEVER TRIED! Im so pissed right now that he can say one thing to my face and another behind my back. SHOULD I CONFRONT HIM or just kick him asside, so he thinks we are cool but not talk to him.?

2007-11-20 00:42:48 · 1 answers · asked by vetchick13 1 in Singles & Dating

I love my husband but lately he's been driving me crazy. I'm 3 months pregnant and he's never home. He works full time and is an assistant football coach at the high school where I work. He goes there after work so he gets home around 8 or so right when I'm ready to call it a night. Then on the weekends he still wants to go out with his friends and I have put the breaks on that but it aggravates him so then he gets mad w/ me that I want him to stay in and we have a horrible time. At first he was really excited about the baby but now I feel so alone and I am craving for attention. Is this just hormonal? He thinks I overreact but I just want him around and for US to do things... This is more of a venting session but any advice of how to POSITIVELY handle this would be great! :)

2007-11-20 00:41:16 · 17 answers · asked by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4 in Marriage & Divorce

9 years of partner
12 years of spouse
with partner he always bring his 12 inch ruler and but it between them as a barrier because he didnt want to cheat on his spouse
He met partner for eight years and never got caught
Ninth year new partner the wife knew
He says he did not commit adultry. She says he did
He says he always had his ruler wirth hi 12 inches apart never closer in all the yeaars of rhthmic sensual action
He told wife that if they were six inches apart they may have touched due to the nature of being a man but at 12 inches he never ever reached her though they had passionate action without ever touching
He made a point that they were always fully clothed eventhough she often wore tight pants and mini skirts. They discussed the wifes inability to meet his husband needParner wanted to get rid of the ruler He never did eventhough upon leaving he was mentally tortturedsensually for never touching
he worked, paid bills did husband sensual act ,Spouse socialized often

2007-11-20 00:41:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he said that we should be together at that time we had different rooms from our spouses and that we wanted love and desire in a relationship should i believe him after two years that he still loves me and wants me if he doesn't get a divorce

2007-11-20 00:39:16 · 23 answers · asked by sue w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I've just had the most beautiful offer of a romantic hotel with a cosy room with big bed, own open fire and close to the sea, that just sounds wonderful to me, what is the most romantic place you have been?

2007-11-20 00:37:10 · 11 answers · asked by Pitstop!! 4 in Singles & Dating

I have been out of work for 10 months now. My husband think I do not want to work. In the last 10 months I have had 4 different jobs. Now our marriage is taking a turn for the worst. We do not talk, sleep, eat, or do anything else. I feel really bad about my job situation, but I do not know what to do. Also this is also taking an effect on our two kids. Christmas is also here.

2007-11-20 00:36:44 · 20 answers · asked by sanna 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is in the military. We live in Florida. My family lives in Ohio. His family [except his father who lives in Florida also] lives in New Mexico. We just got back from a most needed trip to visit his family in NM.

Anyway, we are in debt now. We've never been in debt. It isn't a whole lot but it's much more than I'd like to be in. [$1,000] There were issues this year with our Thanksgiving plans. [See link below.] Now, we're having issues with our Christmas plans!

My FIL made plans with his 'new' family before he was divorced to go to NM to ski. Now that he's divorced my SIL will only be able to go. DH has decided [and told his family] we will also be attending this ski trip.

I have many issues with this. Leaving the fact that I truly dislike my FIL and I haven’t’ visited any of my family in over a year--we are in debt. Between this Thanksgiving trip, Christmas presents, and so much more we are just going to drowned ourselves not to add this new trip. We have just got back from NM. I’m just going crazy over all these road trips.

So, what is the best way to approach this situation with my husband? I don’t want to nag and accuse him of not being thoughtful but I don’t want to just give in, again. I want him to understand that while I don’t mind spending time with his family I really enjoy having the holidays just us. He’s been deployed through many and I just want some holiday we can spend alone. Thanks for your advice on my situation!

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Atd.XYyuGNMhZYY5.ymSQansy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071117112050AATOcNR

2007-11-20 00:35:48 · 8 answers · asked by .vato. 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-20 00:33:17 · 1 answers · asked by Alex 1 in Singles & Dating

What is wrong with all you people out there that cheat and then post questions like "Should I end the affair or stay with my boyfriend/girlfriend?" Or "I'm in love with the person I'm having an affair with. Should I tell my spouse?" Has society become that degenerated that nobody stays faithful anymore?! What the hell is wrong with people?!

2007-11-20 00:32:09 · 17 answers · asked by Kathy R 5 in Marriage & Divorce

well im out the door ,things are not going to work.in one breath she says i dont have to leave,then says she is going to rent out a room downstairs.this is all said within a few days.was it planned .i dont know nor care but do you think its some sort of tactic,head game.shes even stated how much it costs for a background check for any person who might rent it.the house is a fixer upper and the room she wants to rent out is trashed.there is no way any normal person would even rent it for any price.unless its someone she knows ,maybe or some freak.have you been here?what do you think?

2007-11-20 00:30:19 · 3 answers · asked by mr. y 5 in Marriage & Divorce

please help me

2007-11-20 00:22:18 · 16 answers · asked by neri'za 1 in Singles & Dating

for Thanksgiving.
I know I get a great meal at my wifes in laws but I'll get a great piece of breast and thigh at my new honey's place.

Maybe I can eat a big meal with the wife then start a fake fight and head over to my mistress and have her for dessert.

Hmmmm
decisions I do have.

2007-11-20 00:22:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he says he cares about her and doesn't want to see her hurt. and that he wants and loves our life together should i be ok if he takes her to dinner for her birthday

2007-11-20 00:20:58 · 17 answers · asked by sue w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

do you need really like the person that you are doing it with. cos i find when i am with someone who i think is ok, the sex is average but when i really like the person the sex is mindblowing

2007-11-20 00:19:44 · 18 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-20 00:17:17 · 26 answers · asked by Little Angel 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We don't even share the same bed room and have not for the last three years. I told her I want a divorce and she says, why? I have connected with someone else. Do I tell her I have found someone else?

2007-11-20 00:14:01 · 14 answers · asked by WileECoyote8 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife and I have been having problems, there are no affairs or weird stuff, we just fight. I really wanted it to work out, we separated about 2 months ago, and she is in counseling, I asked her about US going, and she explained to me that she wanted to work on her before our relationship. Well that has now taken its toll on me, because she is more self centered now and meaner. I feel bad because we have 3 children together, I grew up in a solid family, and wanted the same for myself and children, but I can't tolerate any longer her moods, and attitude towards our relationship. She puts herself first, and I believe always will. I am only responsible for my actions, from her forth, I am at the end of my chain and I really need some advice on what avenues I should consider or take.

2007-11-20 00:13:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

gifts you a dress ( on your wedding anniversary) of your favourite brand ... a brand which you always told your ex ... you loved and wanted to go to buy with) your ex is now beeen married for almost a year and has new born baby too.

2007-11-20 00:13:28 · 8 answers · asked by barley 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm an Arab Egyptian male 19-year-old. To cut a long story short, I'm intellectual, westernized, agnostic, and generally very intelligent. I reject my politics and religion and loathe my ethnic identity—a colonial mentality/inferiority complex it may be called, but it is what it is. Considering that brief, maybe irrelevant background information, although I like striking women of all races, I find I'm strongly attracted to white women because I believe their features are the rarest, frailest, and most beautiful—creamy white skin, brilliant blue or green eyes, smooth golden hair—the eye color and skin color I'd want myself, and I'm planning a makeover for the pending years, but anyhow—I think they're angelic. I'm obviously far from alone in this, because I read that twice as many black men marry white women as black women (I'm naturally tan).

2007-11-20 00:04:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

the disco was "es paradise" lokated in San Antonio (ibiza) .The day was..i think(i was drunk) 29/07/07..."i said you that i merried you..and you kissed me later, when i was dancing on a cube,than your friend take you in another place..i never stop to think about you!!"..it's the maximum i can do,otherwise see you in another life

2007-11-20 00:03:28 · 6 answers · asked by Lorenzo R 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Congratulations to Her Majesty for 60 years marriage. My parents are 50 years married in May next year. Divorce is 'too simple' now... the younger generations seem to treat marriage with distain. They tie-the-knot , then seperate very soon after. The commitment just isn't there for whatever reasons.

2007-11-20 00:03:21 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce