I have been out of work for 10 months now. My husband think I do not want to work. In the last 10 months I have had 4 different jobs. Now our marriage is taking a turn for the worst. We do not talk, sleep, eat, or do anything else. I feel really bad about my job situation, but I do not know what to do. Also this is also taking an effect on our two kids. Christmas is also here.
2007-11-20 00:36:44 · 20 answers · asked by sanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try a Home Business here are a couple of sites that might give you some information
http://www.ebusinessbonanza.com/
http://www.entrepenuer.com/homebasedbiz/
OR you could go to your local College and talk to a Counsellor and talk to him/her about what Course would be of interest to you. Once you find something you really like to do for a living for the rest of your life, it will make your marriage easier. You can also do Courses on-line and get a degree. You can get financing for College so therefore you will have money while your attending School. I hope this helps you, once you start making decisions what line of work you really want to do, then your Marriage will be back on track and it will be better then ever. Good Luck!!
2007-11-20 00:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortune that you haven't had a stable job for the past 20 months or so and it's been 10 months since you last had a job. Your husband should realise however that he never fell in love with your job or the earnings out of that. It was YOU instead.
Communication is the most vital instrument in marriage. Now that you do not talk, try writing a letter to you husband, experssing how much you still love him dispite your work situation, how much you would love to support him in the home and how much it hurts you to see you marriage disentagle. You may rekindle the dialogue process and then hopefuly talk things over. Do not try to accuse him. Talk about YOUR feelings with respect to the situation. Make him appreciate what you are going through too.
All the best.
2007-11-20 02:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money can destroy a marriage. The best thing you can do is to use your time off to make gifts for Christmas.
Use your computer to submit as many resumes as possible to job sites and directly to employment agencies. See if you can get a temp job. There are usually temp jobs during this time of the year.
Tell your husband about all of the jobs that you have been working on getting. Let him know that you want to work to help support your family, but you have not been able to find a job that you can do.
Take care,
Troy
2007-11-20 00:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you working? Are you quiting these jobs. If so, are you communicating with your husband first? Are you seeking jobs you enjoy? Do you want to work? A marriage is for better or worse. If you continuously worked prior to marriage, what is different now. Sounds like you need to search within yourself, then communicate honestly with your husband.
2007-11-20 00:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find a ob ASAP for your kids sake with Christmas and all. I remember when my parents divorced near Christmas, all the fighting + lack of money. I got 1 doll, my mom was upset,and it was just unlike any other Christmas. So sad and it could have been different.
Make a effort for their sake and your husband. Life is not easy but your family is everything - I know mine is.
Start eating, starting conversations, have him help you job hunt, take your kids to the park - start acting like a family. Put effort into it and a job.
Remember the marriage vows [remind him] are through better and worse.
Good luck!!!!
2007-11-20 00:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is just a test in your marriage, but not talking could escalate more into hating each other, remember it is the foundation of any relationship --communication, its a bad situation and i can say you have to save that marriage of yours yes having a job could be the starting ground in saving your marriage specially you mentioned that you have two kids and yes christmas is fast approaching. I hope you find a job and that your marriage would be saved and your kids would have a great christmas...pray hard for i do believe it works wonders!!
2007-11-20 00:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like there is some serious communication problems in your relationship. You are not working and he is feeling the strain of trying to hold the family together. Personally, I feel that you are not giving it 100% in your job area. You need to put the needs of your family first. Grants sometimes work is not fun, But when you put 100% while you are there, It will pay off. Better for you, better for family, better financially. You need to take time and talk to your spouse.. He may have some good insite as to why you aren't keeping a job.
2007-11-20 00:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Gail C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about the hard times. I have been their before with the holidays near it is even harder to get a new job. you may need to take whatever you can get till about feb when the job market should start to open up for spring work. I do not know if this will help but go to www.narms.com fill out the free profile and their are all sorts of reset work, merchandising and sales . and they pay pretty good. hope this helps.
2007-11-20 00:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Larry M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are or what the problem is that you can't find or keep a job. Get a job - ANY job - even if it's at McDonalds or WalMart - and while working there be looking for something better along the lines of whatever skill set you have.
2007-11-20 00:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try these web sites; they are all legitimate and I know people who work for every one of them; I'm applying right now to work on weekends. They're all work at home:
www.west.com, www.alpineaccess.com, www.liveops.com
When you have secured one or more of these jobs, everything will improve for you, including your marriage...good luck!
2007-11-20 00:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋