I have been with this man for 7 years. We have two kids together. He is very immature and I don't trust him.
Friday his sister got out of rehab and she told me he was over there telling her how bad he wanted to get high. It is just pot but still. So I went off on him telling him I didn't want to be with someone who does drugs. He persisted that he didn't.
Yesterday, he had some friends over and was outside in our barn. I called his cell and he didn't answer so I went out to the barn and it smelled like pot. So I went off on him and told him he was a lier. Just Friday he said his sister was lying and blah blah blah. So I told him to pack his stuff and he could be a pot head somewhere else. So he did but he didn't leave. He changed the subject and started being nice and kissing my butt. That didn't work with me. So then he tried to flip it around on me telling me he was sick of being accused stuff and I was being a jerk.
I am going to school working and running a daycare.
2007-11-20 00:46:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I will be starting clincials full time no pay in January.
I can't work and do the daycare and go to school. I won't have the time.
So do I let him stay so he can pay the majority of the bills and help me out until I am done with school, which is a year.
or
Do i go to the store and buy a home drug test tell him if he passes he can stay if he fails he is out.
Or
Do you have a different idea.
I feel like if he will lie about this he will lie about anything.
I just dont know what to do.
2007-11-20 00:48:24 · update #1
Take his things and put them in the street. Change the locks, change your phone number. See an attorney about securing child support. Then.................
Scrape him off and don't look back.
2007-11-20 00:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if he smokes pot once in a while. Does he work, pay bills, help out???? Is he nice to you??? Leave him the hell alone then and continue about your relationship. You aren't the "pot" police for God's sake!!!!
I am anti-drugs and anti-pot, BUT if my husband chose to smoke up once in a while with his buddies I could care less. It DOES begin to matter if he spends money on pot, does other drugs or stops working, etc... You get the pic.
It sounds like you have a great husband and you are the NAG NAG NAG in the relationship. Stop being the NAG if your husband is doing great as a husband. Smoking a joint once in a while isn't going to kill your husband or your marriage - but your NAGGING WILL.
2007-11-20 09:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts! You feel that you can't trust him and I guess there is a reason for it. Sounds like more trouble than you actually need. If you trust yourself to do it on your own than do it. Having a man at home doesn't always mean he will pay the bills and you know where his money is going to be going at anyway.
You can be bad all by yourself!!
2007-11-20 08:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by the girl next door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU HAVE GIVEN HIM A CHANCE AND HE DOESNT WANT TO KNOW,ILD SAY LET THE BASTARD GO
BUT FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS TRY YOUR BEST TO PUT UP WITH HIM,IF HE STILL ACT LIKE A FOOL,KICK HIS BACKSIDE OUT,YOU HAVE ENOUGH TO DEAL WITH RIGHT NOW,THAN TO WORRY ABOUT LOW LIFES
2007-11-20 08:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by tryedirin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋