My wife and I have been having problems, there are no affairs or weird stuff, we just fight. I really wanted it to work out, we separated about 2 months ago, and she is in counseling, I asked her about US going, and she explained to me that she wanted to work on her before our relationship. Well that has now taken its toll on me, because she is more self centered now and meaner. I feel bad because we have 3 children together, I grew up in a solid family, and wanted the same for myself and children, but I can't tolerate any longer her moods, and attitude towards our relationship. She puts herself first, and I believe always will. I am only responsible for my actions, from her forth, I am at the end of my chain and I really need some advice on what avenues I should consider or take.
2007-11-20 00:13:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you can say that you've tried everything to make this marriage work... and its still not working.... than moving forward with a divorce may be the only step left to take. That's to bad.......... because more than anyone else, your kids will suffer. They'll get to meet all their mom's new boyfriends... you'll get to be a visitor to your own kids... they'll feel unstable at home. Sucks, bro......
2007-11-20 00:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that right now its no longer about the two of you but the 3 loves you both reated. I would work this out on behalf of those kids you share with that woman. Its rough being a single parent. Any way sit down make rules and try to understand eachothers sides once that is done you will be well on your way to a satisfactory relationship
2007-11-20 08:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with her wanting to work on herself, but she also needs to realize that she is Married (Partnership for life). You need to tell her that you are ok with her going, but you feel it would be in the best interest of your marriage and kids to go see someone together. Why does she have an attitude toward your relationship? There's more to this....Apparently she didn't have a stable home life, but that is NO excuse!!!
2007-11-20 08:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tabatha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like you need couples therapy. Tell her if she won't go then it will be time for a break. Maybe you need a break from each other. Give her an ultimatum. Therapy or break. And I know a lot of "breaks" that have lead to divorce. So really try to get her to go to therapy.
Just to let you know it sounds like her therapist has given her advice that has made her want to move on. Sorry.
2007-11-20 08:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by just me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick out what divorce attorney you may choose to use in the future.
2007-11-20 08:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you in counseling, it's not up to her to fix you, it takes two and I don't think you're telling the whole story!
2007-11-20 10:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tried and now it is time to leave.
2007-11-20 08:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋