he said that we should be together at that time we had different rooms from our spouses and that we wanted love and desire in a relationship should i believe him after two years that he still loves me and wants me if he doesn't get a divorce
2007-11-20 00:39:16 · 23 answers · asked by sue w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey my friend, remember "Grass always seems to be greener on the other side of the fence'!
It will always be tempting and attractive to you what is not yours and once you get it then you think was it worth it?
I tell you if a man cheats on his wife then he will always be a cheater even if he marries you, he will then cheat on you too.
Most of married men do get attracted to other women and if you are an attractive women then believe me you will come across many more.
But again, hey its your own life and you should hear us all but at the end of the day its you who have to decide. Do look at the pros and cons especially if you have kids.
I do believe, it must be the most difficult decision of your life but I will request you that do not get blinded by the term love as at times we confuse love with lust or sexual attraction. As the later is a very temporary fling which can even last for two years and even more but living to gather is totally different.
I will also suggest that if you both must live togather then wait till he submitts a suit for divorse otherwise he may come up with some excuse.
Again all marriages and I mean all marriages begin with love and then you live your life with a compromise for kids.
If your husband is not an abuser then do reconsider your decision and if you are totally unhappy with this man then do leave him but not for the reasons you have asked in you question.
Wish you a very good luck with your very difficult dilemma.
2007-11-20 01:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Male Muse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy who "wants" YOU is the one who is available (single/divorced) and is going to MARRY you. The "want" from a married man is SEX.
You would leave your family to go with a man who has not left his wife? The name for that person is FOOL.
Perhaps you should spend some of this mental and sexual energy on your marriage. You may find that a little work could result in a better situation at home so you are not lead to becoming a liar and cheat.
The life choice you are considering is perhaps the most despicable type you can assume.
Do not be so naive about these advances that you demean yourself to this level.
2007-11-20 00:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering you have about 5 or 6 questions about this same situation today...I would say that you have NO clue what love is...period. Aside from the fact that you're with a married man...you have no clue what to think about anything pertaining to this guy. I think it's kind of funny actually because you're being played. If he wanted to be with you he'd leave his wife...point blank. I understand he doesn't want to hurt her but husbands and wives leave ALL THE TIME. If they want to badly enough they do! And I wouldn't be so sure about what he tells you...unless you have a camera in his house, you have NO idea what they do.
2007-11-20 00:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by laura1977 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st of all have you heard this expression...once a cheater always a cheater?? If not take a good look at that phrase! Since he hasn't divorced his wife that should give you a clue! He is using you for sex and telling you just what you want to hear to keep you there. Don't be a stooge! Cut off all relationship to him and get back to loving your husband and hope that he(your husband) can forgive you!!
2007-11-20 00:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by KayKay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not getting the love you need from your husband then talk to him. I mean im sure you married him because you loved him, what's changed? do you not love him anymore?
To be honest you seem very vulnerable right now. Get the love and attention from your husband, talk to him. I mean marriage is hard and you can't just give up as soon as something goes wrong unless you truly feel that you don't love him anymore.
BEst of luck.
2007-11-20 00:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? How can you come and ask strangers if you should forget your family and have a sex fling? The lack of moral direction and character displayed by this question is truly appalling. Get yourself together. Just pull yourself together and quit making it all about feeling good for 5 minutes.
2007-11-20 00:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Vincent Van Jessup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Christianity, there is no room for that, but socially, you may say you want to be happy and thereby stay with the Man your heart is dying for...It's a matter of satisfying your heart desire....But how are you sure you will get the best out of the new man? and how convinced are you the he is a better choice?
2007-11-20 00:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by LASTBORN 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The odds are against you, less than 2% of men who have affairs actually do leave their family for the other woman even if they say that's what they want. You can get rid of your husband, but you can't get rid of your children, you have a responsibility towards them...You shouldn't play with their future like that.
2007-11-20 00:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave your husband and family for a man who will not get a divorce and leave his wife and family? Are you nuts?
2007-11-20 02:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, is the short answer to that.
I think you know yourself he wont get a divorce, he would of started the ball rolling by now if he really wanted to be apart from his wife regardless of you.
2007-11-20 00:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by smaxsx1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋