Family & Relationships - 20 November 2007

Lately I have been really impatient with my husband. He keeps asking me for help with documents, filling out forms and doing all kinds of things for him. Because I refuse and he won't do these things himself and then he turns around and asks his MOTHER to do these things for him.

He hasn't had a job for a while and I can BARELY afford to keep us above water. He won't take the ONLY car we have during the day while I'm at work to look for a job. He won't look for a job or call potential employers to see if they are hiring unless I get on his case.

I’ve been so stressed out because I’m on the brink of losing my job and he wants me to do everything for him and he won’t do a thing. I don’t know what to do, other than continue refusing to things for him. When he calls to complain about something, I snap at him like he’s a child. What can I do to stop from being impatient?

2007-11-20 07:27:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, to all my fellow American Yahooligans...I LOVE coming to marriage and divorce to answer questions, but I NEVER ask anything.....so here I am, asking......who is the one person on your spouses/significant other's side of the family that will MOST LIKELY RUIN Thanksgiving this year, and why?

Have a happy and safe holiday everyone!!!

2007-11-20 07:26:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2 months (1 month "officially"). He's 24, I'm 21. He is a very "sexual" person (if that's the right word to use). I have experience, but not a lot. I haven't really ever given head (except for once or twice). The only thing I have a bit of experience with is sex. I don't want to jump in the sack with my current boyfriend right away, and I know there's other ways of pleasing him. However, the thought of touching his manhood with my hands or putting it in my mouth... kind of makes me terrified that I'll be bad at it, or that it will be disgusting. I don't know if I should just do it already or if there's something I can do to get over the fear/make it a pleasant experience for myself. Any suggestions?

2007-11-20 07:25:31 · 3 answers · asked by Danielle M 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-20 07:23:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We each have a daughter in idaho,when one calls wanting us to immediately get a plane ticket then changes her mind he is furious. saying he is not helping her anymore he's tired of it
(Guess who's daughter)but the other one will do the exact same thing and he defends her decission? Why do men do that? I am tired of both of them doing it. It stresses me out I drop everything to try and help them then it's for nothing. I don't know how to bring it up to him what a difference he makes in them, without making him mad

2007-11-20 07:23:28 · 13 answers · asked by cindyokie1 2 in Marriage & Divorce

You see I have an ex husband. We always kept in contact after the divorce. When he told me he had found someone else, I reacted not so good. I put a stop to that. Then much later I met someone else. And the person I met has an ex wife. I think when she finds out about me, she will do the same thing I did with my ex, she will put a stop to her ex seeing me. I did a bad thing to my ex and now karma is going to get me. Don't you think so too?

2007-11-20 07:18:19 · 19 answers · asked by Jaylynn 1 in Marriage & Divorce

why do some women who are divorced dont want the child's real father in their lives but they want them to pay child support and even at times try to increase it?

2007-11-20 07:17:53 · 16 answers · asked by Hi T 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We've been together for a couple of years, and he comes out and says he's not in love with me. He does say he cares about me though, and isn't breaking up with me because of it. Is it necessarily bad? What do you think?

2007-11-20 07:17:31 · 32 answers · asked by jade 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-20 07:17:30 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i love him and i want to be with him forever and we belong together but he's in egypt and i'm in michigan and he's 20 and i'm 14 and i don't wanna break his heart

2007-11-20 07:16:45 · 16 answers · asked by cherry h 1 in Singles & Dating

We're both in college, living at home with our parents.
So often, we can't have sex in our homes.
I won't have a car for another month or so.
I've already tried changing rooms of a store...
I've booked a hotel, but I can't afford that as many times a week as I'd like sex....

Any ideas, please? =P

2007-11-20 07:15:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It's one thing to be divorced (or widowed) and re-married but I'm talking about the type that has four kids by four different Dad's (aka--Baby Daddy's)...it's repulsing to me. I mean--BIRTH CONTROL!!!! Opinions??

2007-11-20 07:15:14 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

some men just don't want to admit that they messed up. what do you think ?

2007-11-20 07:07:18 · 22 answers · asked by rodriguez m 3 in Marriage & Divorce

So, someone spends their years from 13-30 being very promiscuous , irresponsible, drunk, and dabbling with drugs. They then claim that it was all because their parents were too hard on them, which in turn caused them to sleep with a man who paid them attention when they were 13, which started the whole ball rolling ....
Does this excuse really hold water?

2007-11-20 07:06:52 · 10 answers · asked by SITSC 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

She wants to let him share her room, which if he stops is the only practical thing as we have no spare bedroom. She is 12 years old, but will be 13 in February next year. I know I can trust them, they are both very mature, and they will not abuse that trust. I think they should wait a bit longer. Am I being unfair?

2007-11-20 07:02:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

This guy and i have been friends since school started. we started to talk to each other, and then i began to like him more and more each day. He knew it, I could tell he liked me a little. And then now he wants space. I was sad when he said that, b/c i dont know what i did. why do u think he wants space now? he's not mad or anything, but do u think he'll ever contact me again??

2007-11-20 07:02:15 · 4 answers · asked by aminallover29 2 in Singles & Dating

she's constantly talks down on me and my son(3 yr old) to her two kids and she leaves messages on the vm. (my son is their half brother). she states -my house is dirty, my son is a brat, she claims her kids talk down upon me and their brother. she claims her kids need mental help...which they need it bc of her. she constantly brings up that their dad's father killed himself. which i think she has no right because she tried to od on pills on serveral occasions. i'm just tired of her bipolar psychotic manipalating pill poppin lush mood swings...and if things doesn't go her way... she threatens to sign "all" rights over. what kind of mother does that??? we have to obey by court orders and she flips out because she's illiterate and doesn't understand anything. she's very jealous of me because i've been raising her kids for 5 yrs know. SO HOW DO I KEEP MY NAME AND MY SON"S NAME OUT OF HER MOUTH??? and by the way we do get help for the kids...

2007-11-20 07:01:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

So, my mom doesn't want me living in her house, and i don't want to live with her, so we agreed that i go live with someone else, but my relatives live the whole country away.

So, her friend who is also a parent decided to take me in under her roof, but my mom wants it to be legal so she doesn't get arrested.

Does anyone know where i can find a form that gives my mom's friend full legal custody of me?

2007-11-20 06:59:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i've been in love with my best friend for months now but because she is with someone else she basically told me the other day that we will never be together, despite the fact that she told me she liked me before she started with this guy.
i had thought that we might eventually get married and because she wants to save herself for marriage then that would be when i finally had sex
but now there is another girl who has already said she wants to have sex with me. i dont love her and i never will. and i know it sounds kinda gay but i always thought my first time would be with someone i love.
i dont know whether or not i should have sex with this other girl
i'm not very physically attractive so i may not get too many chances
your opinions would be appreciated

2007-11-20 06:59:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-20 06:58:18 · 13 answers · asked by E M 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i really like this girl but i don't what to say i always freze up.


help me plz

2007-11-20 06:57:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I found out my BF was smoking crack 6 wks ago. I decided 2 stick it out by helping him ONCE through treatment. i flew him out to the Florida to one of the best facilities in the US. B4 he came home I told him that it was going to take time being able to trust him again. On his 3rd day out I purchased him a cell and he lost it. I think he sold it. 5th day out he stole my Plazma/stand telling me before he left for treatment he went to the old neighborhood and owed the dealer $500. he put a gun to his head wanting his money so he had no other choice but to take my TV . He admitted that he tried it again and needed help again. For some reason he didnt want to go back to the same place. I think he was embarrased for people to see that he relapsed so soon so he wanted to do it his way going to a local facility ran by the government,which you know isnt good as all. He never showed up there last night. I love him so much and will hate for the streets to take him what should I do?

2007-11-20 06:57:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Generally second anniversary is COTTON anniversary. So i wanna get some gift with cotton as the theme. But the only thing which comes to your mind when you think of cotton is clothes.And i wanna keep clothes as the last resort.Anything creative with cotton which you ppl can help me out with?

2007-11-20 06:57:06 · 68 answers · asked by Barath 1 in Weddings

...nothing. Well at first I didn't give him a chance to say anything, I kissed him because I felt nervous having just said it. After the kiss, he just said, "I'm so happy, I'm so happy," and then said that I was his favourite person in the world, and the best person for him. He didn't say I love you back though, and we spent the whole rest of the evening and the next day together. From his reaction, can I assume he does love me back, or is he just happy that someone loves him, but doesn't really love me back?

2007-11-20 06:56:56 · 50 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Singles & Dating

Which do you prefer, legs or hooters?

I find myself immensely conflicted but I'll go with legs.

2007-11-20 06:55:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't think, I know that I have found someone that I really would like to move in a forward motion with in all aspects of my life. We ran into a snag, where emotions were starting to get involved. He scared me & we both took a step back, then briefly talked & thought to try to be FWB. This also did not come to play. Now, it's been almost 2 wks & we haven't spoken other than a couple of text msgs a week ago. I care, but I don't want to be selfish & ask "what or why?" I don't know how to approach him if at all... I want my character to stand out to him again as it did in the beginning. He is a pyschologist & so he will analyze every detail of this & form an opinion. He is a truly amazing man who I can relate to like none other. I need some advice on how to handle this without losing a great friend in the process. How do I approach this to see if we still have a chance or if it is over for good?

2007-11-20 06:54:25 · 7 answers · asked by T. 6 in Singles & Dating

I've been with my boyfriend for four years. We've planned for the future, and he's even mentioned a wedding date he would like. Problem is, whenever I bring up marriage (which is rare), he gets irritated. We were at a wedding last weekend and I caught the bouquet, only to have it ripped out of my hands by another girl. When I looked over at my boyfriend, he looked relieved that it was taken from me. He mentioned later that his heart stopped when he saw me catch it.
Just when I lose hope, he'll say something that makes me wonder. In the car on the way back from the wedding, he asked me what type of wedding dress I wanted for our wedding. When I mentioned that I've never about it, he told me I should start looking. Then said he wanted to help plan it. He called me his spouse recently, and when I corrected him he said that I might as well be.

How do I talk to him about it? I know that he 's serious about our relationship, but I need to know if it's ever going to happen.

2007-11-20 06:54:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

right ...
so i've been talking to this girl ( I guess, she really nice girl, amazingly intelligent... I mean like super way smarter then me but hey i like that .. anyways started out going back and forth on myspace .. btw i knew her from a friend of mine and i saw her there and talked for little , xchanged myspaces (lol), anyway it graduated to "textin" each other to the point now we are gym buddies. we probably talk to each other least a couples times a day through text and if lucky over the phone but its all friendly type conversation. her bday came and i sent her a gift certificat and and she responded to me in text how i shouldnt have have and that she's glad we are friends... yadda yadda. I just dont blieve it .. we hung out out a few times doing classes at the gym (mind you i dont take classes but now im begginingg to like them lol ) and one time at a party ... i just dont get it. IShould i Just move on.. or what..

2007-11-20 06:52:07 · 23 answers · asked by Rufwon 2 in Singles & Dating

Me and my boyfriend have dated off and on for over two years now. At first it was nothing serious, but at the beginning of last year it got more intense. We were very much in love with each other, but we weren't quite mature enough to handle dealing with problems. We held a lot in and I caught him downloading pornography onto his computer, something he promised he wouldn't do anymore, and I broke up with him over it. I was really hurt that he would look at it in general. I shared this with my mother and she was proud of me for getting away from a relationship where pornography was involved. This past few weeks I have been seeing him again, and I still feel very strongly for him. I want my mother to be involved in my life, so i told her about my feelings and wanting to get back together with him. She told me that she felt sorry for me and like I was selling myself short by staying with a man who looked and pornography. Then she told me that she was never going to accept him or love him

2007-11-20 06:52:00 · 38 answers · asked by Nana 3 in Singles & Dating

We disagree about when she comes over, she gives her the choice and then tells us{her dad and I} that she doesn't choose to come. Then she wrote an email the other day about needing more notice when we can get her{we share joint custody}.We have her for Thanksgiving, so today she called and left a message that a friend wanted to have her come over today. Doesn't this sitauation sound crazy? I have tried to work with her, she is not easy to deal with any advice would greatly be appreciated.

2007-11-20 06:50:40 · 7 answers · asked by rettasmile 2 in Friends