why do some women who are divorced dont want the child's real father in their lives but they want them to pay child support and even at times try to increase it?
2007-11-20 07:17:53 · 16 answers · asked by Hi T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of the time it's because the father is a scum bag, but she needs more money. Not too complicated, is it?
2007-11-20 07:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced and I don't want the childrens father in their lives but that is not my choice. Yes he pays child support but not near enough to really take care of the kids. In my opinion he can pay all the child support he wants but that will never replace the things he will miss in their lives and can never get back. No amount of money can do that.
2007-11-20 15:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are just bitter and angry...If they really thought things through and took the more mature approach, they would see that just because the marriage is over doesn't mean that the relationship with the child has to stop. I hate that a person won't just voluntarily take care of their kid..Sometimes, it's so stupid and time consuming to have to keep going back and forth to court just to "make" a person pay child support when they should be supporting the child in the first place. No man should have to have a judge tell him to help take care of his child.
2007-11-20 15:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by ZarahzMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father of the children has no business being in his ex wife's life other than to father his children. The couple are no longer married so whatever the woman does is her business and not his. As far as visiting the children in my case that would be up to the father whether he wanted to or not. As far a child support...Mine falls short by almost $300.00 a month yeah it would be nice if it was increased by that much.
2007-11-20 16:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman do not have the right to have the real father in or out of the child's life you go to courts for that and unless the courts find a reason for the father not to be in the child's life then the courts will do as the see fit.
Child support is due to the children by the father
because he has an obligation to support his children and if he makes more money then the kids should get more money
he was enjoy the making of the children he should support them as well
if he wants to see his children which i don't see why he would not want to then he should go to court and fight for his rights!!!!
2007-11-20 15:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by summerbliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm fine with a guy supporting his offspring.
But I *love* these answers with people saying "well the dad is a horrible person and a bad influence" - so how did you meet this loser, spend time with him, fall in love with him and let him marry you and knock you up?
Not *all* guys suddenly change the instant they are married into total assholes. Most are that way long before the wedding. Which means you knew he was a loser before he got you pregnant.
JUST ONCE I'd like to hear a woman say "I made a terrible informed choice - I knew he was a jerk and an asshole and I still married him because I thought my amazing love would transform his life and he would be different for me than all the proof I had of him being an idiot in the past showed. Now I just want his cash to help raise the kids and remind him what a jerk he is."
geezus you could kock me over with a feather.
So ladies, why do you keep marrying these losers and letting them get you pregnant? It takes 2 to tango, but rarely do you hear that.
2007-11-20 15:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the child's father is a bad influence on the child(ren). That does not absolve him of paying parental support. With inflation comes increased costs, thus a need for enhanced support.
But it could be that she wants to get back at him, especially if he loves his child(ren).
2007-11-20 15:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Slick98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They think the child just belongs to them. They ignore the fact the child belongs to the father just as much. They never think they get enough money from the father, not considering that he has to live too.
2007-11-20 15:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c the ex reminds them of old, bad past history
the woman is being selfish and using the dude
If she had some brains, she would realize it'll hurt the child in the end, the child deserves to be connected with his bio father
unless the father is a drug addict or repeat criminal or abusive
2007-11-20 15:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if their ex-husband is abusive and an awful influence on the children that should not excuse the ex-husband from helping to financially support the children. Is it just me or is the answer to this question horribly and I mean HORRIBLY obvious.
2007-11-20 15:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋