So, someone spends their years from 13-30 being very promiscuous , irresponsible, drunk, and dabbling with drugs. They then claim that it was all because their parents were too hard on them, which in turn caused them to sleep with a man who paid them attention when they were 13, which started the whole ball rolling ....
Does this excuse really hold water?
2007-11-20 07:06:52 · 10 answers · asked by SITSC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No. You can only blame your childhood and past enviornment for so long. After that, you have to WANT to do better in your life. People use the past as a crutch a lot and it doesn't make irresponsible behavior justified.
2007-11-20 07:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There are motives, and then there are excuses and jusifications. All of those issues you're describing are motives, yet they do no longer excuse the habit or justify it. anyone has undesirable issues ensue to them, even regardless of the indisputable fact that it does no longer propose we can all bypass off the deep end and act like irresponsibly. some human beings think of in the event that they might hit upon a clarification for why they do what they try this excuses their habit and that they might stick to it, yet it somewhat is a sufferer's mentality. there are various happy, nicely adjusted adults that have come from undesirable childhoods, plenty worse than what you defined. that's all what you settle directly to do mutually with your reviews. a individual can realize it, learn from it, and circulate forward or they might wallow in it and act out. looks like the guy you're describing has desperate to act out and wallow.
2016-10-17 12:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the excuse does not hold water. What it means is that the person can explain where a pattern of behavior came from.
What needs to happen next is the person needs to decide whether or not they want to change their behavior for themselves and consider that being irresponsible, etc., etc., is not having a good result in their lives.
Above all, do not allow them to use these excuses to get you involved in their drama play. With kind regards.....Finn.
2007-11-20 07:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Finn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on how terrible the experience was to them maybe it holds some water as to who they became. also, after the ball started rolling they lost control of themselves in the cycle that wouldn't have started without the beginning cause. so, did the chicken come first or the egg? who knows, thing is that at some point you have to be accountable.
2007-11-20 07:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by jade4e83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a certain extent. If you never learned how to do things properly, then how are you supposed to know? But at the same time, it does not give you the right to hurt other people the way you were hurt.
2007-11-20 10:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 maybe. Not the rest of the time.
2007-11-20 07:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by misselie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not an excuse at all.. You still know the difference between right and wrong
2007-11-20 07:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by married with kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, I've been a victim so anything I do is ok. Wrong. Not an excuse.
2007-11-20 07:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ... one bad decision leading to another bad decision leading to yet another wrong choice is the person's responsibility, not any one else's ...
this culture of "it's not my fault" is really starting to take a toll on society as a whole ... teach your kids accountability and responsibility while you can
2007-11-20 07:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an excuse...It is an excuse to be a better person.....
2007-11-20 07:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋