Why are there so many women with different Fathers to their children??

Question

It's one thing to be divorced (or widowed) and re-married but I'm talking about the type that has four kids by four different Dad's (aka--Baby Daddy's)...it's repulsing to me. I mean--BIRTH CONTROL!!!! Opinions??

When you work with kids for a living this does effect you...they have developmental...gee, I wonder why!?!?

I meant developmental problems...from often unstable home environments.

Yikes--seems like there are a few of these types of women on here! lol! Sorry this is what people really say about you...so have respect for yourself and the children you already have & use protection!!

I agree men should be responsible as well however a women carries the baby and *should* take the proper precautions to not get pregnant too!!

I wonder is getting pregnant a sport now? It seems many do it just for the financial gain of child support & holding the child over the Fathers head that no longer wants them (or did them wrong). I do pitty the child--this is ignorance in adults and the child is the one that is punished! :((

Aenarion- I FULLY agree!!!

About not concerning me or anyone...It concerns everyone bc 8 out of 10 times...our tax dollars go to the medical child care, food and other welfare perks...in relivance....society is raising your kids!

And $2500.00 per kid for taxes--that is BS...I think they should take 1/2 that back to pay into what is given already!! Parents should be FORCED to work! And you should only have kids that you can support!!

Gag me...someone is speaking about the Lord in this subject...I believe you are suppose to wait for marriage before babies...Come on!!

Speak your mind...I'll listen...I know you won't hurt my "Feewings"...

Answer 1

Sex is for married people only. One should honor their wedding vows and stay faithful to their spouse. The women you are talking about, don't live by their moral values.

Answer 2

I care and you should, too, because it's OUR tax dollars supporting someone else's kids!

Generally speaking, the problem can be traced back to parenting. The family unit in our culture has deteriorated and moral standards have taken a nosedive. Parents (and they're getting younger and younger!) can't, don't or won't do the kind of job that needs to be done. As a result, the emotional needs of their children are not really being met. Naturally, they look to others to meet those needs.

Fathers, in particular, have a great affect on how their daughters learn to view the opposite sex. In many cases, Dad is no longer part of the family, he's not a suitable role model or he's rarely home. I recently read a study that showed that outside of sharing meals and sleeping under the same roof, the average dad spends SIX MINUTES A WEEK with his child. Children are being babysat and raised by the characters that they see on TV and by the child's equally unbalanced peers. In many cases, these are the primary sources of a child's distorted view of reality and, unfortunately, there are few adults offering a reasonable counterbalance to this view of life.

Answer 3

They are not motivated to use birth control. Plain and simple.

Also, some women view having a child with the right man as having a set income for the next 18 years. So they might purposely have a child with a guy who is wealthy or financially stable. It's a horrible thing to do, but some women are just evil and greedy.

Answer 4

I know someone who has 4 kids from 3 different dads. Poor kids, they don't even look alike. These people are so ignorant, it is repulsing I agree. And yes... she's on welfare. And the guy who fathered the first 2 kids support all 4 even though he knows the last 2 aren't his. Yup, she cheated on him when they were married.

Answer 5

they are dub losers with no respect for themselves.....i can see if they got divorced and remarried..yea totally acceptable. or even if they slipped up at a yong age and had a baby then got married and started a family with the new husband....but theres no way in hell that any woman has an excuse to have more than 1 or MAYBE 2 , if the circumstances are right, men that they have babies by...even two without a marriage is stupid i dont understand how that happens; but some people have low self esteem and see no problem with it

Answer 6

Here is a simple equation

Smart Man+Smart Woman= Marriage
Smart Man+Dumb Woman= Affair
Dumb Man+Smart Woman= Divorce
Dumb Man+Dumb Woman= Pregnancy

Answer 7

I AGREE!!!!! I have 2 kids by 2 different men but my 1st sons father is deceased and I am now married. But my husbands ex has 4 kids by 4 different men. Now I know it's both of thier responsiblities but sh*!.................... Poor men are usually stuck with these dumb be itches cause they have to pay out the a$$ for child support and they got to deal with the idiotic hoes for 18 years. What gives? Alot of women are nasty skanks these days.

Heres a HINT for all men -- DON'T PUT ALL YOUR TRUST IN HER WHEN SHE SAY'S, "I'M ON BIRTH CONTROL" --- USE A CONDOM JUST IN CASE!!!!

I don't care if anyone gets mad at what I say - but .......The truth hurts!

Answer 8

look don't apologize just ignore those women who are here, they make themselves look like idiots in their words alone...we must not cower on such an important issue

this happens because these women don't learn the first, second or third time. Indirectly, their parents were poor in teaching them values, etc (many schools aren't that great in doing this either these days)

I think these women tend to be desperate and loose, equating sex with love Many of these young, male punks will bang the girl, esp. how good it feels without protection and she is left to deal with the consequence.

I think the woman is crying out to be loved and does this in desperation...

Otherwise, too drugged up to think rationally

Answer 9

Because they have poor judgement and little responsibility. It's a shame for the women because they ruin their own lives, and a shame for the kids because they have no structure, and the cycle tends to perpetuate. Then women who work and have one or two kids and a solid family life get to pay for their lifestyle in wellfare taxes.

Answer 10

It's careless, selfish, irresponsible. It used to be you would get to know someone before entering a sexual relationship. I bet if some of these woman truly took the time to get to know these men before entering sexual relationships, half of the pregnancies would not happen. It also seems to me that now young girls purposely get pregnant thinking it will put a hold on the man....WRONG

Answer 11

I'm a single mother with 2 boys and 2 dads and they're now 15 and 18. Part of the problem that I've noticed is that you have a lot of young girls growing up without fathers in they're lives because "they're moms" are "single moms" due to divorce and death and some just never married. However, If you really want a serious answer and you'r not just asking stupid questions because you like to pass judgement on people whose shoes you've never walked in, then I'll tell you:
For some girls, it's just plain ole stupidity and bad choices, For other's it's the lack of education and proper child rearing. Then there are some that have experienced things in life no young girl should ever have to endure and it's affected them emotionally and mentally. Finally for some it's the love and attention they never got from the "FATHER" that either abused them or was never there and that seems to be #1 on the list of reason's why young girls have multiple children with multiple men out of wed lock.
Practically all the women I know, that have had children out of wedlock, were living in homes where the fathers were absent. These weren't ghetto girls and project welfare moms, these were working class people with educations and good jobs who were raising their children the best way they knew how. When you have a Single Mother trying to support her children with two jobs just to make ends meet inorder to provide the best life possible for her children, it's unfortunate, but it becomes way of life and a lot of sacrificing is done. That means that mom is gone all day and comes home at midnight or the wee hours in the morning tired from busting her *** all day long. In the meantime, your daughter has all the play time in the world to do whatever she wants. In my experience, my mom would call home every few hours to check on me to make sure I was in the house, and that I had done my chores and homework. I was a good girl for the most. I didn't have a bunch of boyfriends and I wasn't out sleeping around with various boys, but I did have a boyfriend and I was naive and the last thing I wanted was for my mom to find out was that I was having sex, so what do you do?
You hide it and keep it from your mother... See I'm a 70's 80's girl that's my era and the availability to birth control was there, but not as prevelant as today. Parents then would just say: "Don't do it and I better not find out". There was no such thing as, "Ok, honey you tell me when you're ready to start screwing boys and ruining your life and I'll go get you some pills". My mom was not that mom... and I'll just leave it there.:):) Although, I'm more educated on sex and birth control than my mom was, I still feel the way she did about me having sex and I will not condone my children having sex in any way... Until they're married.
I am realistic that my boys will and have had sex weither they think I know it or not:):) but I've educated my boys and taught them about protecting themselves. I made a point to have open conversations about sex with my boys to insure that they are well informed. Most of the young girls you see with multiple children, don't have that kind of guidance or support system. They're on they're own and in a lot of other cases, you see that these same young girls, with parents that have the same problem. How can parents teach they're children when they haven't been taught themselves.
It's easy to sit back and point the finger and make jokes about someone else's situation, but it's no laughing matter at all. Sex is being broadcasted across every network station there is, it's being promoted like getting an education or a public service announcement, but you're curious as to why these kids are having multiple fatherless kids.
Some of these kids don't even know where they're parents are from day to day... It's one thing for the schools to give out condoms and have sex ed classes, but that's not mom or dad and that's whose opinion matters most to the child. These young girls are starved for male attention that they should be receiving from they're fathers. They're lacking validation, but only the kind that can come from the heart of a parent. However, seeing as that's not even a thought for most of them, they seek this attention else where and it's usually in the arms of some boy that's not even thinking about love, but a young girl always is. and that's why it's so detrimental that these girls have father's in they're lives because they're vulnerable to such attacks... They need to be taught by the only man who can instill self-esteem and self-confidence in them so that they can grow up not feeling that they need some any ole guy to validate who they are in order to know how much more worthy of respect they are and deserve.