To those that have been divorced, how hard was it to make the decision to do it? What happened to cause it?

Answer 1

I have been neither married or divorced yet.

My opinion though is that it is better to be happily divorced than unhappily married.

Good luck with your decision.

Answer 2

We made the decision to get a divorce this last week. It was not very difficult to do for us because we know it will not change our personal relationship since we have been separated for 3 years. We care for each other but in the 10 years we were married our interests have changed drastically and can no longer live the same lifestyles. So, we discussed it and decided to get a divorce, although we will remain very close emotionally. Not the norm, I know. Good luck.

Answer 3

My situation was complicated, like most divorces are, but I can tell you that the decision was easy when I really sat down and was objective about it. I filed but he was the one who made the decision to leave (and have an affair). I had to ask myself if I wanted to continue to give second chances (or third in my case) and what example I was setting for my kids. In the end, the decision was easy. I can look myself in the mirror and know that I made the right decision. My kids and I are safe, happy and healthy emotionally now and that is something that never happened when he was there.

Answer 4

A divorce is a very difficult and sad thing to go through; but sometimes it's for the best.

I made the decision after having a terrible health crisis, caused by my ex-husband's drinking. I tried to endure this very stressful situation for as long as I could, for my kid's sake; but when I finally got very sick-- and was bedridden for many months-- I realized he wasn't going to change so I decided to ask him to end it.

( I was separated for a year, lived at my mother's place, and had to choose between my mental, emotional and physical health- or an unhealthy marriage. I chose what was best for me and my kid.)

We have been divorced for some years now, and fortunately have an OK relationship. He tries to be a good dad, and I have never spoken ill about him to my kid. I wish him well and know that deep down he knows I tried my best to make things work.

Answer 5

I was married very young. We were both 16, had 2 kids and were married 17 years. I chose to get a divorce when I knew that I wouldn't be faithful to him and didn't want to hurt him like that. It was hard giving up that security but the love just wasn't there and I think it went both ways. It was the hardest thing ever but we worked together and it never ever became nasty or ugly. We never talked bad about each other in front of our children and today after 9 years we are great friends.. Yes great friends. When he is in town he and his girlfriend stay with us.. Its nice...

Answer 6

If you are even considering a divorce I think its a subject that shouldn't be taken lightly especially if you have children...I was married almost 10 yrs. and I had 2 children in the marriage it was difficult but i think for me it was the right decision....(ex had 13 dui's and still driving)

Answer 7

by far one of the most difficult decisions in my life as one other person said, especially as I have two children. If it is the course that must be---the most important thing you do is stay close to your children. Do whatever you have to..but make it happen. Do it everyday, reach out. Never let a day go by they don't know that they are the most important thing in your life. If you accomplish that, you will be miles ahead of so many others.

Answer 8

i'm going through a divorce right now. it's one of the hardest decisions that i have ever had to make because we have two very young children. i never thought that i would be a single 30 year old with two children. but it all comes down to the fact that he is choosing not to be the person that i need him to be in order to be a husband to me and a father to our children. i can't control his decisions, i can only control mine. so i chose to leave.

Answer 9

it depends on the circumstances surrounding your decision and where you stand. For example, my guy cheated on me. well i dont tolerate that so I told him i want a divorce he tried to make me change my mind i said no. and we are now divorced.

Answer 10

I was married for 12 years and it was an awful marriage the whole time. The last straw was when I found out my husband had a "photography" business and I found pictures of some nasty ugly skanks that he was taking pictures of.