Lately I have been really impatient with my husband. He keeps asking me for help with documents, filling out forms and doing all kinds of things for him. Because I refuse and he won't do these things himself and then he turns around and asks his MOTHER to do these things for him.
He hasn't had a job for a while and I can BARELY afford to keep us above water. He won't take the ONLY car we have during the day while I'm at work to look for a job. He won't look for a job or call potential employers to see if they are hiring unless I get on his case.
I’ve been so stressed out because I’m on the brink of losing my job and he wants me to do everything for him and he won’t do a thing. I don’t know what to do, other than continue refusing to things for him. When he calls to complain about something, I snap at him like he’s a child. What can I do to stop from being impatient?
2007-11-20 07:27:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been there too. if you snap at him like he's a child maybe it's because he's acting like one.
I used to drive my ex-husband to work, and everywhere and he seemed to care less i had things i needed to do. he treated me like my whole purpose on earth is to take care of him and I was a horrible person when I didn't.
I am a person and I wasnt taking care of myself ell enough either and then he found someone else to take care of him. i laugh about that haha she has to put up with a child. I find it hard to imagine having to put up with that anymore.
I think you should get a book on the subject and stop doing anything for him you think he should do on his own and start to let his mother in on your strategy. It's a long hard process to save him from himself, just a warning from those who have been there he might end up leaving you for someone he thinks will do all of his stuff for him. and if he does be happy someone else has your burden.
2007-11-20 07:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're on the right track. Your mistake was babying him like his mother does. You waited to long to put your foot down so now he is doing what he has been doing for the past years. You might need to walk for a minute. You need to seek some marriage counseling. He's not a man he's a boy. What is really there for? This is the part in the marriage most people can't deal with and that's for better or worst...
2007-11-20 07:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stop being impatient? Sounds like you married a child, or worse, a bum. patience won't solve that problem. Curious about what kind of papers he asks for your help with, but there's no excuse for an able minded/bodied man not to work.
If things are really as you say, then cut that zero!
2007-11-20 07:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're actually not impatient. Your husband seems to be mushy. perchance you may desire to circulate away for a pair of days with the impact which you will depart if issues dont get greater efficient even even with the undeniable fact that youre no longer. you may desire to coach a factor
2016-09-29 21:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by wrights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I sort of feel bad for you... it sounds like he's lost his desire, interest, and motivation, and he is maybe even depressed. Where's his confidence gone? He can't even fill out a form... jeez. You know, try to get the guy some counseling. It could be very rough sitting at home all day... day after day.... he needs to get back out there. As for you, nows a good time to contemplate on your vows... namely the "for best of times/worst of times" part. Offer your suffering up to God... he will reward you and restore you.
2007-11-20 07:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop complaining and drop the deadbeat. you know he isn't going to change. you just in denial or trying to hold on to the status quo...but you'll go nuts waiting for him to change, he has no reason too, you bring the bacon home and mama does the rest. Don't you think you deserve better? Start preparing girl!
2007-11-20 08:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What worked for me. I stopped doing things for him, helping him and stuff, and i told him, if you don;t change i'm gonna leave. He changed! But try talking with him, tell him everything that you feel, even better write him a letter. If he cares he'll change
2007-11-20 07:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Boot his lazy good for nothing *** out the door.
2007-11-20 07:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit your job and tell him, it's all on him now. Don't do anything for him.
2007-11-20 07:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My god why would you put up with such a lazy a**hole? Are you that desperate?
2007-11-20 07:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by Johnnyo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋