I don't think, I know that I have found someone that I really would like to move in a forward motion with in all aspects of my life. We ran into a snag, where emotions were starting to get involved. He scared me & we both took a step back, then briefly talked & thought to try to be FWB. This also did not come to play. Now, it's been almost 2 wks & we haven't spoken other than a couple of text msgs a week ago. I care, but I don't want to be selfish & ask "what or why?" I don't know how to approach him if at all... I want my character to stand out to him again as it did in the beginning. He is a pyschologist & so he will analyze every detail of this & form an opinion. He is a truly amazing man who I can relate to like none other. I need some advice on how to handle this without losing a great friend in the process. How do I approach this to see if we still have a chance or if it is over for good?
2007-11-20 06:54:25 · 7 answers · asked by T. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walking away will not be as easy as you may think. We were our first "loves" 20 yrs ago. It was like it came back full circle. Now it's stagnant... & I don't know what to say or do.
2007-11-20 07:10:06 · update #1
I believe under the circumstances, you should pick a nice card and write him that you're sorry about the altercation (-seemingly BOTH your "fault"
Sincerely
Grace
2007-11-20 07:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. Psychologists are not the 'best' of people to get emotionally involved with. However, if you are, then DO NOT get into any form of 'analytical games playing' with him.
Stick to - stick by ~ whatever it is that you feel. In that you'll have one up on him (sorry, I speak in generalisations here).
Be honest with him ~ which includes being open about confused / mixed / complex feelings ....and Do Not Allow him to analyse you, what you think or what you feel. Analysis is often a good place (a lofty one of Authority) for Psychologists to escape to.
PS: I have no idea just what 'FWB' means ...and I hate having to guess about other people 'shorthand' as it could easily mean I get it totally wrong.
Good luck to you.
Sash.
2007-11-20 15:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat there. It sucks when you don't hear from the one you love for days on end don't it. You should just be up front with him and let him know you love him. If he can't except you for you then he doesn't really love you. And just because he's a psychologist doesn't mean he needs to analyze you all the time. good luck there. silly thing is my girl friend's in college studying to be a you guessed it psychologist. gosh I hope she's not analyzing me.
2007-11-20 15:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, there's a time and place for analyzing people.
If he can't form this distinction about keeping personal life apart from practicing his work, then you might want to talk to him about this issue. We all have improvements to make, but I assure you, your character is fine. Don't change so that you will be an interesting specimen to him.
If he doesn't like you as you are now, then that's his problem and his loss. You deserve someone who likes your character as it is.
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2007-11-20 15:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by mika*mika 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you didn't expect him to be different, beings he is a physcologist? If you want to know what is going on, just ask. Being informed on both sides is a lot better than not knowing or moping around hoping. Don't be a drama queen. Tell him how you feel and then the ball is in his court.
2007-11-20 15:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Text messaging is NOT meaningful communication. If either of you is unable, for some reason, to actually talk to the other, I would say it's time to move on. You will find someone else. That's life.
2007-11-20 15:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he is a psychologist then a lot of people will felel the same . I would leave it.
2007-11-20 14:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋