i've been in love with my best friend for months now but because she is with someone else she basically told me the other day that we will never be together, despite the fact that she told me she liked me before she started with this guy.
i had thought that we might eventually get married and because she wants to save herself for marriage then that would be when i finally had sex
but now there is another girl who has already said she wants to have sex with me. i dont love her and i never will. and i know it sounds kinda gay but i always thought my first time would be with someone i love.
i dont know whether or not i should have sex with this other girl
i'm not very physically attractive so i may not get too many chances
your opinions would be appreciated
2007-11-20 06:59:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hit it dude, you don't know what's around the corner and a dry spell could make you a virgin for years still.
2007-11-20 07:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Brian the supergenius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need love to have sex.
However some people cannot seperate the two.
Does this other girl love you? If you don't love her and she doesn't love you, it's ok to have sex with her if you want to. But if she's in love with you you could end up totally breaking her heart.
To be honest, you sound insecure and a little immature.
If it matters to you, then don't do it.
Personally I think of love and sex as two completely different (though complimentary) things, but it sounds to me like you link the two in your head. Everyone is different so your question "should it matter" is very hard to give a real answer to. Only you can decide if this is what you want or not.
2007-11-20 07:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by munchkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to say it matters a lot, but to most people, it doesn't. Sex is best when it's with someone you love, so for the full experience, you should wait. But if you just want to get it over with, it's not going to matter who you do it with. Just don't do something you'll regret and be safe.
With a little more confidence, you'll have better luck with women. Don't sell yourself short in the looks department.
2007-11-20 07:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. First of all, congratulations on behaving like a REAL man. Other guys would just say, 'screw it, I'm having sex wih whomever I can'. If you don't love this girl, why have your first time be with her? You may not be 'very physically attractive', but I'd take a kind loving guy over an attractive a*s h**e anytime. If your friend said she liked you, talk to her and tell her how you feel. If you have the patience to wait for her, then wait. Remember, patience is a virtue.
2007-11-20 07:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by ღ♥Jess♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is always better to have sex with someone you love. However, it may not matter, and only a thorough search of your heart can answer that.
But if you want to have sex with the other lady, and you stress the importance of love, tell her you do not love her. That way she does not take this potential encounter for more than it is.
2007-11-20 07:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by Slick98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't treat the other girl as a sex thing - you would not want it to be done with you. Find someone you love, there are other women out there besides your BF. It would be wrong to use the other person, think of their feelings. You'll eventually get over your BF, just wait.
2007-11-20 07:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by tetlitea 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ive always found, especially when it comes to matters like this, that you don't want to do anything you'll regret!
Follow your gut instinct, honestly.
If something happens with this girl just for the sake of sex then chances are you'll be regretting it as soon as u get in the bed and i must say saving you self till marriage is commendable and you should stick to that!
2007-11-20 07:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by amanda_lghtn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should love someone to have sex with them. But you might really try getting over this girl that seems not to like you back the same as you do her. Don't have sex, just to have sex with the girl you don't want to be with. I know it doesn't sound like much, but that girl one day will think of you as a man that respects women because you wouldn't just have sex with her knowing that you didn't really like her.
2007-11-20 07:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by = ) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So just because you won't get many chances doesn't mean you have to give in to it. Of course you only give it to someone you love, unless you're some kind of guy that just want a 1 night relationship. I do hope you will make the right decision because you're in control of that and this is just my opinion.
2007-11-20 07:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by YooH8M3? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be crazy. You want to give yourself away to someone you don't love, just for sex?
Please please please don't.
Especially if you want to have any chance with the girl you DO love. How amazing will it be to her for you to say, "I've been saving myself for you all this time..."
Just wait. Save it for someone special, for someone you love!
She may have told you that you'll never be together, but that could change. I said that to my current boyfriend a few years ago and we've been dating for a year now. ;)
Just give it time. Be a good best friend, and always be there for her. And if you truly love her you will save yourself for her.
2007-11-20 07:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow.
i didnt kno guys like this existed anymore.
whatever u do dont have sex with that other girl.
if ur best friend liked you then tell her to give u a chance.
save yourself til u get with her or til u find another special girl.
but if it doesnt work out for sum odd reason then remember theres plenty of fish in the sea ;)
2007-11-20 07:08:38 · answer #11 · answered by curious person... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋