What makes you so sure it should be this person? What made you pick them and not someone else? How did you know you didn't *need* anyone else?
2007-11-20 17:43:35 · 9 answers · asked by avacado pie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ive always been with guys that i loved more than they loved me. this time around i found someone that loved me more. it sounds weird but i love him for loving me so much. sometimes i think he knows me better than i know myself, and thats how i know he was meant for me.
2007-11-20 19:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I picked my spouse because of the following reasons:
1. He believed in staying together....never separating. We have had hard times, but we have/had both agreed never to leave the marriage no matter how difficult it gets.
2. He was a family man....and he didn't lie about this one either. He spends so much time with the kids and in the household.
3. I could live with his face when angry. Very important. I don't ever think I could hate his face.
4. Not greedy nor selfish.
5. I never did feel that I didn't need anyone else. I just knew I didn't want anybody else. He met the qualifications that I set for what I wanted in a husband. Of course, I was fond of other guys, but after considerable thought, I really didn't want to be married to them...and I made the right decision.
I think it's very important to discuss what's important to you with your future mate....especially your expectations and your pet peeves. I actually made a list of things that I wanted and expected in my marriage. It seems a little awkward maybe, but topics like abortion, raising kids, working in the household, divorce, money....tend to creep up AFTER you've tied the knot.
2007-11-21 01:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyhawke 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
marriage isn't "all about me," first off. Second, there are gonna come times in anyone's marriage when they have doubts. That's why we made a *commitment;* When I'm faced with those doubts, I usually remember "man's" propensity to hastily assume that the grass is always greener...and I try to think on my wife with gratitude. That gets the ball rolling to appreciate her in the way that I should.
Now, there are some people who choose very poorly in the first place, but that's a whole other list of "He told you so's."
2007-11-23 10:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by matthound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Timing, as in you two are in the right place at the same time, and when I was with him before we got married, I knew because of the way he treated me. If anyone else had proposed to me, I would have had doubts,but when he proposed, I just knew it was right.
It's a feeling . Love is not infatuation or needy.
2007-11-21 03:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Charley 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
After 21 years, she's still the best.
2007-11-21 02:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree. timing at that time of my life. i could pick out about 10 different ones today that i know i would have a better life with.
2007-11-21 01:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it is a chance you take, you can't just know for a fact it is the right person, I think my husband is the right person, it was just our timing was off and now we have to work through it
2007-11-21 01:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it was just iming, poor timing at that
2007-11-21 01:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure.
2007-11-21 03:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Azul 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋