GUYS ANSWER (girls can answer too)?

Question

If you had a girlfriend you really really love and she loves you alot too but she flirts alot with guys but dosen't mean to it just happens and the guy she flirts with sometimes flirts back how would you feel? Would you be jealous? Would you do the same thing back to her?

Answer 1

Be jealous no. But would be wishing her best of luck with her new boyfriend.

Answer 2

It would defiantly get me at least a little jealous, but it would really depend on what they were doing and how serious our relationship was. If we had been going out for awhile and it was clear we were together I wouldn't get jealous so much more than annoyed. But I think it would be fair if we both had friends of the opposite sex and could still give them hugs and talk to them without much jealousy. The green eyed monster can go both ways, both the guy and the girl can get jealous of someone else stepping on claimed "territory".

What I find to be more jealous that some guy giving "my girlfriend" a hug, is a girl that I like is flirting with another guy. That drives me insane with jealousy cause there is no relationship, she's open for claiming and I like her. But then it also depends on the guy. There are some girls who I take interest in and they take an interest in me, but there might be some other guy that talks to her and I don't think much of it if it were obvious the guy didn't have a chance in hell of getting her, she's basically talking to him cause she's just a nice girl and that's what nice girls do.

Answer 3

Heh. Funny. My girlfriend is just a flirty girl. Shes definitely the most attractive girl at my school and so everyone hits on her, flirts with her, etc. I don't get jealous, even if she flirts back, I know she means it as a joke. It all depends on the circumstance. I don't get jealous, I don't flirt with girls other than her. I know she isn't seeking other male attention since I... for sure... satisfy her every need. My situation: No jealousy, don't do it back. Your situation, depends how long you have been together, how close you two are, etc. The closer you are and the longer you have been in a happy satisfying relationship, it shouldn't really matter. More than half of teenagers are flirty, more girls than boys. I am 15 by the way, hope I helped =]

Answer 4

I would definitely see this as disrespectful of me and would likely toss her out as a longterm relationship candidate. Whether or not the girl "doesn't mean it", constant flirting LOOKS like you're never happy with the guy you're with..you're always "testing the waters" (same goes for Don Juan types...I'm not meaning to pick on the ladies..guys should be obviously "taken" when they're seeing someone).

Yes, I would definitely be jealous but no, I would not do the same in return if I truly loved the girl..you don't intentionally hurt someone you love. I'd end up ending the relationship if it continued...it's heading that direction anyways.

Answer 5

My wife is 22 and I am 44 and had a whirlwind relationship. Met in Jan two month later engaged and two months later we were married. We have such a solid relationship together. We have learned that every guy and every girl will look to see who is around. We both are able to check out the opposite sex and we point out when someone is checking the other out. We actually like seeing each other being checked out as we are in public. We also have the tendency to flirt with the opposite sex. There is nothing wrong checking out other people, being checked out by other people, or playful flirting.
Maybe our relationship is unusual but we are not threatened in our relationship. If I the overly possessive and extremely jealous type can grow to what we have today in our relationship anyone can. It just takes the right person to come into your life.

Answer 6

I believe in proper etiquette and good conduct. The girl is totally not behaving properly. Sounds like the behavior of a typical slut and probably no breeding. If she were with a man who has no breeding like her, then its fine. But if this girl is with a well-educated man who really loves her, comes from a decent, respectable family with manners, this relationship will not work. Unless the guy isnt serious with her. FLirting is normal and may be natural. But for flirting communcation to occur, thats w hole new story. Girls who do this are the type you have sex with and then dump. I pity the boyfriend. Oh, the boyfriend may get jeoulus. How he will behabve and react will be dependet on whjat type or person he is and how improtant the girl is to him.

Answer 7

Respect is to a guy what love is to a girl. If she acted that way it would be clear to me that she didn't respect our relationship. I wouldn't necessarily get jealous. But I would be angry that she treated me with such disrespect.

Don't believe me about the respect thing? First tell your guy that you love him, then tell him that you are proud of him for doing something well. Tell him how lucky you are for being with a guy who does the thing that he does best. Make it meaningful. He will light up more than your statement of love.

So, the woman who flirts doesn't respect her man, her relationship, nor herself, and not the guy she's flirting with. I don't want to be with a woman who has no respect. I would be angry that I wasted so much energy on such a woman.

And I wouldn't retalliate by flirting myself. That's childish game playing. I would (and have in the past) talk to her, but this time I would know that it's not jealousy that is upsetting me, it's her lack of respect. Thank you for asking this question. (In the end, my suspicions were right. She was still on the prowl. She's dating my best friend now. I introduced them. She fell for him while we were all hanging out together!)

Answer 8

Ok, I have a friend who has had trouble with this and I have seen her fight with more than one boyfriend about it!

I think in a relationship, two things are true. First, you have to trust each other. So if your bf is getting way jealous over things that are tiny and not a big deal, plus if he is accusing you of things or acting like he doesn't trust you, that's bad on his part. But second, you have to be thoughtful of each other. Being thoughtful means considering each other's feelings... so if you are getting really flirty with other guys or really touchy with other guys, realizing that it might bother him, then that's bad on your part.

Also, "doing the same thing back to you" is never ok. Doing something just to get revenge in a relationship is never a good idea.

It's all about balance. If other guys flirt with you, you can't control that. And there's nothing wrong with having guys as friends, and being friendly and having a good time. But be thoughtful, and just refrain from saying and doing certain things that will be interpreted as flirtatious. You'll learn to balance it out with time!

Answer 9

I, personally, wouldn't be jealous because, all in all, she comes home with me in the end of the night. However, most men may find the attention seeking behavior of flirting to be a warning sign if their girlfriends do it too much. By that I mean, if you flirt a great deal with other men, your boyfriend will probably get a ‘red flag’ for your need to receive attention from other men.

In other words, be social not flirtatious.

Answer 10

I would either like play along into a joke when you are they flirt back but mark my territory at the same time. I would be jealous if it would get a little outta hand, and no i wouldnt do it back to her... dont believe in revenge unless it has to do with sports and video games, and lifting weights

Answer 11

It totally depends on the relationship the two guys have preexisting. If they don't know each other that well then it is easy to be jealous, but if the two guys trust each other, then it would not be that big of a concern. Talk to the boyfriend and make sure he realizes that it is nothing for him to be jealous about.