HE SITS ON THE DAMN THING FOR AT LEAST EIGHT HOURS A DAY!!!!!!!!! I leave for work at 2, I come home at 10, SAME SPOT, same laundry, same dishes, same mess in the room, same everything!! We have a baby girl who's 11 months and I KNOW he just ignores her and sits on the computer. He is leaving for basic training in a couple of months so you think he would spend more time with her! It's gotten to the point that I want to quit my job so I can be at home with her to ensure she is getting the attention and love she deserves!
No, he does not work! No, he will NOT do any housework! And if he does one thing, he brings it up for the rest of the week, even if it's just putting the damn clothes I WASHED in the dryer, not even folding them..
Should I take the risk of him f-cking DIVORCING me and throw all his game discs out the window and set a timer thing for Warcraft so he can only play for an hour a day? He will be so pissed, but I don't know what else to do!
2007-11-20 17:47:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let me clarify, he does feed her and change her diaper.. sometimes he slips on the diaper thing. But seriously, we have to rush home if we leave to do anything so he can come home and get on the computer. He won't admit it or say it outright, but he whines the whole time we are doing anything until we get home, then he runs up the stairs and starts playing f-cking games!!!!!!!
2007-11-20 17:48:51 · update #1
yes major tom, when i met him almost six years ago, he was sitting on the computer playing games. exactly why i married him. thanks for your useless input.
2007-11-20 17:57:02 · update #2
jacqueline - "and don't tell me they don't pay mothers in your country to stay at home and take care of a child till a child is 3 years old."
that's called welfare, and i don't know about YOUR country, but in america welfare is something you do not want to be on. again, thanks for your useless answer. i didn't ask pity for being married to this man, i asked for solutions or different views since i am not a sorry *** who just gives up on marriage like every other person nowadays. every marriage has problems, i am asking for help, instead of just walking out.
also--in two months he will be leaving for basic training, so i guess the loser term doesn't really fit, i am just asking for help in the here and now--i want help before he stops showering and shaving to sit online, ha!
2007-11-20 18:05:57 · update #3
Game addiction is a very real thing. You have to try to work on this with him talk to him....and from your post i have a feeling you talk to him about it like this. Come at it froma a different angle dont nag him dont yell at him that will just make him mad an retreat back to the batcave so to speak. It sounds like he does love the kid but you arent there when he is alone with her he c ould spend time with her.....you just assume he doesent.
SPeak with him about it ask him to spend a little less time on them first you have to cut back small at first. ALso dont worry his BT will put him back in line.....keep the faith and all that and good luck
2007-11-20 17:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by SS4 Elby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be giving up my job and caring for my daughter properly. I would feel very uncomfortable knowing a person like your husband is looking after my daughter. If he was in the middle of a game and she started screaming, I am wondering if he would let her scream until he finishes his game or not? He sounds really addicted. Maybe he doesnt understand the gravity of his addiction, but if you quit your job because you dont trust him, then Im sure he will get the message loud and clear. Maybe he will have to get off his bum and do something otherwise how else will the internet bill be paid? Once he goes into training it may be different. I just know my daughters welfare would come first. Your husband is too addicted to put anyone, including your daughter above his games.
2007-11-20 18:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, seems I was reading my story there.
My hubby also spent up to 15 hrs on pc, I worked he sat. I shopped he played, no matter how much I fought he just looked at me. But next day he was back on pc.
I finally made it clear, when I got home from work I would ask him so nicely to go to store or make us tea.
And that way I would get on PC. Lol I learnt fast how to play games etc..
Now he finally got employment, I stay home, and things are getting better daily.
Be strong time will show you the way.
2007-11-20 17:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by unity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whose fault that u married a loser? and he is the one. come on, he has a child and a wife and he doesn't work? shouldn't u stay with a baby till baby is 3 years old? and he shoukd provide for u? why did u let him do this? i would dvorce him. u re wasting your pressious life on nagging and arguing. spend this time with your dsughter instead. and don't tell me they don't pay mothers in your country to stay at home and take care of a child till a child is 3 years old.so u might as well stay home with a baby
2007-11-20 17:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I would just leave him. He loves the games MORE than you, MORE than your daughter!
You can't make him change, only he can change himself, and obviously he is not even trying, so just leave and save yourself the trouble. You can't even leave your child with him without worrying. What kind of marriage is that? What kind of life is that for you and your daughter?
2007-11-20 17:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove the computer and games and break a window.
2007-11-20 18:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a teenage boy. You chose him. People seem to rush into marriage not even knowing who they are marrying.
Who is paying this Internet bill? you? cancel it then. Tell him if he wants it he can pay for it.
2007-11-20 17:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋