Family & Relationships - 19 November 2007

So, the first guy I've liked since my ex/son's father has decided that we should just be friends. Except we were never officially dating because neither of us wanted a relationship. I fell incredibly hard for him, and I know he didnt quite like me as much. I've never even been dumped before, so I'm not sure how to handle this.

The signs are obvious, so please nobody else tell me It's a shame not to fight for love. . .

My question is, how do I bow out gracefully when all I want to do is talk to him? He was very much a part of my daily life, and it all of a sudden just stopped. It's really hard. I know that "just be friends" doesnt ever work, and i've got self-respect so I dont plan on being that dumb girl who hangs around a guy who clearly doesnt dig her . . . but I need something to help me get over this.

2007-11-19 09:32:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

guys, do you even like this?
how do you do this effectivley without him thinking you're not interested?

2007-11-19 09:30:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-19 09:30:41 · 6 answers · asked by Jelsie R 1 in Singles & Dating

ok this boy has a 6 pack and is soo cute but he flirts with other girls in front of me that sends me to be mad a him for a couple of days but when i look into his eyes i forget about everything help me her plz

2007-11-19 09:30:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

YO I ASKED OUT A GIRL AND SHE SAID SHE JUST GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP AND DOSN'T WNT TO GO OUT WIT NO ONE BUT I REALLY LIKE HER WHT SHOULD I DO HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!1

2007-11-19 09:26:16 · 22 answers · asked by josh_pattani 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-19 09:24:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

first off: im not supposed to know this informantion. My mom told my sister to talk to my fiance and ask him if would like to give me my grandmas engagement ring. She said he could take the diamond out and have it re set if he wanted to. He was not planning on getting me an engagement ring right now as we are trying to save money and dont feel that an engagement ring would be a wise use of finances. He feels as though its a 'pity' offer and does not want to accept it. What do you all think about this? Personally, I would love for him to take it and give it to me. Its a beautiful ring and has family history, which means more than a new ring.

2007-11-19 09:22:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

She always seems unhappy with me or like she doesn't like me. Like when she gets back from work she will say hi to my Dad but she will never say hi to me , and then she starts talking about my younger brother and saying ' aww ive missed him today'and im like o fine you havent missed me ( i obv to say that to her )
When i talk to her it seems like she doesn't want to have a conversation with me and i don't know what i do wrong!
Its getting me really down because my friends have really good relationships with their moms and talk about everything , but my mom doesn't seem to want to know me and only cares about eveyone eles!

2007-11-19 09:19:00 · 6 answers · asked by starlett_x 3 in Family

I like Rachel stevens she nice looking and pretty. Any sites were I can chat to her and tell her shes nice looking and pretty?

2007-11-19 09:17:28 · 3 answers · asked by Phillip K 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I know this sounds like its right out of Scott Baio's mouth, but I'm just curious if any of you have any advice for me. No stupid answers please.
I've been dating a girl now for a few months who is one of the coolest girls I have ever dated. We get along great. I dont like to sound shallow, but I don't really see it going anywhere b/c of her looks. I know it should not matter what people look like, but I find myself not treating her like I would treat some of the previous girls I've dated, romanticly etc.. I feel like I might be giving her the short end of the stick. I wouldn't call myself shallow, but at the same time I find it hard to be sexually attracted to her. I always put personality first. If a woman is gorgeous but is dumb as a box of rocks with no personality, I am immediatly turned off. She is seeming more and more like just a friend every day. She really wants me to be her man, and she's a really good girl. I dont want to hurt her feelings. what should i do???

2007-11-19 09:14:39 · 5 answers · asked by halodebo 2 in Singles & Dating

and really big feet. he's also very tall, does that mean hes big.. down there? >.<

2007-11-19 09:12:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi.. i slept with a friend about two weeks ago...several times in one night...it was very passionate...a lots of kissing, hand squeezing during, back rubbing, cuddling all night. Then...same thing happen four days later... I am quite confused...

2007-11-19 09:11:27 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I hate this..

I started this job in May and in July my husband (of 4 years) and I separated. He is in rehab at the moment and I am too emabarrassed to tell my four co-workers. They are all women, two of which are married. I have been doing a little lying, like the other week it was my bday and I said he bought me perfume. Now, they want to know if he is going to our christmas party.

How do I do this?

2007-11-19 09:10:32 · 19 answers · asked by None 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been under a lot of stress lately and I don’t think I have been paying enough attention to the girl I like. I get the feeling that we are getting more distant in our friendship. I want to try and save this friendship before it is over.
Now that I feel a ton better I want to know if it is a good idea to give her a hand made card saying “I’m sorry for being so unpleasant to be around lately. I will do my best to be more upbeat and friendly, like I used to be. I feel a lot better and thanks for still talking to me even though I have been such a drag.” Then I want to get her a small cheesy gift attached to the card. (Open to suggestions on a gift.) I want to give her a card but I don’t If will just end up embarrassing both of us and make it awkward between us. I just want to know if I should go ahead and give her the card or just go through the awkwardness and do it in person. (Keep in mind we are still in the friend stage, not boyfriend and girlfriend.)

2007-11-19 09:10:24 · 4 answers · asked by RedXIII 2 in Singles & Dating

Before I got married to my husband, we been togeter for 5 years. can this cause to have a long term marriage? How long?

2007-11-19 09:10:11 · 19 answers · asked by lil_shanshan113084 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I took some dinner over to my friends mother-in-law as she was not feeling well and was not able to attend church. When I got there the pastor's car was in the backyard so I went in the back door as it was opened and I assumed they would be in the living room. Imagine my surprise when I heard muffled sound coming from the bedroom. And before someone asked there was no mistaking what they were doing. I was so shocked I quietly tiptoed out and left without them hearing me. I am so disappointed at them both. He has seven children and a wife and he is always preaching family loyalty and respect. Miss 'D' is a widow and a volunteer at the church. I always respected her work ethic but now I wonder if she did that just to get to the pastor. My faith has just taken a beating and yes I know he is mortal and tempted like the rest of us but still I am so confused. Is changing churches the answer and should I say something to her? Please don't give me any flip or cute answers.

2007-11-19 09:08:01 · 26 answers · asked by phillygirlz 3 in Marriage & Divorce

we have been married for almost 5 years and my husband and i want to renew our vows, is this crazy, and is there a certain time for this or is it up to each individual couple?

2007-11-19 09:07:53 · 8 answers · asked by reneck girl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We've been dating for shortly over a month and spend almost every day together and have the deepest talks and so much fun. This weekend we told each other we loved each other. I feel like i love him a lot and he is the man of my dreams in so many ways but i still have so many questions of whether am really sure.....

2007-11-19 09:06:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i last heard from my partner a few days..and he was crossing over to another country where we were to meet, but i havent heards from him since?i'm worried..has he cut me off..or what? all kinds of questions are running in me..and its just eating me..i cant move on if he's breaking up..i'm so inlove

2007-11-19 09:06:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i told her parents they said don't worry they said shes at "a friends" house wut do i do wut if she does it there her parents don't even care and shes like my bff really

2007-11-19 08:59:49 · 26 answers · asked by ☮NeonZebra♥ 3 in Friends

I was stressed out on Friday because he talked about his Ex. Then I started asking questions about sexual things. He answered then he said that he is stupid and he shouldn't said anything about his ex. then he went to bed at 9. I was on the computer listening to songs and drinking wine. I came to him and said I am sorry for asking. then I started crying because I was missing my family( I left my family for him) I asked him for tissue he said why don't you go get it. I got the tissue and went to living room instead of bedroom. Saying that all I was asking for tissue. He came over and slapped me hard on the head saying 'Are you crazy?' I said Why you hit me? Then he grabbed my hand and pulled me on the ground. I asked to leave me or I will call 911. He hugged me saying he loves me so much. He don't wanna loose me? i said You hit me I am not going to stay in this house.He said that's fine I will file the papers.

2007-11-19 08:58:18 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am starting to look at ideas for my wedding...I was thinking a tea length wedding dress. The only reason is because I think they look better on me and i want people to see my shoes! :) the only issue is I really want it to look dressy, whereas lots of people say tea lenght dresses are for if you want it more casual, which I dont. Also how does this look of with the bridesmaids dresses, being that they will also be tea length, i dont want to look like them!

2007-11-19 08:55:39 · 17 answers · asked by Holly 1 in Weddings

My husband and I have recently gotten married we've been together for 2years plus and we've known each other alot longer.
In the begininng of our relationship within time i noticed an issue with him drinking. I spoke how i felt about this. Then knows it's a problem but doesnt kno how to fix it, within time came denial, but looked at it like I just didnt want him to drink. "me being in control so bad things wont happen" Not giving him the chance to prove it to me on his own.
We moved to a new location, old friends just werent there. Drinking stoped for over 6months now I dropped the issue just this past weekend I put away my own issues with this topic. Since we had a lil vacation..
We both drank, however I know how to control myself and no when to stop. He doesnt. I had one drink friday, he had 2..
Saturday, we drank got buzzed, he continued when I soo stoped. Sunday we went out to dinner I ordered a drink plus i had 1shot. He had 6 beers, plus

2007-11-19 08:43:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I had a terrific first date with this woman, we're going to see each other soon, as soon as a we ended it, we went into a small store and she couldn't stop staring at nylons and pantyhose. I happen to have a fetish for women in them, so I asked her if she wears them and says she doesn't and I told her she'd look good in them and she playfully disagreed. Then we took a train and several girls in minis and heels/dress shoes were on there and I couldn't help but glance but I noticed she stared at them more than I did! I asked her something and seemed distracted after she looked at them.

Does she want to dress like that for me in the future after another date or two, or is she possibly bi?

She doesn't seem it.......

Help?

2007-11-19 08:41:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I sent a long email to a friend I had been messing around w/ saying that I thought it would be better if we remained strictly friends to not ruin our friendship. He replied by saying, "Okay, cool!No prob." and nothing else and now he hasn't been calling or speaking to me. He didn't even address what i wrote in the email. I don't want to say anything else about it. Why is he acting this way??

2007-11-19 08:39:23 · 9 answers · asked by Jbc338 1 in Friends

Do you think this is like a good idea or plan on asking a girl out? lol

Ok my friend is going to get some roses for the girl but in the little card that all the flowers/plants/roses etc. have
It's going to like say "I've loved you since the first time I met you....Will you go out with me?" lol
Idkk I am just trying to help my friend out so girls if you think ts a good idea let me know lol

2007-11-19 08:39:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok my friend met this "girl" he say's he knew her all her life and then they started recently dating and he wants to get her this gift that costs like 150 dollars. I was like why do u want to get such a expensive gift for he said well because she asked for it
i know he dont have alot of money has barely enough to get by
i just dont think he should just buy her this expensive gift rightaway
i used to think i liked this new girlfriend of his and now i think she is a gold digger
idk..what do u think about it all?

2007-11-19 08:39:10 · 4 answers · asked by cinnamon apple 3 in Singles & Dating

Does anyone know where I can buy plastic martini glasses in bulk for a reasonable price?
I've looked on Oriental Trading Company, but I'd like to find them for cheaper than $8 per dozen, if possible.
Thank you in advance!

2007-11-19 08:38:48 · 10 answers · asked by 2good2Btrue 5 in Weddings

....the best sex in the world with a man you dont love or being totally in love with a man that you are unable to have sex with but who is also totally in love with you?

2007-11-19 08:37:50 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What would you do if you had the email address of your husband's mistress? Would you write to her and tell her that you know all about the affair? Or would you tell HER husband instead?

2007-11-19 08:37:35 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce