What would you do if you had the email address of your husband's mistress? Would you write to her and tell her that you know all about the affair? Or would you tell HER husband instead?
2007-11-19 08:37:35 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have lots of proof. Even made photocopies in case.
2007-11-19 08:55:01 · update #1
Go for the throat girl - tell HER husband!
2007-11-19 08:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by ... 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think of myself as a very fair person but i could never trust someone again who i know has cheated, other people do and work through it. I just couldn't. I would sort myself with somewhere to live to start a new life for myself and when i'd done that i would show him the proof and then leave. I certainly wouldn't stay to listen to any excuse.
I would not tell my husband that i was telling the other husband, that would give him a chance to tell the other woman who could make an excuse and try cover her own butt before you show up but I would definitely tell her husband. I know it must be hard but i would try to be a bit sympathetic when you do let him know. He will feel the same as you. I wouldn't waste my time confronting her, she doesn't deserve any of you time. Hope you work this out. It's easy for others to give you advice but only you can decide what to do.
2007-11-19 09:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always invite both the husband and the wife over for dinner, without your hubby knowing, then drop the bomb on all three of them.........
If it were me I'd confront my husband as the Mistress and her husband owe me nothing, but my Hubby owes me All......e-mailing the wife will do no good unless you plan on using it as blackmail material (stay away from my husband or I'll tell yours)......or you could tell your hubby that you're gonna e-mail the husband if he doesn't drop the Mistress......
In the short term you may get some sort of satisfaction by exposing the culprits and hurting the innocent husband if he doesn't already know (hopefully he'll believe you) but that satisfaction won't last....and your hubby will cheat with some one else....people don't change. He cheats once, he'll do it again.
So ask yourself how will you acomplish what you need to do...and that's to take care of yourself.....as simply, and as classy as possible and without drama, which does nothing....then do it. Good Luck
2007-11-19 09:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ladies and gentlemen ease up on the calling of women tramps whores etc etc - really it reflects worse on you to use such derogatory language and labels.
Do you want revenge, drama, etc? You can make this situation as dramatic and vengeful as you like and you will add more stress to yourself and the other innocent party which is her husband.
Seems like your marriage is in trouble - do you want to work on it? Or do you want to be the hysterical wifey?You can go loopy and do a Glenn Close 'fatal attraction' - how attractive will you be then to him? He has already strayed from you.
How dramatic you are here will depend on how much you are seen as the victim or the lunatic he had to get away from. I advise composure.
What is your intended result of confronting her or her husband? The end result will just be uh..ok..now leave me alone or I'll call the police.
If I had a hysterical wife of my lover on my hands I would pity the guy for having to deal with that. If she harassed me I would call the police.
You have 4 people whose marriage is in trouble - concentrate on your own. Even if he splits with her he can have another fling next week.
2007-11-19 09:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it up with my husband, not with his mistress or anyone else. It's between him and I only. I'm married to my husband, not to his mistress.
2007-11-19 09:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would be mad so I would want to get even with her and my cheating husband so what I would do is I would pretend to be the husband sending an email to "another" mistress and make it look like he is sending the email to another fan of his but that he made a huge mistake and "sent" it to the mistress and in this email I'd make up a great story re loving (this pretend person) so much and even mention a pretend child of hers ...and how I just love taking "Madison" to the park but that my time is limited as I am so heavily involved in my.....whatever...job and mention "imagined" trysts you have had with this person and little nicknames you both use.
Now I think the s.....t will really hit the fan with the "real" mistress who gets this email and she will break things off with him. Ha ha ha.
2007-11-19 17:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by veraswanee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the Mistress. Any confronttation will only make her feel important. This should only be discussed with you and your husband. After the discussion get yourself a divorce lawyer. Hopefully your husband and the mistress will end up together. They deserve each other. Good Luck
2007-11-19 09:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd bypass the mistress and go to her husband.
Then, I'd dump your husband and find a man that knows how to be faithful. They really are out there..just few & far between.
As for the mistress...nah, I wouldn't waste my time with her. If you want results, let her husband handle it. But you better have proof.
Good luck...
2007-11-19 08:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
OH..I would tell her alright, but someone would have to pull my foot out of her @ss first. Hell yes I would tell her husband. If I could accomplish telling them both at the same time that would be my game plan. I am not a controversial person and I will avoid conflict at all costs, but when it comes to my husband, my marriage and adultery I would go completely psycho in about 3 seconds. I would so make her life a living hell. Oh...and there is no question, my husband would wish he was never born when I was done with him. OMG....I was gonna say that I would kill him, but I wouldn't. I WOULD MAKE HIM WISH THAT HE WERE DEAD. If you are talking about yourself personally in this question then I say try somehow, someway to arrange to be in the same place at the same time as her and her probably faithful husband and drop the bomb all at once. Not meaning to hurt the husband, but hell, he deserves to know and he deserves to get in on the revenge action if he wants to. HA......Death To All The Mistresses/Tramps in the world. Any woman who will lay down with a married man is a waste of space and oxygen. Good Luck!
2007-11-19 08:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by whatshername 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have access to your hubby's e-mail account, you could e-mail her pretending to be him. You could find out information....or just mess with her. You could use her e-mail address to sign her up for a bunch of porn SPAM, funny website newsletters....anything. That's all the fun stuff you can do to be spiteful.....
But if you seriously want to just write her an e-mail and say that you know all about her, just realize that the first thing she is going to do is run to your husband and say, "She knows about us!" Confront him before you confront her. Oh, and make your first letter good (meaning say all the nasty stuff you want to say) because she'll probably block you or change her e-mail afterwards.
Telling her husband is the best idea of all---but only if you have actual proof that you can hand him. Otherwise he won't believe you, or the mistress will just lie her way out of it. Good luck!
2007-11-19 08:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jacqueline D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go visit her some time while her husband is home and if you have an email from her to your husband that says something about their affair I would take that along too and show her husband. Then I would kick you husband out of the house and throw all his stuff on the lawn and call in sick to work and have the locks on the house changed when he come home from work.
2007-11-19 08:43:02 · answer #11 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋