She always seems unhappy with me or like she doesn't like me. Like when she gets back from work she will say hi to my Dad but she will never say hi to me , and then she starts talking about my younger brother and saying ' aww ive missed him today'and im like o fine you havent missed me ( i obv to say that to her )
When i talk to her it seems like she doesn't want to have a conversation with me and i don't know what i do wrong!
Its getting me really down because my friends have really good relationships with their moms and talk about everything , but my mom doesn't seem to want to know me and only cares about eveyone eles!
2007-11-19 09:19:00 · 6 answers · asked by starlett_x 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hey, i know how you feel - that's how it is with my mom, too.
what you should try is, write her a letter. explain how you feel.
now, i know you're rolling your eyes right now and going, "thank you, oprah," but seriously, try it.
get a nice piece of stationary paper, in her favorite color and one with a nice, soothing or love-invoking background. like, a nice pastel pink with roses or whatever you think your mom would like. dont have to get sappy, just a nice background to "set the mood" kind of, you know, sublimally, lol.
say stuff like um, "i've missed you, and i love you. but i don't know if you love me too, mom. you never really say anything to me, and when you laugh with dad and (insert your brother's name) and stuff in front of me, i feel left out. it feels like sometimes, you care about everyone else but me. i miss having a mom. especially at this age, i'd like a mother to talk to and spend time with, but it seems like you don't...you don't care. i want a mother that i can talk to and know i can count on to be there. i want to be able to come to you for advice and just hang out sometimes, daughter to mother, you know?"
but if you think the situation needs it, also put:
"mom, i'm writing this to you seriously. you never spend time with me, or talk to me, and...i really want to know, honestly. do you love me? is there something about me that you don't like? do i...am i unappealing to you? do i disappoint you? because it always seems, mom, that i do. im sorry if i do. mom, i really want to know cause, you don't act like you love me or even like me. i just want to know...if i really have a mother - if she loves me, or even actually likes me."
if you think your situation is bad enough, make it kind of tear-jerking, but not overly cuz then it'll lose the effect.
leave the letter on her bathroom counter or something, with perhaps a flower next to it, if you think that's her style.
or even, if put a picture of you two together in it. even better if it's from when you were a cute little girl, you know? bring back those memories of spending time with her daughter.
okay, well....good luck! i hope our letters work out for the best!
2007-11-19 09:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by chocolatedrops 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is very sad, have you caused any problems to make her feel that way? Are you from a different dad or something? Some moms are weird like that. I don't know why they do pick favorites. Look for a better role model, try to spend more time with your friends and their families so you can learn how to have a better relationship with her. I realy don't know what to say but to stand strong and don't let this get you down. If you dwell on it, it will only make it worse so try to spend time outside the house or get closer to your dad and talk to him about it.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-11-19 09:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by celestial-zen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may just be a phase that she is going through. But i would definately try and talk to her about it. Let her know how she is making you feel. My sister has had the same problem with our mom lately and i told her to talk to her about it and now they have been spending more time together than before. I hope everything turns out for you. Best wishes and good luck!!!
2007-11-19 10:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by daughtryrocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have done nothing wrong . Maybe Mom is the one who is doing something wrong. You haven't indicated your age but you must ask her outright why she neglects to talk to you or acknowledge you . Sometimes Moms get jealous if the father dotes on the daughter or did so prior to your brother arriving. Best to clear the air now.All I can say if she doesn't respond , she will one day regret it when she needs your support the most.
2007-11-19 09:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by googie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not your fault if your mom is being a jerk towards you. Never the kids fault. You should just ask her why she treats you this way and if she doesnt answer or whatever talk to your dad about her. Or if its really bad go on Dr Phil.
2007-11-19 09:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your mom and let her know how you are feeling.
2007-11-19 10:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by easter_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋