Family & Relationships - 2 October 2007

I recently had sex ( for the first time )... and to be honest I hated it ... it was so painful I can't describe ! I'm only 14 so I dunno whether it's the fact that I'm so young . I love my boyfriend and everything don't get me wrong . I also bled , so my "cherry was popped" so that might have been the cause of the pain. I told a nurse and she gave me this pleasure ehancing lubricant, not for the fact it was pleasure enhancing but she said next time this should help. What should I do I want to try again but enjoy it this time ?! :S

2007-10-02 04:03:46 · 8 answers · asked by Cait 1 in Singles & Dating

I just recently got married... I love my husband dearly! But I am having a problem... everytime we have sex and I have an orgasm I just want to cry. It doesn't hurt or anything... I just can't control myself I just start crying and it kind of ruins our time together. I think it is really starting to bother him because he feels like he is hurting me or something but that isn't the case. Is this a normal thing or what?

2007-10-02 04:02:55 · 13 answers · asked by Help??? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I broke up with my ex a few months ago. After we broke up we remained friends for a little while so we never did the "take your Sh*t back" scene. Well now it is official over, What do I do with the gifts she gave me. I mean most were birthday presents, like a painting, a watch and a jersey. I stopped wearing the watch and jersey. I know it would be wrong to just throw them away. So what should I do, I know the painting, she worked hard on it. Should I give them back to her? Or just start wearing the watch and jersey again? Or pack them in a box? Also I don't know what she did with the gifts I gave her becuase she has not mentioned giving them back to me? But I need to do something with them to officially move on.

2007-10-02 04:00:03 · 13 answers · asked by Flipper 3 in Singles & Dating

We were married 6 yrs together for 9. Over the years alot of hostility built up because of many fights and stupid things that he has done. We got married because we we're living together and thought we loved each other and were comfortable with each other. We never cheated on each other and have similar lifestyles . We basically keep to ourselves & have no friends. I have a big immediate family. We have to 2 boys. All the fights caused alot of hurt, hostility and mistrust. He's a good husband as far as he does housework, works hard outside of the house, doesn't cheat, hang out, or drink or drugs but I feel that we don't really get along as a couple and now that I look back, I don't think he was ever in love. He sends text messages saying that he does and is very affectionate, but I don't think he was ever in love with me. I think we should divorce, but he doesn't. I don't think counselling would work unless there was true love at one time which there wasn't & isn't.

2007-10-02 03:58:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been dating a guy for what will be a year in November. Everything has been going real well. On September 18th he just disappeared, didn't call, didn't return my calls and then out of the blue on the morning of October 1st he re-appeared with a text message saying "Good morning! Have a great day!"

What do you suppose would initiate those actions and what could possibly be going on in his mind??

2007-10-02 03:57:02 · 10 answers · asked by cptkmwallman 2 in Singles & Dating

what are your personal preferences for personalities? do you people like the humorous types, the studious types, casual, laidback types? or more the serious, intense kind of people?

do you think you're attracted to people with similar personalities like yourself, or do opposites really attract?

as far as body types go, do you ever find yourself attracted to people with the equivalent of your body, i.e do those curvy women like the muscular kind of guys? i know it's becoming an ever-increasing cliche about curvy, beautiful women dating the rounder, endomorphic kind of males, proof that the opposites attract rule exists?

unfortunately, l'm not one of those curvy women, more of a skinny, narrow-hip, 5"2 kind of girl and i actually do find myself attracted to males with the equivalent body type - the more slender (but not scrawny) kind. do you think we're all inadvertently programmed through socio-cultural influences to prefer people with similar body types?

what's your opinions?

2007-10-02 03:56:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I guess it happens to me a lot of times. As I work with girls on assignments we interact a lot and sometimes spend hours together work in the lab. Then I develop some feelings for them. But this does not last long enough. Very soon I get back to my own selfish self. The same happens to these girls and things become as usual. I guess it is becoming a lot difficult to find the right person these days, someone you can associate yourself with, accept and be happy with. Do you experience such ups and downs in feelings?

2007-10-02 03:54:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm not talking about if you ask and the woman says no, I'm just wondering if there is ever a circumstance under which you wouldn't even TRY to get away with it.

And women how many men have you been on dates with where they haven't even tried anything?

2007-10-02 03:53:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it normal to be absolutly in love with my husband, but to think of how things woud be with out him? We have been married for 3 months and I love him very much. We have a 6 week old daughter who is the light of our lives. Since our baby was born we seem to argue a lot. Every time we argue I wonder if I would have been better off not marrying him, then I look at him and remember what it was that made me fall in love with him and I feel ashamed for even letting my brain wander to the though of asking for a divorce. I have not told him that I have even considered leaving him. There is not kind of abuse involved, I am just extreemly sensitive and hate to argue with someone I love. I watched my parents rip eachother apart with arguements and I can't do that to my daughter.
I guess my question is this...Am I just being too sensitive about the whole thing? Anyone have any advice about how to overcome the guilt I face for these feelings?

2007-10-02 03:47:14 · 32 answers · asked by j_lynn_griff 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I dated this girl for about 6 weeks...than i pushed her away..ive been trying for the past 2 months to get her back...where finnaly on talking terms again and things seem to be going pretty good..we had lunch 2 saturdays ago..and it went really good..i talked to her last monday...wed..and friday..trying to set somthing up...yesterday i emailed her and asked if she wanted to go to lunch somtime this week....she said this week is crazy for her at least until thursday..but possibly friday would be ok....i responded even though everybody said i should play the game where i wait till thursday to ask her out for lunch fri..but i dont play games..even though she kinda is...i replied with friday could be good..will have to set somthing up...was i wrong to respond with that? how should i follow through with the next contact?

my friends say to tell her thursday ill be having lunch and some drinks friday at yardhouse around 2..if you want to meet up thats where ill be......is this good or bad

2007-10-02 03:45:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well i broke up with him!!! I'm feeling great. I still miss what we had at one time but i know some where out there their will be someone who will never yell at me or call me names. I've been still talking to my ex and he is being so nice! He is still calling me "BABY" "sweetheart" "Darling" i told him i don't think he should call me that anymore and he said i will always be his "BABY" i like hearing him say it but it makes me weak to him when he does. I was talking to him last night and he said "i don't want any other girl then you. i still want to sleep together if your down" I didn't know what to say i've never had a one night stand or be friends with benefits! So please help me do you think i'm asking for trouble and even worse more heartache?

2007-10-02 03:44:03 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Yesterday I used a word that my husband did not understand. (The word was "epiphany," if you want to know.) So, we got into an argument that I "think I know everything" and I think he is stupid and I "pretend to be better than everyone else." And he demanded to know where I learned that word!!
Now, I know he was just saying all of those things because he felt inferior because he did not know the word, even though we both have college degrees. I mean, you learn new things everyday. Why didn't he just think "cool, I learned a new word?" Why did he feel he had to make me feel like crap because I used a word that was not part of his vocabulary?

2007-10-02 03:43:48 · 11 answers · asked by emily1980 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-02 03:39:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

For over 10 years my aunt and uncle are always inviting themselves to stay overnight at our house when they are in town. My parents are being nice but now they have begun to feel they are being taken advantage of. This couple visit our town on average 4 to 5 times a year. They have at least 10 other relatives they can stay with including their own adult children, but they prefer not to go to the other homes. The problem has gotten worse because now whenever there is any wedding or death in their distant family, they come to our house and now invite other relatives to stay at our house as well without asking my parents if it is okay. They also invite people over to socialize in our home and want my mom to help cook and clean with them for the other guests too. I try to help but I am a busy teen and my mom has my little brother and sister to deal with too. I once saw my mom crying one day that it was just too much to handle. They stay 3 to 7 days each visit. PLEASE HELP!

2007-10-02 03:39:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

This guy adored me for over three years. He has been waited for me because I was not ready for a relationship and serious commitment.

In the past three years, he is very supportive with my goals and decision (study and remain virgin) Honestly, he never asked me for anything. He just waited and waited for me.

I love him very much. However, I want to stay on my ground and accomplish my goals (Career, Education, and remain virgin until married)

Recently, he wrote two poems about moving on. I asked him a few times if he want to move on, but he did not want to tell me.
I was heart broken. I love him and I want him to be happy therefore, I do not want to contact him anymore--so he can move on with his life.

I feel guilty and will alway feel guilty. What should I do? Thank you very much for your advice.

2007-10-02 03:38:42 · 24 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a good friend whose mom was turned over into Hospice care yesterday. She's in the last stages of pancreatic cancer & was told it can be anywhere from 2 to 4 weeks. Being a mom & a Nana I know how to sit & talk to the little ones on this matter. But does anyone know of a good book designed for kids explaining death?

2007-10-02 03:34:07 · 5 answers · asked by Susan W 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

With most women at thier "sexual peak" in their 30s, when does that peak end for most.
How did this impact your relationship with your husband or BF?

2007-10-02 03:27:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We have been taking things slowly, upon my request. Recently though, things have sped up real fast, and we are engaged now. So he has performed oral sex on me several times lately, and it was great! But now he is upset because I don't give back. This makes me feel really guilty! And I'm really really really nervous, and I have no idea where to start. Before we got together I was a virgin, and lived a VERY sheltered childhood. I want to make him happy but I'm not even sure where to start with the oral sex. Could someone please help me?

2007-10-02 03:26:34 · 40 answers · asked by Hello to the little people! 1 in Singles & Dating

I live about 3 hours away from my parents and just visited my parents with my 2 year old son. My mom said to me, don't punish him at grandma's house and says she wants grandma's house to be a happy house. I found that strange and insulting to say especially since I wasn't punishing him at the time.
I honestly think my mom knows she failed at parenting my sister and I and is jealous seeing me in a happy marriage and being a terrific loving mom.
What should I do? Does anyone else have this problem?

2007-10-02 03:22:58 · 9 answers · asked by ElenaV 1 in Family

And I do get along as best as i can with my ex! cuase im disabled and need financial with kids!
just dont understand Y the 20 year old son is ignoring us like this! maybe it is the past about his dad!
I think I will keep my son in my life and keep communication with him! Get a friend to drive me to my sons college!
But I think that my sons over bought cell phone that his dad bought for him is too much dont you think?
Im going to talk to his dad and suggest that he buy our son a lower end of the market cell phone or shut off his cell! since he wont talk to any of his family members on it!
And the car my ex traded the newer one in for an older one! I was somewhat glad that he got a less fancier one! but it isnt as safe!
And yes there are issues here!
My ex is trying to make up for time when he didnt treat his son right
when he was little....
that is why I left my ex...why we are divoriced...it is sad...
and now my son is away at college...,many years of therapy....
what to do?

2007-10-02 03:19:56 · 3 answers · asked by toenail 2 in Family

Your already married for God knows how many years. Why would you want to repeat them after God knows how many years? You're just doing the same thing over again. This time it might cost you more money. Maybe at first you didn't have to pay for the whole thing b/c your family helped you out. What makes you think that they would be willing to do the same thing again? Some repeat their vows and then get divorce a few years after. Do you think that if they did not repeat their vows they would still be married today? It's too much......

2007-10-02 03:19:46 · 3 answers · asked by imahlah 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Our friend is getting married on Sat and both my daughter/myself are in the wedding. My friend knows that we have no $$ and so she paid for both of our dresses. They asked for a home improvement gift card for gifts, but how much should we give?

2007-10-02 03:17:09 · 13 answers · asked by dac3130 1 in Weddings

Me and my mother is very close but sometimes she can really get to me. I know i'm still young and I have a lot to learn. But I want to learn how to make decisions on my own. I don't want to have to depend on my mother all the time. I've been out of school for a year and i'm at a community college now for a year. I work, go to school, give her money to pay bills. I'm still a virgin, never been in any kind of legal trouble. I'm basically a good daughter. I understand that she wants me to stay a good daughter but I feel she should let me have some kind of freedom. For example, if there is a cookout or party or some kind of outings with my friends, I have to ask her like i'm a child. And I feel it shouldn't be that way. I've already made the decision to save up money to move out on my own so I can be able to have a social and real life. I love my mother so much and I don't want to loose her. How should I talk to her? What are some of your experiences with mothers like this?

2007-10-02 03:12:01 · 24 answers · asked by Charqueena B 2 in Family

I've been working away from home over the summer and now that I'm home my son is afraid to let me out of his sight. I understand and care about how he feels and feel guilty. I need to find a way to let him trust me again because he screams when I take him to school, he follows me around the house and screams if I'm only going to the store. So. I take him to the store with me, but he's not happy enough with that he wants mom and sister to come too. I know it's abandonment issues. Me and my wifes relationship is good and there is no messages to him that we'd be divorcing or anything; however, reading his body language, cries and actions indicate fear of losing me. How can I repair his trust?
Also. Am I just flattering myself or is it really about me or should I be suspicious of something else?

2007-10-02 03:04:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I had a pretty good second date with a guy on Saturday. We said goodbye and he said he was going in to work early but would catch up with me the next day (Sunday). He never called. I sent him a text on Sunday morning suggesting we should go to the beach if he got out of work early enough. He didn't respond. It's Tuesday now and I haven't heard from him. Its confusing because he talked about what a great time he had the first night we went out and sent me a message the next morning. On our first date he even said (without me asking) that he saw potential for us.
It seemed like he had a good time the second time we went out too. He just never calls. We only met two weeks ago...am I asking too much too soon? or is it time to let go?

2007-10-02 03:04:35 · 11 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Singles & Dating

Its a long story but my dad was abusive to my mom while I was growing up and was in jail until I was 5. He would beat her very badly. He never hit me and pretty much gave me everything I wanted when he was around. He is the total definition of a sociopath and thinks he was the father of the year and cannot acknowledge all the pain he put our family through not to mention the emarrassment of having the police at our house every night when I was a child. I am now 34 and dont bother with him much as he lives out of state. He calls and asks for money and says he is being evicted and having open heart surgery (its a lie). I don't understand why he would think that I would want anything to do with him. All he does is call me up and yell at me for not calling. Not sure what is going through his head?

2007-10-02 03:02:50 · 10 answers · asked by L 4 in Family

What's some different sayings you've seen on bridal shower cakes, besides Congratulations Bride To Be, and so forth. I want something fun..........

2007-10-02 02:57:51 · 8 answers · asked by me 1 in Weddings

I am only 16 and went to try it out. I know how but want to know what is the best thing to use for this that I can find around my house. I have try to do it with my fingers but nothing happened could I be doing some thing worng. I also want to try some thing that simulate penatration, but not a fake penis what can I use with out spening to much money or some thing in my houes

2007-10-02 02:57:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i'd a (boy) friend for 3 years.....he told before that he loves me but i prefered to be just his friend
but now i feel so in love with him...i cant do anything but missing him
he went for some education in another country...i know he deserves the best but i can't support that he'll be so far for may be 3 years
it's really so hard for me, i need him ,i miss him
i told him that on the phone and i wrote 20 poems for him...i send him million messages to tell him i'm sorry for being late to confess this love.
but he said he still in love with me but he also will stay there...
i dont know what to do...i cant go with him cause my parents're sooooooooooo hard and it won't work with me to go there ...money problems ...& familly problems
tell me .do you feel he really loves me?and if that's right ,why he's still there????

2007-10-02 02:55:29 · 1 answers · asked by N 1 in Singles & Dating

My father goes, and just out of the blue ( because he's drunk and on a hangover, most likely) says to me when i came out of my room " oh look it's the big baby, wanting mommys attention, always im competition, the big baby" etc etc to me. My mom was there and she was telling him to go to bed cause he was being stupid. And then as he's walking up the hall he goes " all she is just one big ******* baby".

I then said " at least im not a p rick like you ". Which im in trouble for now. .Then while he's in his room, i hear him say " the f ucken *** hole". Now im not complaining or anything, i just want to know if you think this was a fair thing for me to have said? Considering, i didn't do anythign to make him say this, other than saying that the show was half over and that i didn't want to watch it. And shoud i now be grounded in my room for the night? Thanks so much!

2007-10-02 02:51:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships