I guess it happens to me a lot of times. As I work with girls on assignments we interact a lot and sometimes spend hours together work in the lab. Then I develop some feelings for them. But this does not last long enough. Very soon I get back to my own selfish self. The same happens to these girls and things become as usual. I guess it is becoming a lot difficult to find the right person these days, someone you can associate yourself with, accept and be happy with. Do you experience such ups and downs in feelings?
2007-10-02 03:54:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats not love.............i thought you were my man!!
are you cheating on me?
if your bad im gonna send you to my room!!!!!! lol
2007-10-02 10:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do, and I think it's because I need a strong mental/intellectual connection with someone before I feel the emotional attachment. You may be the same way -- when you're interacting a lot with your work and conversations around it, you have these feelings. . . but when you're no longer stimulating each other on a mental level (because you've taken it "up" to the dating level) the feelings fade. There's a direct correlation between boredom and intimacy, one always kills the other.
The trick is finding someone that's mentally challenging without causing headaches. I'm currently experimenting with trying to spend more time in conversation or doing cerebrally-stimulating activities together, as this seems to correspond to the times when I feel most romantically connected.
2007-10-02 11:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you actually fall in love with those girls. Since you work in close quarters with them, you naturally are forced to interact, which can make you feel things you wouldn't necessarily feel otherwise. I don't have those ups and downs. When I like someone, it doesn't just go away after a few days. I seriously think the reason you feel like that is because your working conditions put you in such close proximity to one another. Don't fret it. The right girl is out there. Just be patient and when you find her, you will know she was worth the wait.
2007-10-02 11:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Little_Miss_Irony 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well thats the purpose of getting to know someone. I think initially its fun to like on somebody cause its new and fresh. As we spend more and more time with someone it'll either escalate or go downhill. Maybe initially something about these girls excited you but then it did nothing for you anymore after that. I think you'll find the one for you when you least expect it. Just keep being social.
Look at it this way..I've had a crush on feelings for a ton of guys I never actually got involved with any of them though. I think when its someone special it'll be a feeling even far greater than that. :)
I think the whole its lust thing is crap too I'm sure everyone you guys liked you didn't want to sleep with or get involved with sexually. So I can't agree with that one guys. Alot of times you just like who you are around..proximity plays a big part
2007-10-02 10:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples2168 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is love or lust, just a working relationship. The fact that you can move on is a sign it isn't love, and the fact that you haven't hit on her indicates it isn't lust.
It is quite a normal process as you make your way through life.
As for being selfish it may well be, just a little self centred, which isn't too bad.
If you are still in school, don't worry about serious relationships, as they seem to be occurring later and later.
Focus on your education and getting a good career started.
2007-10-02 15:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your in love with someone , believe me hun you'll know .
Them feelings don't just go away within a few days .
They could do anything to you and hurt you but you'd still be in love with them.
And yeah it may be difficult to find that one person .
But one day she will come along.
I use to experience these kind of feelings until I fell in love.
And now we are having a little boy.
So everything works out in the end .
Although it may take some time.
2007-10-02 11:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by mommy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most of the people are experienceing the same problem. It's all due to Infatuation - an immaturity in relationships..
2007-10-02 11:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Myth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like LOVE to me but more like infatuation or possibly LUST. Don't get them confused.
When love finally hits you upside your head, there won't be any doubt and it will last longer than a couple of days.
sandy :O)
2007-10-02 17:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have crush on these girls. That's all. Relax. That's normal. You are yet to find true love. Good luck for the same.
2007-10-02 13:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY FRIEND, YOU SHOULD CONGRATULATE YOURSELF THAT YOUR CONSCIENCE IS ALIVE IN YOU AND THAT IS WHAT PREVENTS YOU FROM TAKING THE RELATIONSHIP FURTHER BECAUSE YOU VERY WELL KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ACTUALLY READY FOR ANY COMMITMENTS. YOU ARE A PERSON WITH GOOD VALUES AND NOT THE KIND WHO BELIEVES IN ONE NIGHT STANDS. YOU HAVE THIS MATURITY IN YOU TO DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN TRUE LOVE AND INFATUATION. WHEN YOU REALLY FIND YOUR SOULMATE, YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF HAVING PERMANENT FEELINGS FOR HER. AND JUDGING BY YOUR HONESTY I THINK THAT DAY IS NOT TOO FAR. ALLAH KNOWS THE BEST.
2007-10-02 23:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by SHAHAZAD SHAIKH 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't work that way. I wouldn't say it's just lust (that's more "hot and ***** with no feelings attached" most of the time) but infatuation does. Think of it as an intense crush.
2007-10-02 10:58:41 · answer #11 · answered by lisa w 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋