Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We have been taking things slowly, upon my request. Recently though, things have sped up real fast, and we are engaged now. So he has performed oral sex on me several times lately, and it was great! But now he is upset because I don't give back. This makes me feel really guilty! And I'm really really really nervous, and I have no idea where to start. Before we got together I was a virgin, and lived a VERY sheltered childhood. I want to make him happy but I'm not even sure where to start with the oral sex. Could someone please help me?
2007-10-02 03:26:34 · 40 answers · asked by Hello to the little people! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I'd just be honest with him. Since I'm sure he already knows that you were a virgin before him, he should be understanding, just ask him what he likes and how he wants you to do it, and other than that just experiment.. ask him to give you feedback on what you are doing right/wrong, and most importantly of all, don't get discouraged! Most guys would be THRILLED enough that you even asked them what they like/don't like and that you geniunely care about how good you make him feel. Trust me on this one, and I wish you two the best of luck! :)
2007-10-02 03:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jack B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by visiting a planned parenthood clinic.
No one should do any thing that they are not comfortable with or they must not let people make them uncomfortable by engaging in any act, they are not prepared for.
You are "engaged now" you said.
Please read my article before getting married or doing any thing else. This is only because you are asking.
It is all up to you. You need to eductate yourself and find the subjects in the library and on the Internet and discuss this without being ashamed with your partner.
A the saying goes. "Knowledge is the king and lady luck is the queen".
So take your time.
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2007-10-02 03:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question you should be asking him. Lovers, both male and female, should be willing to take and give instructions to each other in matters of technique. No one can be expected to just know what another person likes or desires. It's okay ask.
There are a couple of techniques I do not like a woman to use on me and I don't mind saying, gently, "don't do that." I have been receptive to women when they say the same, or recomend another approach. After all, the point of the act is to make each other feel good.
Finally, I think most men would be turned on by the prospect of having a lover that they could "train," so to speak, to do it just the way they like it.
2007-10-02 03:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite problem . Let me tell you i love giving my wife oral sex there is no better way to start the day . You do this for your man 4 or 5 times a week , if i were him i'd worship the ground you walk on .
2016-05-19 01:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a part of the relationship, most of us have been through this experience before always receiving and never giving.. which is a problem. If you love him and want to make him happy and you know that this sort of thing will. Make sure this is what he wants first because actually some men love to give it and dont like to receive. If he wants to receive I think you should make it very important to make him happy. If you dont know where to start which tapes or some how practice that's for another question, I have the answer to.
2007-10-02 03:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by hershey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study up on it. Buy some "how to give oral sex" books
if have to. I did. That's how I learned to give oral sex to my ex-GF and beleive me. It really works when you know exactly what you are doing to your significant other. I didnt learn oral sex by watching porn. Porn scenes goes way by too fast. In porn, things are rushed and it fake. In real life...you take your time you do it right and you get the positive results you are after.
Good luck and dont be afraid to read on how to do it.
Wisdom and knowledge is power and the more you have. The more confident you'll feel. Its better to know exactly what you are doing, instead of assuming you think you know.
Good luck
2007-10-02 03:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not. There are books galore in just about any large bookstore (Walden, Barnes and Noble) about oral sex and if all else fails there are videos which will help you. The first thing you have to do is explain to your b/f your hesitancy is not because you dont want to but rather because you dont know how to. He will understand. The important thing is to keep your teeth out of the way (OUCH) and practice practice practice. You can practice on a banana or on your b/f the choice is yours
2007-10-02 03:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stroke it and hug it and lick it and love it! Just try to watch your teeth. Have you watched Ole School? That movie has a part where a guy comes and shows the girls how to do it...it's quite simple and easy. The head/tip is the most sensitive area, so you want to watch for that. As you are consentrating on the tip, use your fingers to stroke the shaft. Be careful not to go too deep too fast, cause then you can gag and that scks! But also, ask him...tell him you want to satisfy him, but you have to know what he likes. I'm sure he'll show you. Then you can pleasure each other....
2007-10-02 03:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by karamell08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, great question!
First off, if you don't feel comfortable doing that for him, he should understand. It involves a fair bit of trust, as you feel like he could choke you if it were to get out of hand. If you trust him, and he is willing to let you take it slowly, you will be alright. I won't go into details here, but my advice to you is to talk to him about how you feel about it, and go from there. Take it slowly, and just do what feels good to both of you.
I would suggest, however, that for the first few times, do not attempt a mutual oral session, let yourself be able to fully concentrate on what you are doing to him, with no distractions. :)
Just relax, and let it flow. It will work out like it is s'posed to.
Hope this helps you. Have fun!
2007-10-02 03:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ravyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is not a problem at all. Your best candidate for help is the very man to whom you lost your virginity.
One word... communicate. Just try it with him and have him verbally coach you through it. All guys like it done differently so he'll tell you what feels best for him. Yes, it's THAT simple.
With him you don't need to be shy or embarassed.
This may sound a bit off color, but you can always watch an adult film to research form and style. Best of luck to you. :-p
2007-10-02 03:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Roadrage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋