I broke up with my ex a few months ago. After we broke up we remained friends for a little while so we never did the "take your Sh*t back" scene. Well now it is official over, What do I do with the gifts she gave me. I mean most were birthday presents, like a painting, a watch and a jersey. I stopped wearing the watch and jersey. I know it would be wrong to just throw them away. So what should I do, I know the painting, she worked hard on it. Should I give them back to her? Or just start wearing the watch and jersey again? Or pack them in a box? Also I don't know what she did with the gifts I gave her becuase she has not mentioned giving them back to me? But I need to do something with them to officially move on.
2007-10-02 04:00:03 · 13 answers · asked by Flipper 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont give it back, that just makes things worse. I know how you feel though. I was married for 7 yrs and it took be almost 6 yrs after getting divorced to be able to wear the watch she had bought me. Do what you feel comfortable with but I really dont think you should get into giving things back unless you do it nicely " I know you worked really hard on this painting and being it is painful for me to look at because it reminds me of you and subsequently our break-up, I wanted to see if you wanted it back before I put it away"
2007-10-02 04:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are yours if they were birthday gifts, do what you please.
If she ask for some things back or all back be generous and give it back. Since you are asking you do not have any idea so give it back. If it bothers you then pack it up keep for few years and donate it to charity or start using it just use it whatever you are comfortable with.
You have moved on. You do not need to do anything.
2007-10-02 11:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to feel weird about keeping them, offer them to her -- especially the painting. Then pack them away and eventually you'll know what to do with them. For example, I donated a really cool ring from my ex to a silent auction to help raise money for my cousin with cancer. Very therapeutical. ;-)
2007-10-02 11:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them to a homeless shelter or Goodwill. No need to contact each other again, you've each said your part and like you said, need to move on. That's what I do in order to move on to the next chapter of my life.
Besides, someone could always use a watch or clothes (who is less fortunate than us) - so from all this heartache, at least you can feel a little better about yourself contributing to something worthwhile. :)
2007-10-02 11:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by two_design_kitties 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't give back gifts. There are not meant for the time you were together. It's your business what you want to do with them. The get your stuff drama is when people are mad and they just do it. The stuff is yours!
2007-10-02 11:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by fine00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off.. they were gifts.. more than likely.. she is keeping/wearing whatever you gave her..
its a material possession.. the feeling and in the manner she gave it are the only thing there..
honestly if you dont want the stuff give it to someone.. she wont want it back..
2007-10-02 11:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift is just that....it's a gift. It belongs to you. As soon as she gave these items to you, she didn't own them anymore.
Having said that......if you feel like you want to give them back, you certainly can ask her if she would like to have them.
If you'd like to keep them, you have the right to do so.
If she doesn't want them, nor do you....you can sell them on EBay, or give them to Goodwill.
2007-10-02 11:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gifts are gifts and shouldn't be given back. If you don't want them, get rid of them. Don't expect to give them back, and don't wait for her to do the same. They are gifts, not loans.
2007-10-02 11:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she wants them back. remember that those gifts were still a sign of affection for YOU. people dont' (or shouldn't) take back gifts, so its your say to ask if she would like them back.
2007-10-02 11:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pack them in a box.
2007-10-02 11:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♦¤CarLa_Mari¤♦♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋