I dated this girl for about 6 weeks...than i pushed her away..ive been trying for the past 2 months to get her back...where finnaly on talking terms again and things seem to be going pretty good..we had lunch 2 saturdays ago..and it went really good..i talked to her last monday...wed..and friday..trying to set somthing up...yesterday i emailed her and asked if she wanted to go to lunch somtime this week....she said this week is crazy for her at least until thursday..but possibly friday would be ok....i responded even though everybody said i should play the game where i wait till thursday to ask her out for lunch fri..but i dont play games..even though she kinda is...i replied with friday could be good..will have to set somthing up...was i wrong to respond with that? how should i follow through with the next contact?
my friends say to tell her thursday ill be having lunch and some drinks friday at yardhouse around 2..if you want to meet up thats where ill be......is this good or bad
2007-10-02 03:45:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why are you making the same question again?
Explain her first why did you pull away , and invite her and thats it....otherwise shes just gonna think you playing big mind games
2007-10-02 03:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like this girl then you will keep up the good work. Even though you men dont think that we women can have very busy lives it is very possible that she is busy. We dont just say that to get out of a date. She told you that it would be good on friday so go with that. I think you did the right thing and to follow up you should email her on thursday to make sure that things are good. Women sit around and wait for that one phone call too and our heart leaps when it finally comes through. We are not as cold hearted as some of you think and we get that giddy feeling everytime someone shows interest in us. Keep up the good work and good luck with your date
2007-10-02 12:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You admit that you pushed her away and that you are trying to make up for it. It is up to you to take the initiative and set up a lovely date. I don't mean expensive, necessarily, but lovely. Call her and ask for a date on a specific day and time, then plan something that you know she will like. She has been hurt, and will not trust you for a while. You've got a little work ahead of you.
And, be honest about the fact that you regret pushing her away. She should believe you, and it would clear the way to some honest feelings.
Your friends sound like they are wanting you to be "cool" about this. I think if you're cool with her, you'll lose her.
2007-10-02 10:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are trying to get her back... that means you should be patient and honest!!!! i dont understand if you already have plans for friday and you are trying to get her in, but i dont think its a good idea to invite a girl over to some place you are going to be around people. its better all alone, to talk and make things flow.... slowly cause another mistake u can make her go away forever... be very patient, if shes interested in you she will call you back as soon as she can!!!!
2007-10-02 10:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by edie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, being a girl i understand where shes comming form, if you push her away it takes alotto get her back, be genuine and sweet and t will work
2007-10-02 10:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberlyan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u push her away initially?
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2007-10-02 10:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋