Do you think it's a good idea to repeat your vows.?

Question

Your already married for God knows how many years. Why would you want to repeat them after God knows how many years? You're just doing the same thing over again. This time it might cost you more money. Maybe at first you didn't have to pay for the whole thing b/c your family helped you out. What makes you think that they would be willing to do the same thing again? Some repeat their vows and then get divorce a few years after. Do you think that if they did not repeat their vows they would still be married today? It's too much......

Doctorlo you have to understand that most vows are the simple honor and till death do us part. Others are said or written from the heart and I would think that they would remember them being that it's suppose to be a cherished moment.

Kitchen I know that most people are diffrent and do things for diffrent reasons. You say you live by your vows everyday and don't have to repeat them to know them or have put them aside....them why do the same thing over agian. It's not as special to these people that you care about as it is to you. The fact that your married and have a man/woman standing by you through thick and thin is what your vows are about. Living through them should be enough to sustain you for all the years to come. That's my point. Not the actual ceromony, which I think is pointless to repeat.

Answer 1

I plan on renewing my vows at 7 years. For us its to share our vows with people that where unable to share them with us the first time. Its something we planned from the beginning of even planning our original wedding date as well. Not something that we came up with because we felt a reason to reaffirm them as a couple, or because we felt we drifted from them.

This time it will cost us more money, simply because the first time it only cost $50 dollars. Yes my MIL paid for the $50 dollar wedding of my dreams, and no I didn't expect her to then, and I don't expect her to for our renewal. We will be paying for it ourselves. Though it will still be low key and understated.

You seem to think that every wedding, every marriage, every couple is the same. But you know what they aren't. Everyone does things for different reasons. I live by my vows everyday, i don't feel I have to renew them or repeat them because Ive forgotten them, or put them aside. We are doing it so that we can share something with people that we care about.



Actually it is special to those people. My family was unable to attend my wedding. Though of course it is special enough for them that we are married and have been wonderfully for nearly 6 years now. It would also be special for them to be able to partake in a special ceremony, and a celebration of our love that they were unable to partake in when we first got married. Its not so much about saying the vows again. In fact the actual repeating of the vows is probably the least of the event. Its about celebrating our love with family and friends that may not have had to opportunity to as a group.


Also just some clarification, its really going to be more of an anniversary party, than a traditional vow renewal. Just one we've been planning for a long time. We will be writing new "vows" if thats what you want to call them. That reflect on our then 7 years of marriage, not the vows we said when we first got married. Not the love honor for better for worse ones. But ones that come from our experiences over our marriage, not promises we made when we first got married.

There will not be a member of the clergy present, the "officiating" person will be a relative of mine who is really just going to host the event, someone whom I feel very close to and who wants to help us share the special occasion.


There wont be the whole white dress thing either, I dont really want to buy a wedding dress. Since i borrowed the first one, and couldnt fit into that thing again. I plan on just wearing a nice outfit, maybe a dress but not a wedding dress. Its not like getting remarried thats not how I see it. Its about celebrating our marriage in a more formal manor.

Answer 2

Gotta agree here. I did it once. Why do it again? After all...isn't that why their called 'vows'? Doesn't that mean you swear/affirm/promise to the other person to be and do all those things you repeated at your marriage ceremony?

I think its all nothing but fluff and its something couples want to do to perhaps re-establish something they may have lost. I don't kow...I could be off base on that but I never found it necessary to re-affirm my promises to my wife. Kept 'em so far these 25 years so it seems like an execise in futility.

Answer 3

It is a good idea to renew your vows, nothing is wrong with that. It all depend if both of you are willing to redo your marriage and perhaps better of than the first one. Take care of yourself and each other.