Family & Relationships - 13 September 2007

Been married almost 3 yrs, split up 2 mos ago. Wife left - sez its cause she couldn't stand me getting on her case about being irresponsible w/ our finances (creating unnecessary debt, hiding bills -- with no job), our family business (decided to drop out cuz I couldn't hold her hand thru every "issue") , and rearing her teen daughter.

Has since moved in with her dad, 90 miles away, and he literally helps her find ways to justify her crappy behavior. She makes agreements with me - mostly now over custody/visitation of our 2-yr old son - then finds excuses to break them if things are not working in her favor.

**we've spent 2 yrs already in family counseling, at my expense.**

i do love her but can't deal with the negligence. before she left i closed the joint accounts, but have been sending money for my son weekly. when we were together, she wouldn't really discuss issues, but now she is quite explosive about them (and 90 miles away -- coward!)

where to go with this?

2007-09-13 04:01:04 · 16 answers · asked by Shell Answer Man 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I met this guy online. We met at his place for the first time (stupid I know). We had a great time. He put me on his top friends for Myspace. This was Sunday. I have talked to him briefly Mon and Tues on AIM. No phone calls since then. And now there's nothing. No calls, no instant messages, no texts. He removed me from is top friends. Um what changed? I've barely talked to him since Sunday when all was fine (it's thurs) how could he have changed how he felt about me without talking to me? Any ideas? Thanks so much.

2007-09-13 03:57:18 · 32 answers · asked by Future Cat Lady 3 in Singles & Dating

How many of you would like to reverse roles?

Men stay at home cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry while women work, pay the bills, and have poker night once a week.

Nevermind this new era where couples work together on all this, just want to know how many men and women would volunteer for this role reversal?

2007-09-13 03:57:17 · 19 answers · asked by sexynsmartxoxo 2 in Singles & Dating

Okay people: My g/f has informed me last night that I don't make love, I only F**K. I have only been with 2 women so I'm not sure even what it is. Could some one please give me a crash course. I would be truly greatfull, please be serious.Mike

2007-09-13 03:56:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

it is normal ?

2007-09-13 03:56:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've tried having relationships but they never work out but it's not me cuz I am devoted to being a good BF(maybe too much, idk) I feel I am destined to be alone and to just stick to one night stands. Any opinions welcome....

2007-09-13 03:56:06 · 19 answers · asked by Nic 4 in Singles & Dating

Why are men more interested in you when you have your period??

2007-09-13 03:55:56 · 17 answers · asked by loverforever150 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm thinking of my town, I wouldn't know if the person living next door is a pedaphile. You know of any? What's happened to them? They get bashed? What are the tell tale signs of one? None I'm guessing, but what would you do to a pedaphile? I'd put pics all around town announicing it to everyone and run them outta town!!!

2007-09-13 03:53:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

What should i do. I really love sex but i feel if i dont stop, i'll end up in a situation that i dont need to be in. is their any way i can control me sexual cravings?
My boyfriend is fine with my sexual needs but i feel he is frightened by it....
HELP!!!

2007-09-13 03:52:03 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband told me sometimes he is out on the street walking the dog and he can see me step out of the bath tub. He says he loves it, and sometimes when I take a shower and he is in the bed already he is staring at me through the door. Its flattering but sometimes annoying. I kind of went off one time, to please give me privacy once in a while. Since then he doesn't do it. I love my husband and our sex life is amazing but I feel like we should be entitled to our private moments. Am I wrong for feeling this way towards him?

2007-09-13 03:50:29 · 44 answers · asked by Maria 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I have tried to explain how important it is to me but obviously it is not to him. I am always the initiator and I've tried many different strategies to get him in the "mood". I don't know what else to do.

2007-09-13 03:48:14 · 9 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my wife and i have been separated for 3 months. because she said she was unhappy, i wasnt in her heart anymore and she couldnt be intimate with me also, that since i had a kid she couldnt be first although i said i would make them both first when called for. i have tried for 2 months to work on things, she has declined saying just one week ago it seems easier to just sign papers and move on. now she sends me an email saying she respects i gave her space, she has been thinking alot and wants to meet next week so we could have another week to think....what does she want to meet about? after last weeks email it was as if she was done....????
we dated for 2 years b4 marriage, one she pushed all along...

2007-09-13 03:46:35 · 11 answers · asked by amayseng 3 in Marriage & Divorce

no need to pontificate... just a clean list...
really reminds me of the issues surrounding integration... their was no REASON per se that black people couldn't eat in restaurants along side white people... yet their was tremendous opposition... so... i'm trying to get some real REASON that gay marriage is a THREAT to american society... RIGHT WING...THIS IS YOUR CHANCE.!!... and if you just post some meaningless hate crap you'll expose yourselves and help to further my point... so please feel free...

2007-09-13 03:46:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Is it just me? That I find Divorce Super Extremely Scary!!! OR do other people are just as scared as me???

2007-09-13 03:43:36 · 26 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Two years ago my ex-wife passed away. At the time my kids lived with her but now live with me. My wife now and the ex never got along. Anyway, here is my question. I have alot of old photos that are of my kids and their mother. My kids would like to have a picture or two to have around in their rooms. But my wife doesn't want them out in the open(I feel this way too). I thought that once they(the kids) were out on their own that they could have whatever pics they wanted. Is it wrong to do this? Very confused on this sometimes. Please help!!!!

2007-09-13 03:42:22 · 13 answers · asked by Scott R 2 in Family

2007-09-13 03:41:46 · 9 answers · asked by jayney 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I recently slept over at my friend's house for a couple days, it was the first time I had seen her in three years. When I was about to get in the car and leave, her mom bursted out, "I love you."

2007-09-13 03:41:17 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

can i count on you to be there for me, even if i dont know you.
i want my happy ending now

2007-09-13 03:41:11 · 17 answers · asked by nathanslover07 2 in Singles & Dating

I hope you like this one as much,
As the others that are equally true.
Because I want to tell you why,
Why it is that I love you.

2007-09-13 03:39:04 · 11 answers · asked by sajmir 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am getting married in may and I my brides maids dresses are fuscia and I am having bright color flowers such as yellow, orange, pink, and several others. But not sure what color to put the groomsmen in. I know they don't want to be in pink. Any Ideas?

2007-09-13 03:38:32 · 20 answers · asked by Help??? 2 in Weddings

2007-09-13 03:36:03 · 29 answers · asked by worriedmum 1 in Marriage & Divorce

since i was 13 years old, towards teenage, my parents, especially my mum guide me extremely strict.. she won't let me go out at night after 10pm.. the most serious is, she don't like girls mixing with me??? i really don't understand parent this aday... can anyone help me to solve this problem?? should i suffer this until the end of my life?? T_T huh..

2007-09-13 03:33:18 · 6 answers · asked by greenrock 1 in Family

I lost my mom this past February and I am not sure I can handle the holidays this year. It was bad enough, I lost her just before my 30th birthday, right after my daughter was born and right my mom just turned 48. I feel so sad all the time thinking about it. I cry all the time.. How do you deal with it? I don't know how to celebrate when all I am is sad.
You can say I do not have a father, he is Australia living with his family over there and has not come to USA since he left in 1996. I have two younger sisters and they are thinking the same way I am.

2007-09-13 03:30:11 · 7 answers · asked by livinlife 3 in Family

Here's the story. I found this question. Please read the final answers, the rest doesn't matter.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjqDI4c2WklVIdxG_N9vtrUIxgt.;_ylv=3?qid=20070911105945AAPN4xQ
The man lost his genitals. So, would you still stay with your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife in those situations:
1 If this would happen to you
2. If this would happen to he/she.

2007-09-13 03:30:06 · 15 answers · asked by Fr0z3nByt3 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have never been called rich but am I???

My mom has a BMW 5 series + a merchedes convertable thing

My dad has a BMW (but not as big as my moms) and range rover

They bought my grandpa a clk merchedes. My house is roughly 6500 sq feet on 5 acres. Everyone in my town lives like this.

Extras details. We have a movie theater and a pool. We go to italy every year and to our beach house every weekend.

My brother brought back pictures when he went to help with hurricane katrina for school. I saw how there living conditions are and now I feel unworthy of everything I have. Am I living a good life? By the way I no I have 0 money and my parents have the money.

2007-09-13 03:28:46 · 19 answers · asked by cami121312 2 in Family

do they not care about the feelings of girls or women out there... or do they just "want" something from us
where are all the good guys at?
are there any in WILMINGTON, NORTH CAROLINA 18 and below?

2007-09-13 03:27:49 · 15 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Singles & Dating

I am not a morning person. When I get up in the morning I am pissed at the whole world. I want to get up, shower and get ready for work without being bothered (1/2 hr). My husband of 12 years cannot get this through his head. For the first 11 1/2 years he was asleep in the mornings so I didn't have to deal with him. Now he insists on getting up every weekday morning trying to have conversations with me as I am getting ready for work. I have tried to be very nice and tell him that I will talk to him after I have finished getting ready. I have told him it has nothing to do with the way I feel about him. He will not listen to me. Every morning we go through the same thing. If I don't answer a question as politely or am not as chipper as he wants then he gets all hurt. I ask him why he puts me and himself through this every morning and he says "I just want to talk to you". Should I pretend to be miss sunshine just to make him happy even though he doesnt respect my feelings.

2007-09-13 03:27:40 · 21 answers · asked by golfinggoddess 2 in Marriage & Divorce

When it comes to telling your partner about past relationships, things you regreted doing and so fourth do you think it's best to tell them everything to the exact detail or thing that you think they only need to hear and know.

What have you done in situations like this?
Do you feel comfortable that they only know what you'v told them?
Do you think that it's best that they only know certain details to spare the hurt and pain?
Please state your experiences.

Thanks

2007-09-13 03:27:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I posted before re my daughter and her issues with my boyfriend. After discussion with her why she is upset with some things in our situation, she said he's too chummy with his ex for her.

My question is...how chummy is too chummy?

They do have a child together. They also work together. So there are ties that binds.

I have had difficulties with her asking him to do things, like call the Weed man for her, or go to the house to let painters in, or flooring men or the landscaper, etc. They went out to buy a bike for the son together then ended up having supper at a restaurant all three of them.

I know in this day and age of divorces being so common, that it is encouraged that 'exes' get along for the sake of the children, but are there boundaries and guidelines? I know couples where the new wife and the old wife are friends.

What constitutes 'getting along' and what is 'too chummy'?

2007-09-13 03:25:32 · 18 answers · asked by xxxxi 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year, when we first started dating we use to spend an enormous amount of time together like 4-5 times a week, for generally the entire day. That was when we lived about 20 min. away from each other. Then in August. he moved, and is now 5 mins. away, and initially I was so excited because I thought that would bring us even closer. Yet the thing is he didn't only move closer to me, but all his friends live in that area also. So now it's like he's spending a lot of time with them as well as me, but because I was so use to getting all his attention, I realized I was jealous. So I wrote down everything about how I was feeling, about being jealous, about how he doesn't make as much of an effort with me as he use to, how because I feel so insecure now I feel psycho and obsessive etc. Then yesterday he found the letter and read it, then he’s like I was right, you want to take over all my time.

2007-09-13 03:24:56 · 10 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Singles & Dating