Family & Relationships - 13 September 2007

i mean seriously every night? i would understand once in a while. we have intercourse every night and he still dreams about it every night and i wonder who he is dreaming about cus i know he is not dreaming about me everytime. i get jelous but he says he dont remember his dreams but i hear him moaning so i wake him up. i feel insecure cause of it. what do u think?

2007-09-13 07:34:40 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hey, my marriage begun on a bad note. He was still in love with somebody even when we were married. He always entertained galz in our marital house and allowed them to dock in any time they felt like. We do not have great conversation, he hates personal conversation and so we do not bond. The sex is poor as he is done in 2 mins. He is not keen to seek for help inasmuch as I have told him that I do not get satisfied. He doesn't help much with housework and I work until I am too tired to think. He is off hand, and I do not feel loved at all even though he says he does. He doesn't discuss cash or property or other plans and he has been deceitful in the past with our property and even money. He doesnt listen to my opinions and I am just like one of the kids many times.
Problem is I am getting attracted to any man who shows me some kind of affection. I am so sexually starved, I just do not know what to do.....I feel like I am going to cheat

2007-09-13 07:34:06 · 20 answers · asked by lavagal.com 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I started seeing this guy who I feel in love with. I had a bad day at work one day. I call him told him i quit my job and i was going to the bar to get drunk. Keep in mind this is a long distance relationship. We have been seing each other for 5 years. Any way I met up with a old friend at the bar and the rest is history. I told him i had sex with a old friend. Do you think I should have told him. Now he is mad me. Which I understand but, should i throw away 5 years over 1 night.

2007-09-13 07:30:11 · 1 answers · asked by GIN&SIN 1 in Singles & Dating

my cousin ust to do that alot but i dont know if she does it anymore. her friend did it once and she ended up dead.

2007-09-13 07:28:34 · 35 answers · asked by **prIncEsS gIrL*** 2 in Family

2007-09-13 07:25:40 · 12 answers · asked by Savanna 6 in Singles & Dating

A lot of women seem concerned so lets see if I can help..Why do men watch porn-Simple we like it, most men do,I'm not saying it's right or wrong it's just the way it is...Why do we like it-simple it's fantasy for us,just brain candy...Do we feel less about our mates when we watchit-NO!! again it's fantasy..
Why would we watch it if you are willing to take care of us-Simple we want you to watch it with us..In our mind we think that you will see things on the screen get excited and want to do it to..I know silly, but as I said I'm just trying to tell you the truth I never said it made sence...Know assuming you are open and honest about sex and enjoy it, your sex life should not suffer from it..You need to make him talk to you and ask the tuff questions//Your sex life should not suffer because of a video...Lets face it some porn is wrong.

2007-09-13 07:25:36 · 20 answers · asked by Bill 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance and I were going over our wedding plans. We had both aggreed on 40 people max. I already scaled back my list, but now we are coming up with his list and it will put us over. When I mentioned this to him, he mentioned just getting married at the courthouse and having a recption later. I really don't want to go that route. I have considered scaling back my list more as I have some aunts, uncles, and cousins on it. My total guest count not including myself, him or the three kids is 18. He doesn't have any aunts, uncles, or cousins on his list, so according to Emily Post I shouldn't either, but that means I would only have my Matron of Honor her husband and 5 kids as I have no siblings; my grandparents are dead and my mom is not invited. Should I offer to cut my list to accomidate his even if it means having no family there except the one I am marrying into? He has not asked me to but we need to cut the guest list and they are so far away that they probally won't come..

2007-09-13 07:20:10 · 11 answers · asked by moonprincess_serenity2000 2 in Weddings

We got married after being together for 2 years. We had a great wedding and after 2 months, she pops up to me with she doesnt think she wants to be married. She is 23 and she says she didnt get a chance to experience other stuff before she got married.

2007-09-13 07:19:18 · 61 answers · asked by Lost2008 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-13 07:19:15 · 11 answers · asked by DejaVu 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I think highly of myself but the other day i approaced the guy that i had been hangin with and he told me he would never date me cause i was cuban. He told me i was drop dead gorgeous but just couldnt do it cause i was cuban! this weirded me out alot because one i wasnt trying to date him we are just friends and two what do you think he means by this?
hes not raciast

2007-09-13 07:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by SWEETONE 1 in Singles & Dating

my bf and i have been going out for a year so it was pretty serious, and we decided to take a break for two months. and we were going to get back together but now he has a gf and its over between us. Does anyone know any good break up songs to help me get over the break up? my favorite is she cant love you by destiny's child but i was wondering if there were any other good songs

2007-09-13 07:16:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-13 07:11:46 · 25 answers · asked by Florida-Fan1 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I had a rough child hood, and have held so many things in for at least 17 years, They have followeed me thru the years, am I able to press charges against my stepdad, even thou it has been so long,

2007-09-13 07:05:41 · 11 answers · asked by ouch 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I heard this on a jewelry store radio ad for, you guessed it...The Ring. The store sold a wide array of designs so you could allegedly find a "unique" (i,e., less likely to be duplicated by anyone you'll meet) piece.

When Miss 'Zilla's haughty tones issued the "I don't want what everyone else is wearing" statement, I immediately started hoping the groom would pull a male version of the Runaway Bride. This poor sap is going to go in debt up to his eyeballs for her One Of A Kind (not) sparkler. Oy vey. Run, groom, run.

Is this the prevailing attitude today? I Want What I Want Because I'm Worth It?

2007-09-13 07:04:47 · 15 answers · asked by Bill 6 in Weddings

we r getting married very soon, but im afraid to tell him about my past bc i dont want to feel vulnerable and i dont want him to think less of me. well, i grew up in an orphanage and i lived with an abusive alcoholic step father for 6 years. i also was abandoned by my father. im afraid to tell him those things since he thinks very highly of me. am a very nice person and i never let those past experiences change me, but i dont want to feel like i have lost my respect..

2007-09-13 07:04:33 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He works but I seem to pay for EVERYTHING while I am raising my son (not his). Just know it will crush him. Need some advice.

2007-09-13 07:04:06 · 6 answers · asked by suzi J 1 in Singles & Dating

Kissing keeps the heart young.*

2007-09-13 07:03:44 · 3 answers · asked by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have found that men say they prefer a certain quality but when it comes to actually chosing..they go for the total opposite....now what is it
blonde or brunette?
another question
long hair or short hair?

2007-09-13 07:02:34 · 56 answers · asked by red_klinik 2 in Singles & Dating

Looking for gems, time-tested specifics, techniques and activities that worked for you on how to better raise a son.

2007-09-13 07:01:51 · 8 answers · asked by Level 7 is Best 7 in Family

Hey, I was at the library and I see this boy named Thomas. Every day during summer vacation. We're friends. But when i desperately need to call my mom for a ride home. (I don't have a cell phone, go ahead call me a loser) I asked him If i could use his phone. He gladly loaned me the phone to call my mom. I thought it would be a good opprotunity to call him when anything's up. I went home, checked my caller ID with the exact time and date I called. It was definately his number. But when I wanted to call him. I was really scared. Before i could dial,. I hang up. We're friends, nothing further than that?

Ladies how can i get over my fear of calling him? I'm real scared.

2007-09-13 07:01:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Kissing keeps the heart young.*

2007-09-13 06:58:45 · 1 answers · asked by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 in Singles & Dating

All of a sudden he thinks I'm cheating on him with his friend. When only a month ago he was comfortable with us being friends. He's been living out of town for a couple of months now and he's been acting jelouse, which has never happened in the past 6 years or so. Is he cheating on me?

2007-09-13 06:51:52 · 6 answers · asked by jibber_x 2 in Singles & Dating

I am going to this wedding in a couple weeks and I have a cute white dress that I would love to wear but I have heard that only the bride wear white. Is it ok for me too?

2007-09-13 06:49:09 · 28 answers · asked by Amanda P 3 in Weddings

My husband and I seperated amicably 3 years ago. We remained friends and I paid him half of what the profits would have been if we sold the house (which wasnt very much at the time as we had a big mortgage n little equity but was still 5 figures) in return for the house to be transfered over into my solo name. He has paid maintenance regular and we have had no other problems. UNTIL he met a girl (8 months ago) she has made him apply for divorce (we werent bothered about this as none of us want to remarry) and in the divorce settlement he wants half the house! which has gone up in value since i paid him of as i have done a lot of work on the house and obviously paid more off the mortgage and have built up more equity! I realise we should have got divorced straight away then this would not have happened but I didnt think he would ever get so horrible and nasty. He says hes going to get everything he can of me and that he was too nice when we first split! Help!!!

2007-09-13 06:48:43 · 37 answers · asked by Mands 3 in Marriage & Divorce

that's pretty much the question. so, basically: have you at one time or another broke up with your partner, then later (years, months, weeks later...ect), get married.

2007-09-13 06:44:54 · 11 answers · asked by happypants 3 in Marriage & Divorce

men ladies?.........why don;t you admit that you have no respect for women...they're jsut sex objects to you and the ugly/flat ones are ****?........why don;'t you admit tht u cheat all the time especially during bachelor parties, strip clubs, (& tht these things are degrading to women) etc......

.or tht you're only sweet to get some.....or tht u just get married just for food/sex......or that hot girls are important to u than the 1 u luv and u will choose to be w/ them in heaven not your parter(and that you'd even do it now if you could).......why don;t you admit that you;re pretty much like the frat boys in borat?

or that you don't care about our feelings and just want us to get down and give u bjs? or better yet instead of hurting the good girls' feelings why don;'t you just screw around the sluts?

or that you'd rather be a player and screw girls around rather than be w/ the person u love (here and in the after life) but choose a wife/gf just for sex/food?

2007-09-13 06:42:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I got a voicemail from my other half on the phone saying "its an emergency, call me back ASAP." So I was on my way to a meeting and I stopped went back to my desk and called him and he says "my brother got arrested and he is facing 3 felony charges". I talked to him about it and before I hung up I said I wish you wouldn't have said it was an emergency and before I could even finish saying "because I thought our son, his daughter, him or someone was hurt" he started yelling at me and saying it is important and all kinds of stuff and then hung up on me. I text him saying don't be mad I was just saying I thought someone was injured and it wasn't really an emergency and it scared me. I said I couldn't do anything about his brother being in jail. He sent me back that all his family is important and that I never should have said that and I didn't have any idea how pissed he was. So at my break when I could talk I tried to call him twice and he wouldn't answer then at lunch I tried to...

2007-09-13 06:40:52 · 15 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family

I've always had that fear. Instead of asking out the women that I find attractive, I wait until I know a women is attracted to me, and ask them out.
I do know most of it is the thought of being rejected. I'm usually quick witted and fun, but get tounge tied and quiet when it comes to the women I would like to take out

2007-09-13 06:39:17 · 2 answers · asked by david 4 in Singles & Dating

i really hope he doesnt see this!
i dont know how to handle the situation with him. I felt like i have known him so long. usually he is so cocky he laughs and stuff but i have pretty much given up on getting him to show any real emotion. he has never even told me that he loves me even though i know he is crazy about me like i am about him. anyway somehow the topic of rape came up and i revealed to him that i was raped when i was younger. He was like "oh" and got real quite and just acted kinda normal but wierd. 2 days went past and he was just always really quite. then he just huggd me really hard when i was making him a sandwich and i noticed his eyes were water i was like omg was wrong and he said he couldnt believe someone would do that to me because i was so nice such a caring person. i thought it was really sweet and knew for sure he really loved me but the problem is he wont do me anymore, he says he doesnt want to hurt me anymore..now what?!?!

2007-09-13 06:38:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married for 4 years now. Our relationship has been very rocky, like a roller coaster. My husband has been physically, mentally and verbally abuse towards me. I have left him 2 for his abuse behavior, but have come back to him because I believed that he really wanted to change and he has changed over the past 2 years. He no longer physically or mentally abuses me. However, every now and then, he does verbally abuse me. He has had a very rough life which has led to him having a lot of traumatic issues. He has anger problems and a very short temper. Together we have overcome a lot of his issues. His jealousy, insecureness of himself and our relationship and his low self esteem, I could go on with the amount of mental issue’s he’s had.
Unfortunately, his anger is the one thing that has been the most difficult and the issue we are still struggling with. The last time he had an outburst was about 2 or 3 wks ago. Here’s the thing, I get up at 5am, everyday because we only have 1 vehicle at this time and I have to drive him to work and then drive myself to work every day. We end up getting home around 7pm ever night. I leave my house at 5am, work all day, after work I have to pick him up then drive home ( we live 30 minutes away from his work and 1hr away from mine, so I commute 1½ hrs to work and the same back home) Anyhow, I get home tired from working, driving and because of a shoulder injury I have which cause daily pain. I have a tear in my rotator cuff and any movement hurts my entire hand). That day we got home around 7pm, as soon as we got home, he asked me to make dinner. I told him I was tired to just give me some time to rest and I watched some tv in order to relax. I watched TV for 1hr, in which time he kept bugging me about cooking. After an hour and after my shoulder pain had diminished a little so I started cooking (8pm). What he wanted for dinner takes a couple of hours to cook so around 9:45pm or so, I checked the food and it needed about 10 minutes more to cook. At that time he made a comment that if I would have made the food when he asked it would have been ready by now. I replied to him, not with any type of aggravated tone or anything, that if he could please understand that I was tired. I worked all day and he doesn’t even let me be home for 5 minutes when he already wants me to start cooking and cleaning. Suddenly he got so angry and started yelling and saying that if I wanted I could throw away the food. I told him that the could do what ever he wanted. He walked outside yelling that he was going to throw the food away (outside because I was barbecuing) he came back with an empty pot of food. He had thrown the food away. He started screaming, insulting me, telling me I was worthless as a wife, that I was lazy, calling me names, making derogatory remarks about me, he threatened to beat me up with the pott he had in his hand, he threatened me with my parents and my 10 year old sister’s life. He just went crazy and I was shocked. I didn’t yell at him back or anything, I just ignored him. The next day, he apologized and cried and said he didn’t know what to do, he tries so hard to not get angry, to not disrespect me and insult me, but he doesn’t know why he’s like that. He accepted he is wrong, that he has problems (at least he’s always accepted this), he also said that if I wanted to leave him, he understands why. He knows he doesn’t deserve me, but he doesn’t know what to do. I think part of his problem is that he hates himself so much because of everything he’s done to me through out the years, which he knows I haven’t deserved it.
Like I said, he has changed, and a lot. But I just don’t know what to do. I can’t handle this anymore. This relationship has brought me so much suffering. My life before I met him was happy, full of life, family and friends. Now I don’t have any friends and I don’t talk to my family because they hate him. We moved states (from California to Arkansas) so that we could try by ourselves to solve our problems. I am just so agitated, depressed, confused, sad, and most of all lonely. My family was my entire life, and without them I feel lost. I feel so depressed because of all of the compromises and sacrifices I have made in order to make this relationship work. For everything I have tolerated and forgiven. I lost interest in having intimacy with him and I don’t know how to say this to him because it will hurt him tremendously and I know he’ll say its because I don’t love him anymore, which to be honest, I doubt my love for him every single day that goes by. I don’t even know if I love him anymore. I’m always thinking of everything he’s done to me. I miss my friends, my family, California. I am always asking myself if I should leave him for good, but I’m scared of throwing this marriage away. I don’t know if its worth it anymore. I miss having fun and enjoying life. I always think that instead of going through all of this crap I could be home in CA, going out, having fun with my friends and family, like I used. We are only 22 years old. We should be enjoying life. I don’t know why its so hard for me to walk away. I think that after everything I have endured with him, he killed my love for him. I still love him, but more of a friend love, not the way your suppose to love a husband. I have so much resentment, for what he’s done and on myself for being so forgiving and taking his abuse.

2007-09-13 06:36:10 · 32 answers · asked by spaced 1 in Marriage & Divorce